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It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
I knew this had been too easy- since DH and I have been together we've been alternating the holidays- this year we had Thanksgiving with my family so X-mas will be with his. Two years ago we spent X-mas Eve with my family and drove down on Christmas day to see his family (they are 3 hours away). I thought we'd do the same this year, go down to LI on the 24th, stay over and drive to see DH's family very early on Christmas day.
So last night DH's BIL calls and wants to talk to me. He says that DH's sister and mom are wondering if we'll be there on X-Mas Eve, and how long we'll be there, etc. It turns out that Christmas Eve was always the bigger day for them, though I never knew that. DH told them all a while back that we were only coming for Christmas day. DH's BIL hinted that it might be better if we come down for Christmas eve and then go back to LI on Christmas morning.
But now I feel a little bad- like I should re-arrange our plans. Though we'd get LESS time with DH's family if we did the 24th with them. Whereas we were going to stay down there till the 27th. I also feel a little annoyed that DH's BIL sort of put me in a bad spot.
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Posted 12/5/05 8:18 AM  |
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Redhead
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Re: It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
IMO i think that this works out great for you. Now you don't have to alternate X-mas anymore
Just stay at the in-laws of the eve and go to your parents on Xmas!
I would be happy ! And yes i would re-arrange
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| Posted 12/5/05 8:22 AM |
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Shanti
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Re: It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
Posted by Redhead
IMO i think that this works out great for you. Now you don't have to alternate X-mas anymore
Just stay at the in-laws of the eve and go to your parents on Xmas!
I would be happy ! And yes i would re-arrange
I agree. Good luck 
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| Posted 12/5/05 8:24 AM |
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Christine
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Re: It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
I think your DH put you in the bad spot by never mentioning Christmas Eve was the bigger event in his family. But I think it works out nicely that you now celebrate Christmas Eve with the in-laws and Christmas Day with your family. 
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| Posted 12/5/05 8:52 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
Posted by Redhead
IMO i think that this works out great for you. Now you don't have to alternate X-mas anymore
Just stay at the in-laws of the eve and go to your parents on Xmas!
I would be happy ! And yes i would re-arrange
I agree. If both our families were near by this would be ideal for us because with my family Christmas Eve is the bigger event, and with DH's family it's Christmas Day.
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| Posted 12/5/05 9:20 AM |
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MrsJ
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Re: It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
Posted by Redhead
IMO i think that this works out great for you. Now you don't have to alternate X-mas anymore
Just stay at the in-laws of the eve and go to your parents on Xmas!
I would be happy ! And yes i would re-arrange
I agree.
We do this every year - see DHs family on Xmas Eve since its a bigger day for them. We see my family Xmas day. It's nice not to have to split the holiday anymore.
We host Thanksgiving so we can see both families that day and not travel all day.
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| Posted 12/5/05 9:38 AM |
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juju
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Re: It wouldn't be the holidays without drama!
For me it depends:
If Xmas eve is the bigger day to celebrate for your family, then i would alternate holidays every year including Thanksgiving.
Eg. This year:
Thanksgiving with your family
Christmas Day with your family;
Next year:
Thanksgiving with his family
Christmas Day with His family.
If Christmas day is the bigger day for your family, then it works out for you for the upcoming years. YOu'll always spend x-mas with your family and x-mas eve with his. And all you have to do is alternate Thanksgiving.
ETA: I know how it is annoying for your BIL to try to dictate to you what you should do. But, feelings aside do what is best for your situation.
Message edited 12/5/2005 1:01:07 PM.
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| Posted 12/5/05 12:54 PM |
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