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Rycois
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LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
So I posted on Monday that I wanted to ask my boss to work a day/wk from home - when he's not here in the office. I was strategically trying to not do it too close to the end of the year so it won't affect my bonus, but I just started back to FT 9/15.
Anyway, I went ahead and did it thinking worst that can happen is he'll say no and at least I won't feel guilty as a mommy that I didn't at least ask.
So, I pled my case Monday afternoon. His reaction was, "let me think about it, I'm inclined to do it, but let me think about it". To this I responded, "I know it's not your problem, but with the commute I am seeing my son for an hour a day - so anything you can do would help". I explained my son would still be enrolled in full time daycare so there would never be an issue of "you said I didn't have to be in on Thursday so I don't have childcare arranged" if something comes up.
Anyway, as I walked out of his office he said, "I know, it's hard". So while I was discouraged that he didn't just OK it right then and there, I at least felt he was sympathetic (perhaps b/c my voice cracked as I pled my case and he may have thought I'd start crying right then and there  ).
My guess is he wanted to run it by his wife who unfortunately is not a mother herself and not as sympathetic to these situations.
Anyway, he hasn't brought it up again to me since then and we've talked several times.
Should I let it go and let it rest? I don't want to push it but now I'm feeling like I'm in purgatory and being tortured.
UPDATE (or lack there of):
So it's now over a week since my request and I haven't gone back into my boss b/c he is avoiding me and being a little rude to me ever since then. Things he would normally discuss with me he's asking the woman who supports me (she filled in while I was gone). And when he does speak to me directly he seems to have a chip on his shoulder. So, I feel like he's just being rude and avoiding me so I don't follow-up on my request. Should I just assume this is a No? I don't think he forgot about it - since it's pretty obvious he's avoiding me.
I still have some vacation time left for this year - do you think, since it seems quite obvious he's not going for my proposal, I should submit a written request for random days off to get my day a wk here and there?
Message edited 10/7/2008 3:21:53 PM.
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leighla
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
I would give it a full week then ask if he's had time to consider.
Good luck!
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| Posted 10/1/08 12:03 PM |
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by leighla
I would give it a full week then ask if he's had time to consider.
Good luck!
ITA. And good for you for saying something to him and asking.
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| Posted 10/1/08 12:04 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
I would give him sometime, but I'm sure it sucks waiting.
I hope he says yes , as a working Mom I know what you go thru when you don't see your child as much as you would like
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| Posted 10/1/08 12:05 PM |
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RM23
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
I missed your post on this yesterday, but Im so glad you went for it....you cant predict what will happen, and there is no sense in wondering. I am very ant the "what ifs" Anyway, hopefully hell get back to you by the end of the week, and then if not, i would definately try and revisit the issue on monday. I know its hard!!
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| Posted 10/1/08 12:11 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by RM23
I missed your post on this yesterday, but Im so glad you went for it....you cant predict what will happen, and there is no sense in wondering. I am very ant the "what ifs" Anyway, hopefully hell get back to you by the end of the week, and then if not, i would definately try and revisit the issue on monday. I know its hard!!
I know - I feel like I had to ask, but now that he's "thinking" on it, I'm worried I screwed myself. I'm not quite sure what's to consider - yes or no buddy 
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| Posted 10/1/08 12:53 PM |
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
IMO, it sounds positive to me. When I asked to work from home one day a week my boss also said let me get back to you on it and came back and said yes to one day a week. It's been great.
If you don't hear anything by Tuesday morning I would mention it to him again. That will have given him a full week to "think it over." I don't think you're being pushy, you just want an answer on something you brought up. Just say to him, "BTW, have you had a chance to think about me working from home one day a week?"
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| Posted 10/1/08 1:44 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
UPDATE (or lack there of):
So it's now over a week since my request and I haven't gone back into my boss b/c he is avoiding me and being a little rude to me ever since then. Things he would normally discuss with me he's asking the woman who supports me (she filled in while I was gone). And when he does speak to me directly he seems to have a chip on his shoulder. So, I feel like he's just being rude and avoiding me so I don't follow-up on my request. Should I just assume this is a No? I don't think he forgot about it - since it's pretty obvious he's avoiding me.
