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brownie
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Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
A friend of DH and I had a baby yesterday...
She sent the text out to people yesterday evening about the baby being or a boy or girl (they were team green) and the baby's name and stats. She had the baby in the morning and waited to tell her friends in the evening so her family (long distance ones too) could find out first
So last night I wrote on her FB wall, congrats can't wait to meet her, another mutual friend writes, oh great what is her name? So I hesitated for a second but figured that since most people got a text, it was ok to post
So I did, and a few other common friends wrote oh beautiful, congrats...ya know
Then another friend writes on "SHAME SHAME on you guys" b/c we wrote the baby's name...and how it was not our place to say anything about the baby's name
I was REALLY upset b/c I didn't want to take anything away from her having her first baby....I sent my friend who had the baby I'm SO SORRY message and deleted my FB post...she didn't care at all and was happy to share details about baby
I contemplated writing this post, but it keeps bothering me... but who is this other person to say shame shame to me? Even if she felt that way, she could have sent me a message privately to say take the post down. I would never want to take away that 'introduction' of baby to world....
I deleted my post but of course others have posted since mentioning the baby's name....no one else has been 'scolded' so far
I just am upset about the whole STUPID thing...being scolded from someone...DH says its not stress about it, it was kind of rude of her but to let it go
If you got this far, thanks for reading...maybe someone can point out what I did wrong?
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Posted 7/14/11 7:34 AM  |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
What you did wrong is get upset about what someone else said on FB, who isn't the baby's parent....
Maybe she said "Shame on you" since SHE wasn't on the "inner circle" of friends that got the text about the name, so she thought it wasn't announced. Just because SHE didn't get the memo doesn't mean nobody else can....
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| Posted 7/14/11 7:39 AM |
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babylove628
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
You did nothing wrong and your friend who had the baby agrees so I wouldn't sweat it! But that other person needs to mind their own business, who is she? The Facebook police ugh...some people r annoying!
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| Posted 7/14/11 7:40 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Honestly, I dont even write congratulations, the gender OR the name on FB unless the parent has already posted it -- I know it was important to me to announce on FB AND I didnt want to announce until I was sure my family in Italy knew.
HOWEVER, it was not this random person's place to say anything to you. . . but just let it go at this point what can ya do?
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| Posted 7/14/11 7:41 AM |
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brownie
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Posted by Tilde
Honestly, I dont even write congratulations, the gender OR the name on FB unless the parent has already posted it -- I know it was important to me to announce on FB AND I didnt want to announce until I was sure my family in Italy knew.
HOWEVER, it was not this random person's place to say anything to you. . . but just let it go at this point what can ya do?
I hear what you're saying...
I guess I'm annoyed that others have postes since (like her close friends) and no one has said anything like shame on you...and friend who had baby will most likely not post an "introduction" on FB...I think she feels ambivalent about it.
I just wish this other person sent me a message privately...and more tactfully. I mean "SHAME SHAME" is just unnecessary. I felt horrible and deleted right away.
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| Posted 7/14/11 7:51 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
I don't think you did anything wrong
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| Posted 7/14/11 8:46 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Posted by GoldenRod
What you did wrong is get upset about what someone else said on FB, who isn't the baby's parent....
Maybe she said "Shame on you" since SHE wasn't on the "inner circle" of friends that got the text about the name, so she thought it wasn't announced. Just because SHE didn't get the memo doesn't mean nobody else can....
THIS ^^^^^
One thing I've noticed on FB is that it's just an online high school of sorts.. there are people that CONSTANTLY message or write/post sh!t on my wall and mind you, I NEVER had that type of relationship AT ALL with these people in ANY WAY! some of them were just classmates and not people I ever really had any communication with and from the looks on my page, you'd think we were BFF lol
Don't sweat it.. I'd just write it off to that other person being a jealous douche
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| Posted 7/14/11 8:58 AM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
regardless if you should or shouln't have (and that only you and your friend know. different strokes and all that) that OTHER person is an *******. she had NO right to call you out or make your feel bad.
screw her.
and congrats to your friend!
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:04 AM |
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Posted by Ophelia
regardless if you should or shouln't have (and that only you and your friend know. different strokes and all that) that OTHER person is an *******. she had NO right to call you out or make your feel bad.
screw her.
and congrats to your friend!
ITA!
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:17 AM |
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8ternity
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Posted by CrankyPants
I don't think you did anything wrong
Same here...don't let it get to you.
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:23 AM |
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Posted by jam11308
Posted by Ophelia
regardless if you should or shouln't have (and that only you and your friend know. different strokes and all that) that OTHER person is an *******. she had NO right to call you out or make your feel bad.
screw her.
and congrats to your friend!
ITA!
i also agree with this
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:27 AM |
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jambalady
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
The only thing that matters is that your friend (the new mom) is not upset.
Don't stress about the other person who made the rude comment!
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:33 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
That person is an ahole. Bottom line.
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:37 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
As long as the family wasn't upset, I wouldn't think twice about it.
I missed the text that my nephew was born & yes was annoyed reading about it on LIF (I check my computer before my phone). But, it's the parents prerogative to inform anyone the way they see fit. Sometimes technology sucks.
Personally, while texts are easier, I think a phone call is best.
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:38 AM |
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brownie
Baby #1 is here!
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Thanks all
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| Posted 7/14/11 9:49 AM |
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memi7206
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Re: Kind of a vent...well maybe you can tell me if I'm wrong?
Posted by GoldenRod
What you did wrong is get upset about what someone else said on FB, who isn't the baby's parent....
Maybe she said "Shame on you" since SHE wasn't on the "inner circle" of friends that got the text about the name, so she thought it wasn't announced. Just because SHE didn't get the memo doesn't mean nobody else can....
agreed.
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