With whose side do you celebrate holidays more?

Since my husband's mother lives in New Mexico, we predominantly celebrate our holidays with my family.

I'm not sure it would be much different if my MIL lived in NY, because his family is much more spread out.

Just wondering what other people do...

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We actually alternate the major holidays. It causes less headaches than trying to run around all day since we all live pretty close together.

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we try to celebrate the holidays with family doesnt necessary have to be imidiate family. we used ot go to maryland to dh's cousin just to celebrate thanksgiving we were thankful for our family. every year we spend the holidays with different people soemtimes we just spend it by ourselves. To us holidays are a family thing and not only on thanksgiving should we be thankful for our family. just another one of our traditions.

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We usually spend more time with my family, but we always make an effort to go to his parent's (who are divorced)

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Since we definetly spend more time with my family, what we're trying to do is plan something with his family once a year. Last year his cousins hosted a big reunion that we went to. This year, we are planning a big party at our house (not counting our wedding). Like I said, his family is much bigger and more spread apart so it is much harder.

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Both the same pretty much - although we always have to go to my ILs house every time someone sneezes or something - we're there all the time.

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Since we are moving, it will just me me and DH. DH enjoys my immediate family, but beyond that it is too chaotic for him, so he stays home. I don't speak Spanish, and ILs are rude, so I don't go there for the holidays either. So we will be spending them together, solo..

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since dh's family is jewish and mine is not, it helps, so thanksgiving is the tough one.

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we share them equally - we figure we can do the running around now but I hope once we have children that we settle into a routine of alternating or something

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both of our families are in the tristate area so we split them 50/50 ... both sides are very understanding and for the smaller holiday's when it's only immediate family sometimes we share them together. DH & I are very lucky

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We try to split the holidays as evenly as we can...however, I find we spend more time and holidays with my family.

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I'd say ours are split. Although I live in Chicago and my family lives in NY, I go home for all the major holidays. I definitely go home for Thanksgiving. For xmas, I'll go to NY for a few days and then come back xmas day to eat dinner with ILs.

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We try to split it up evenly. We do Christmas eve with his fam, christmas day with mine, Thanksgiving we alternate each year, Easter is always his family.

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Mine because my parents live in the same state as us.

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Mostly my family.

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As much as we like to alternate, I have to say we spend more time with his family.

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Since our parents all live in the same town, we share most holidays with both sets together.

When my IL's eventually retire back to Poland, I am not sure what will happen. I will think we will see them every year, but don't know what holiday we will choose to share with them. I am guessing they will come visit us too.

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We celebrate equally with both..

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fw's family. But once we're married we will split them.

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since my mom passed away and then my grandparents we spen the majority of holidays with my inlaws but my Dad and brother usually come along

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Mine, but DH only has his mom in his immediate family- so we just bring her with us when we go out.

But, we usually do XMAS Eve and New Year's Day with his side. All the rest of the holidays are with me, him, his mom, and my family

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definitely my side.. we're both Jewish but DH's family doesn't celebrate any of the holidays.. we pretty much just alternate thanksgiving but now that we're married we'll probably all do one big thanksgiving (he has a small family) at my parents house.

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We try to split evenly. In laws live in Va. but we try to spend Holidays w/ them also.