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Redhead
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Re: LIF Parenting

Posted by nrthshgrl

I don't think any of us want the drama - it's hard enough dealing with MIL issues over grandchildren, sleep deprivation and everything else that comes along with motherhood. I know I don't want the upheaval of arguing with people I barely know. I have enough of that in my everyday life. My post wasn't meant to criticize the other boards - it was meant to say how great everyone was on THIS board.

The NFR board can be supportive at times & other times, well it's just not. You don't have to spawn children to use some form of tact when criticizing someone - and some people on those boards just don't use it. I hope all of the other posters join the parenting board (if they want to go that route) and just keep the back biting elsewhere.

And now that it's midnight & I've finished wrapping presents for 3 hours, I get to lay out my kids clothes to have them dressed & out of the house by 7am.

And to all a good night...{baby dust} {baby dust}...followed by graceful exit.




I totally agree, i didn't think your post was criticizing anyone. Another post certainly did.
And the spawning of children doesn't imo change anything, some who engage in drama HAVE THEM. In fact they are deeply involved in drama. But whatever. I think it is great when you can enjoy the place you go to everyday for help and support. I just do not think it is necessary to put down others when doing it. And although not you, it was done on this thread by a parent.
Notoriously on LIW, lines were drawn distinquishing and highlighting people (ex. NW's vs. brides). And for the first time LIF really had the mixing of all the posters from LIW. It would just be nice to keep that slow merging of people on all these boards.
And to just not expect that just because drama happens on one board means that drama will come to this board just because people are TTC or PG. Give people a chance. NFR has more drama because it isn't as personal imo. There isn't any drama over on the Pet board, rarely on the Home board, or the Hometeam boards either. And those have the same posters on NFR.
Like i said...give people a chance.

That is my point...

Message edited 12/23/2005 6:55:17 AM.

Posted 12/23/05 6:54 AM
 
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BabyAvocado
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Re: LIF Parenting

I also agree that this board is great. Everyone here is so supportive and helpful and I for one CAN'T WAIT for all the new mommies to join us. We get to meet all new babies and see cute baby pics...Chat Icon

I don't think we are (or should be) concerned over the "sanctity" of this board as more and more new mommies join us because I feel that the overall supportiveness and understanding of this board would overpower any drama. Over here we are about babies and families, new motherhood and BTDT motherhood, and those themes are what drive this board so I don't see any unrelated drama carrying over here.

I post on both, probably more so on NFR than here, and it's a completely different attitude when I come over here. Chat Icon

I can't WAIT for you to get over here Red... now go make a Christmas Baby!! Chat Icon

And welcome to all the new mommies, and the ones that are just a few short months away from joining us!! You will love it here! Chat Icon

Posted 12/23/05 9:15 AM
 

05mommy09
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Re: LIF Parenting

Posted by BabyAvocado

I also agree that this board is great. Everyone here is so supportive and helpful and I for one CAN'T WAIT for all the new mommies to join us. We get to meet all new babies and see cute baby pics...Chat Icon

I don't think we are (or should be) concerned over the "sanctity" of this board as more and more new mommies join us because I feel that the overall supportiveness and understanding of this board would overpower any drama. Over here we are about babies and families, new motherhood and BTDT motherhood, and those themes are what drive this board so I don't see any unrelated drama carrying over here.

I post on both, probably more so on NFR than here, and it's a completely different attitude when I come over here. Chat Icon

I can't WAIT for you to get over here Red... now go make a Christmas Baby!! Chat Icon

And welcome to all the new mommies, and the ones that are just a few short months away from joining us!! You will love it here! Chat Icon



Very well said Sandra!!!!

Posted 12/23/05 9:34 AM
 

Ambersmom
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Sharon

Re: LIF Parenting

Posted by Redhead

Posted by nrthshgrl

I don't think any of us want the drama - it's hard enough dealing with MIL issues over grandchildren, sleep deprivation and everything else that comes along with motherhood. I know I don't want the upheaval of arguing with people I barely know. I have enough of that in my everyday life. My post wasn't meant to criticize the other boards - it was meant to say how great everyone was on THIS board.

The NFR board can be supportive at times & other times, well it's just not. You don't have to spawn children to use some form of tact when criticizing someone - and some people on those boards just don't use it. I hope all of the other posters join the parenting board (if they want to go that route) and just keep the back biting elsewhere.

And now that it's midnight & I've finished wrapping presents for 3 hours, I get to lay out my kids clothes to have them dressed & out of the house by 7am.

And to all a good night...{baby dust} {baby dust}...followed by graceful exit.




