| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: [1] 2 |
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Is it wrong
if I do not go to my holiday party tonight? I am just not in the mood, and it is in Manhattan. They have busses to bring us back and forth, but I just cant deal with the trip, being far from home when I am worried about my mom, etc. I also heard that the day after the party is a huge "buzz fest", with people making comments about who drank what, who was talking to who, etc. I have no time for that crap.
|
Posted 12/4/06 8:52 AM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
Member since 8/06 11613 total posts
Name:
L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)
|
Re: Is it wrong
I wouldn't go, sounds like a hassle. Tell your husband to go buy you a bottle of wine and snuggle at home. That's always more fun, anyway.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 8:53 AM |
| |
|
Lisa
I'm a PANK!!!
Member since 5/05 22334 total posts
Name:
Professional Aunts No Kids
|
Re: Is it wrong
not at all....you have allot on your mind and sounds like you wouldnt have fun anyway.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 8:54 AM |
| |
|
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by LaurenExp
I wouldn't go, sounds like a hassle. Tell your husband to go buy you a bottle of wine and snuggle at home. That's always more fun, anyway.
A few girls who are NOT going to the party, are going local for dinner and drinks. I think I am going to go with them instead. 
|
| Posted 12/4/06 8:54 AM |
| |
|
Shanti
True love
Member since 6/05 12653 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Is it wrong
I wouldn't worry about it. You have a lot going on and I am sure your company will understand.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 8:55 AM |
| |
|
LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
Member since 8/06 11613 total posts
Name:
L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by LaurenExp
I wouldn't go, sounds like a hassle. Tell your husband to go buy you a bottle of wine and snuggle at home. That's always more fun, anyway.
A few girls who are NOT going to the party, are going local for dinner and drinks. I think I am going to go with them instead.
That sounds fantastic. I would DEFINITELY do that!! 
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:00 AM |
| |
|
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Re: Is it wrong
Honestly, they cannot force me to attend a party.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:01 AM |
| |
|
bklyngirl
COULD THIS BE MY YEAR??
Member since 6/05 15758 total posts
Name:
Gail
|
Re: Is it wrong
nothing would be wrong. i'm sure they would understand
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:01 AM |
| |
|
2PreciousBlessings
The Perfect Pair
Member since 5/06 19861 total posts
Name:
Best Wife & Mommy
|
Re: Is it wrong
Not all.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:02 AM |
| |
|
SweetestOfPeas
J'taime Paris!
Member since 3/06 32345 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Is it wrong
I never went to mine. well, I shouldn't say that. I did go for a few years and that's why I stopped going. Not a fan of watching my co-workers getting bombed and eating sub-standard food. I would rather be home with DH.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:06 AM |
| |
|
munchkinbugs
My little loves!
Member since 1/06 8093 total posts
Name:
Lisa
|
Re: Is it wrong
I hate company politics. But I think you can sit this one out.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:10 AM |
| |
|
skygirl
Our prayers were answered:)
Member since 6/05 4919 total posts
Name:
Erica
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by LaurenExp
I wouldn't go, sounds like a hassle. Tell your husband to go buy you a bottle of wine and snuggle at home. That's always more fun, anyway.
A few girls who are NOT going to the party, are going local for dinner and drinks. I think I am going to go with them instead.
That sounds like a better idea
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:13 AM |
| |
|
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Re: Is it wrong
I just have a feeling tomorrow I am going to be asked a million questions why I did not go. Plus, I am new here, and think it looks bad that I do not go to the first Holiday Party.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:14 AM |
| |
|
BabyAvocado
Happy New Year
Member since 5/05 17334 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Is it wrong
Being that this is your first holiday party with this company (is that right?) I would normally say that you should make an appearance, but I think you have enough going on in your life right now and don't need any added stress or hassle. Nothing wrong with not going at all. I would maybe skip drinks with the other girls though unless it won't seem like you are snubbing everyone else.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:14 AM |
| |
|
BikerGrl
Merry Christmas!
Member since 5/05 2875 total posts
Name:
It's not the destination....it's the journey!
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by LaurenExp
I wouldn't go, sounds like a hassle. Tell your husband to go buy you a bottle of wine and snuggle at home. That's always more fun, anyway.