I still have some vacation time left for this year - do you think, since it seems quite obvious he's not going for my proposal, I should submit a written request for random days off to get my day a wk here and there? Maybe he'll feel better about a day a wk if he knows it's my time, not his? 
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| Posted 10/7/08 3:16 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by SweetCaroline
UPDATE (or lack there of):
So it's now over a week since my request and I haven't gone back into my boss b/c he is avoiding me and being a little rude to me ever since then. Things he would normally discuss with me he's asking the woman who supports me (she filled in while I was gone). And when he does speak to me directly he seems to have a chip on his shoulder. So, I feel like he's just being rude and avoiding me so I don't follow-up on my request. Should I just assume this is a No? I don't think he forgot about it - since it's pretty obvious he's avoiding me.
I still have some vacation time left for this year - do you think, since it seems quite obvious he's not going for my proposal, I should submit a written request for random days off to get my day a wk here and there? Maybe he'll feel better about a day a wk if he knows it's my time, not his?
I think you should still approach him-like AP said-So did you want to discuss what we talked about last week. I mean how old is he Amazing
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| Posted 10/7/08 3:57 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by melijane
I mean how old is he Amazing
Umm, 85
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| Posted 10/7/08 4:01 PM |
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
If he was agreeable, he probably would have approached you about it by now. By him being short with you, it's his way of saying no IMO. I would let it go, especially if this is a place you want to continue working at 
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| Posted 10/7/08 4:17 PM |
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LadyH
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
hmmm
what do you do.
I'm only asking because I think I remember that you were an accountant as well.
If he is an accountant (or in the corporate field) you happened to ask right at quarter end and so close to yr. end - he is preoccupied esp. since he is a man. They dont get it at all.
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| Posted 10/7/08 4:34 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by Summerrluvv
If he was agreeable, he probably would have approached you about it by now. By him being short with you, it's his way of saying no IMO. I would let it go, especially if this is a place you want to continue working at
Right - I think he's being an @ss b/c he doesn't want me doing it.
SOoooo, do I submit a written request to use vacation time here and there over the rest of the year? It obviously won't help me after the New Year - but it will get me thru bonus time.
I have a limit on how much vacation time I transfer to the next year - so it's not like this time is worth saving.
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eroxgirl
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by SweetCaroline
Posted by melijane
I mean how old is he Amazing
Umm, 85
I'm wondering if he's thinking you're going to leave since you know that's happened there in the recent past... and you mentioned you're there the longest and he's old and he's who he is, he probably doesn't like change. Plus you know how much everyone works in that office.. I'm probably not making you feel better about the whole thing (sorry!) but that's what I'm getting based on his attitude.
And on a side note, I'm LMAO that I'm analyzing his personality based on what I know about him.
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| Posted 10/7/08 4:51 PM |
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Rycois
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
Posted by eroxgirl
And on a side note, I'm LMAO that I'm analyzing his personality based on what I know about him.
 Most people do.
If you're referring to BS, nah that he probably doesn't even know about since she reported to the CFO and he doesn't really deal with anyone outside of his immediate staff. I don't "think" he thinks I'm leaving, but if he was concerned about it wouldn't he just give me what I want to keep me? When I told him I was pg he was good about listening to what I wanted and I got away with a pretty good arrangement up until being back here FT recently.
I don't want to take advantage or ruin what I do have (no one says anything about the fact I get in at 10AM every morning) but I've put in a lot of time over the last 9 yrs and its payback time - JUST LET ME WORK FROM HOME 1 DAY A WK vent over
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| Posted 10/7/08 5:12 PM |
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julz33
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Re: LACK OF UPDATE (10/7) At what point should I revisit it? Work question?
I would still ask. What do you have to lose? Just ask if he had time to consider your request, and you woul dlike to try it out. Say you will see how it works for the company before making it a permanent thing. If he says no then put in for some vaca time,l
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