I totally agree, i didn't think your post was criticizing anyone. Another post certainly did.
And the spawning of children doesn't imo change anything, some who engage in drama HAVE THEM. In fact they are deeply involved in drama. But whatever. I think it is great when you can enjoy the place you go to everyday for help and support. I just do not think it is necessary to put down others when doing it. And although not you, it was done on this thread by a parent.
Notoriously on LIW, lines were drawn distinquishing and highlighting people (ex. NW's vs. brides). And for the first time LIF really had the mixing of all the posters from LIW. It would just be nice to keep that slow merging of people on all these boards.
And to just not expect that just because drama happens on one board means that drama will come to this board just because people are TTC or PG. Give people a chance. NFR has more drama because it isn't as personal imo. There isn't any drama over on the Pet board, rarely on the Home board, or the Hometeam boards either. And those have the same posters on NFR.
Like i said...give people a chance.

Again, I made generalizatons. If you want to chase windmills and assume I'm speaking of anyone in particular, that is your choice. But the fact alone that we are on page 2 of this and the responses that followed my explanation of MY OWN personal feelings obviously gives merit to my original comments. Now, if you want to continue to drag this issue out, why not f/m me instead of propogating MORE unnecessary drama on the one board that it doesn't need to exist on??


Posted 12/23/05 10:16 AM
 

Redhead
You Live, You Learn

Member since 5/05

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Jennifer

Re: LIF Parenting

Sharon...
i wasn't thinking you were talking about anyone specific. THAT would have been a tad bit better, still uncalled for and unecessary, than generalizing about groups of people.

I am not dragging out anything. You had yoru opinion and i have mine. I lurk a lot on TTC, PG and this board now. ANd to see what you wrote was not only hurtful but just plain unnecessary and since you were NOT specific i get lump into the group you generalized about. Whether i belong there or not.

Again, instead of assuming what may happen...MAYBE could just give people a chance and welcome everyone. And if said drama occurs then maybe your opinions can hold some merit.

But since drama pretty much occurs on NFR as opposed to the, what is it 8 other topics on this board, i think the sancity of this board can remain intact...

Posted 12/23/05 10:30 AM
 

Scotty-CassidysMom
and Dylan too!

Member since 5/05

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Stacy

Re: LIF Parenting

OK, I'm steering clear of the drama, but I love this board!! It's a great place to come for answers, support, ideas, and to show off pics of our beautiful angelsChat Icon

Yay for LIF Parenting!!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/23/05 10:38 AM
 

Moehick
Ready for the sun!

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Re: LIF Parenting

Posted by ambersmom

Posted by Moehick

Posted by ambersmom

Posted by nrthshgrl

I just wanted to say how great this board is - honestly - I feel like there are no judgements here & that we're all supportive of each other. I see the sniping on the other boards. It's so disappointing to see people attacking each other.

Yeah LIF Parenting!



I absolutely agree but I'm concerned for the sanctity of this board as others transition into TTC and parentingChat Icon I feel that at some point down the road, this board will have the same feel as NFR, etc.



Wow thats a pretty crappy thing to say...I look forward to being on this board soon and seeing new babies and new experiences from people



I'm confused...where in my response did I name you specifically (or anyone else for that matter)? Considering I have always been supportive towards your pregnancy, I'm just not getting it.

I'm generalizing about the overall tone and actions of some who participate on NFR and the concern that they may bring that drama element to this board as well.



I never said you named me all I am saying is thats a pretty crappy thing to say

Posted 12/23/05 10:50 AM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: LIF Parenting

Ok - how about if we end this. I've decided you're all a bunch of troublemakers! Chat Icon

Posted 12/23/05 12:54 PM
 

05mommy09
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Re: LIF Parenting

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Posted 12/23/05 4:15 PM
 

sunny
Life is good!

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Stephanie

Re: LIF Parenting

Posted by Redhead

NFR has more drama because it isn't as personal imo. There isn't any drama over on the Pet board, rarely on the Home board, or the Hometeam boards either. And those have the same posters on NFR.




I agree with this. I think the nfr board drama is usually about stupid things and are not personal attacks (for the most part).
I will still never understand the whole drama thing, if people don;t like it they don't have to read it.

That being said- I love the parenting board, it is so helpful and when the new moms come I hope I can be helpful too!

Posted 12/23/05 6:23 PM
 

MrsERod
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Re: LIF Parenting

Posted by Scotty-CassidysMom

OK, I'm steering clear of the drama, but I love this board!! It's a great place to come for answers, support, ideas, and to show off pics of our beautiful angelsChat Icon

Yay for LIF Parenting!!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon




Yay for Stacy!!! for saying it the way it should've been stated to begin with IMO.

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Posted 12/23/05 9:04 PM
 
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