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My name is Michelle and my father passed away when I was 11, it was an accidental death, he drowned in huntington harbor, and my mother passed away when I was 21 due to the complications of diabetes...

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i'm Jen....
lost my mom to breast cancer when she was 40. she had end stage breast cancer at age 30. when she died i was 19 and my brother was 14. it was the worst day of my life. that was almost 12 years ago

hugs to everyone who lost their moms

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Hi all,
My name is Valerie and I lost my mother-in-law to cancer in October 1, 2005. We were close and I miss her alot. She passed away 2 days after I found out I was pregnant with my second child, her 4th grandchild. My husband and I feel fortunate that we were able to tell her I was expecting before she passed away. She was our baby's guardian angel. During the same pregnancy, my grandfather also passed away from Alzheimer's Disease. He meant the world to me. It was very bittersweet when Joey was born to know that 2 people we loved so much would never get to meet him.

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Hi my name is Sarah and my mother is still alive but my father passed away last tuesday and i am heart broken. I hope i can chat here because there is no where for me to chat about my fathers death. My father was my best friend and my life is a mess without him. I feel all of your pain. I miss my dad so much and don't know how i can go on. My daughter is the reason i continue to go on and function ( I guess i that's what you would call it.) I just hope this get's a little better because right now this is crazy and horrible. I send you all hugs and wish you all well.

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Hi my name is Tracy I lost my mother on August 21, 1998. I was 27. She had emphysema. She had surgery to cut out the bad parts of her lungs. (she was only the second person in LIJ to have the surgery) She was doing amazing then a few years later she started having breathing problems again. She was on 24 hour oxyegen. She refused to leave the house unless it was to go to the doctors. (Damn Irish pride!) She went in to have the surgery again. (no one had done this surgery) She died 10 days later.

Just talking & reliving this kills me. She never met my husband or my children. Though my beliefs tell me she does see them.


I had also lost my father on March 7, 1994 to a heartattack.

In 5 years I lost
My dad, my Aunt, my uncle, My Mother, & my Grandmother. TO MUCH LOSS!!!

I miss them all so much!!!!!! It feels good to be able to talk about it. I do have 5 sisters & brothers. But, we don't really talk about it anymore.

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My name is Genna and I lost my mom 16 years ago to breast cancer (I was 13 years old)

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Hi, I lost my mom to Lymphoma in Dec 2001. She was living in India at the time (moved back there after living here for years), and she was with her mom and sister. I wasn't there and it was unexpected. I was 25. I got married 6 months later and had a baby a year after that.

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Hi everyone, I am so sorry to hear about all your losses. I lost my mil, who was closer to me than my own mother, 364 days before we were married in Nov. 2003 to lung cancer. She was diagnosed in Sept of 2002 and they were optimistic, we weren't at first but they convinced us over the next six weeks. Unfortunately, it was too much on her body and she died not even two months later without warning - she was fine one day then hospitalized and gone the next - we still can't believe it. We had just set our wedding date (after debating whether or not to move it up and finally opting not to at her request.) and booked the place - then she died on Nov 17, 2002 and we were set to be married on Nov 16, 2003. We all decided not to change the date b/c that was the date she knew and was so excited about but we had to instead bury her in a dress the same color she had chosen to wear for our wedding. It breaks my heart still to see my fil suffer, my dh suffer and my own suffering. She was a smoker, despite our wishes, but was always going to doctors and getting clean bills of health - she originally was diagnosed after having stomach tourbles which they decided to take out her gallbladder from..they never had the chance. As we prepare for the birth of our first child in Sept, her biggest wish always was to be a grandma - it is so hard to believe she is really neevr coming back or that our daughter will never hear her voice or know what a wonderful woman she was. Just typing this I still tear up...

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I just have to say I think this board is such a great idea!