A few girls who are NOT going to the party, are going local for dinner and drinks. I think I am going to go with them instead.
That sounds like a much better idea....you will be close to home & in a small group....much more relaxing! Enjoy the evening out
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:14 AM |
| |
|
2PreciousBlessings
The Perfect Pair
Member since 5/06 19861 total posts
Name:
Best Wife & Mommy
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
I just have a feeling tomorrow I am going to be asked a million questions why I did not go. Plus, I am new here, and think it looks bad that I do not go to the first Holiday Party.
Tell them you have emergency within your family or you can just personal matters.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:14 AM |
| |
|
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Re: Is it wrong
I too, think it looks bad if I dont go. My husband says go, and even my mom just said to go. 
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:16 AM |
| |
|
Moehick
Ready for the sun!
Member since 5/05 30339 total posts
Name:
Properly perfect™
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by LaurenExp
I wouldn't go, sounds like a hassle. Tell your husband to go buy you a bottle of wine and snuggle at home. That's always more fun, anyway.
A few girls who are NOT going to the party, are going local for dinner and drinks. I think I am going to go with them instead.
That sounds like the better time
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:22 AM |
| |
|
QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
Member since 5/05 13659 total posts
Name:
And If That Isn't A True Blue Miracle
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
I too, think it looks bad if I dont go. My husband says go, and even my mom just said to go.
you just started this job right?
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:26 AM |
| |
|
Ang-Rich
Beyond Compare
Member since 5/05 17988 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Is it wrong
Not wrong at all to skip it. I admit that I have been ditching my parties for a while now...just not into it and there is always so much I'd rather be doing...so I do.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:33 AM |
| |
|
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by HollaGirl
I too, think it looks bad if I dont go. My husband says go, and even my mom just said to go.
you just started this job right?
yes, in August.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:34 AM |
| |
|
baghag
:P
Member since 5/05 10278 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by HollaGirl
I too, think it looks bad if I dont go. My husband says go, and even my mom just said to go.
you just started this job right?
I'm leaning towards go, if you just started.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:35 AM |
| |
|
QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
Member since 5/05 13659 total posts
Name:
And If That Isn't A True Blue Miracle
|
Re: Is it wrong
IMO, it's not wrong
At the end of the day you have to do what's right for you and you have alot going on
That being said...
Public perception and being a part of the team and fraternizing is as important, if not more important than your actual performance. These companies look at these parties as a way to extend good will to their employees and to say thank you. If you've been there for a while and can't make the party - that's one thing.
But for your first year, when the new employee doesn't attend a social event that the heads throw, people notice. It may result in nothing - it may be seen as a snub. And sometimes, that stuff comes out in a review. Of course, it's not stated - they make up another reason. Every company is different. From what you say about the Tuesday buzzfest - it sounds like they'd notice.
If it were me, since it's your first party with this company, I'd suck it up and go
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:40 AM |
| |
|
HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
Member since 10/06 3308 total posts
Name:
Kristen
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
IMO, it's not wrong
At the end of the day you have to do what's right for you and you have alot going on
That being said...
Public perception and being a part of the team and fraternizing is as important, if not more important than your actual performance. These companies look at these parties as a way to extend good will to their employees and to say thank you. If you've been there for a while and can't make the party - that's one thing.
But for your first year, when the new employee doesn't attend a social event that the heads throw, people notice. It may result in nothing - it may be seen as a snub. And sometimes, that stuff comes out in a review. Of course, it's not stated - they make up another reason. Every company is different. From what you say about the Tuesday buzzfest - it sounds like they'd notice.
If it were me, since it's your first party with this company, I'd suck it up and go
You are right. I am going.
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:47 AM |
| |
|
Moehick
Ready for the sun!
Member since 5/05 30339 total posts
Name:
Properly perfect™
|
Re: Is it wrong
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by HollaGirl
I too, think it looks bad if I dont go. My husband says go, and even my mom just said to go.
you just started this job right?
yes, in August.
Oh then in this case I would say go
|
| Posted 12/4/06 9:47 AM |
| |
|
| Pages: [1] 2 |