I'm Paula and I lost my mom 3 1/2 years ago. She went in for elective surgury and basically died due to hospital negligence. (Very long story)

I don't care what anybody says, it does not get easier as time goes on, I actually find it harder to deal with everyday.

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I am Jen. and for those that came from LI Weddings you may know my story.

My mom died of Breast Caner at the age of 65 3 1/2 years ago. 10 days after I was married. My wedding day was the last day I saw her.

I struggle with this everyday and am so happy to have this board.

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Hi everyone. Sorry for your loss. I lost my mom February 2005 to breast cancer, 4 months before my wedding. I was 30 years old.

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Hi my name is Sarah and my mother is still alive but my father passed away last tuesday and i am heart broken. I hope i can chat here because there is no where for me to chat about my fathers death. My father was my best friend and my life is a mess without him. I feel all of your pain. I miss my dad so much and don't know how i can go on. My daughter is the reason i continue to go on and function ( I guess i that's what you would call it.) I just hope this get's a little better because right now this is crazy and horrible. I send you all hugs and wish you all well.

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I'm sorry to hijack; I just want to offer sincere condolences to all...I want to tell my cousin about this board. She lost her mom (my beloved aunt) to colon cancer four years ago. It was a sudden and short battle and we were there with her when she died, at home. My cousin really needs people who can relate to speak with; she found out she was pregnant one month after her mother passed...and the only thing that brings her joy are her kids. Most of the time, she is very depressed and cannot speak my aunt's name without crying. I'm going to share this with her...Bless you all....

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you have FM

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Hello My name is Angela, I lost my mom five years ago, at the age of twenty three, two years into my marriage, and five weeks after my first baby girl was born.

My mom was fourty seven and was in a car accident, My father and nephew at the time who was 9 where with her but they survived, and my father moved a girl in two months after the loss, he also kicked my grandparents out, which where my mom's parents out of his house, which had an apartment attached to it.

And I didnt talk to him for years, he married last year and lives in florida, my sister and I dont talk. I have a husband and daughter, and a home, I have my husbands family, but i have a loss that can never be fixed.

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Laurie, age 25.
I lost my mom in April to breast cancer that spread to her liver, bones, and brain. She was 55 years old.I was 7 months pregnant.

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Hi my name is Kim! I lost my mother to Metastatic Vulvar Cancer in April of 1999.

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wow, i have tears in my eyes reading all of these stories.. and cancer seems to be in each one..

although I havent lost my mom physically, i dont have my mom in my life and it is very SAD.. LONG story.. and believe me, tried to patch things up over the years. She definatey has a mental illness is narcassistic and selfish....
i know some of you wish you could do anything to have your moms back. I just never had a relationship with my mom so i dont know how it is.

my dad remarried and she turned out to be pure evil. i still have to deal with her sinc EI have two sisters - daugthers of her evil higness and my father..

my dad is engaged again- she is a true angel that has done more for my family and us thanmy REAL mom or stepmom.

it is sad though especially whenI got married, was going through an annulment and every friggin Mothers Day.

So i hope you dont mind if I join this board...

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Posted by kdelace

wow, i have tears in my eyes reading all of these stories.. and cancer seems to be in each one..

although I havent lost my mom physically, i dont have my mom in my life and it is very SAD.. LONG story.. and believe me, tried to patch things up over the years. She definatey has a mental illness is narcassistic and selfish....
i know some of you wish you could do anything to have your moms back. I just never had a relationship with my mom so i dont know how it is.

my dad remarried and she turned out to be pure evil. i still have to deal with her sinc EI have two sisters - daugthers of her evil higness and my father..

my dad is engaged again- she is a true angel that has done more for my family and us thanmy REAL mom or stepmom.

it is sad though especially whenI got married, was going through an annulment and every friggin Mothers Day.

So i hope you dont mind if I join this board...

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Hi my name is Brian. I lost my mom to Breast Cancer. It will be 15 years on August 31st. I was 15 years old.

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do you feel like it got less raw over the years?