Moms of newborns....

Am I the only one who finds this not so fun?

I just keep thinking about it and it gets me kinda depressed but this is NOT how I thought it would be, although I have no idea what I "thought".

I feel like all I do is feed DS , try to get some sleep make bottles and do dishes...And repeat, and repeat.

I know I SHOULD be out doing things with him, but I have no motivation AT ALL to do anything.

ANd I feel like a bad mom b/c of it...like I should be loving every minute of it, but Im not.

I feel MORE lazy then when I was PG !


Please tell me Im not alone here ....

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Donna,

I think everyone has felt that way. The days used to fly by and I had no idea where they went.

It really does help getting out and about with a baby. I would go out EVERYDAY whether I wanted to or not. It helped me with feeling confident and getting some independence back.

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Posted by shamrock124

Donna,

I think everyone has felt that way. The days used to fly by and I had no idea where they went.

It really does help getting out and about with a baby. I would go out EVERYDAY whether I wanted to or not. It helped me with feeling confident and getting some independence back.

I dont know where to go. LOL

And the thought of showering, getting dressed etc seems like so much work, when I woudl rather just lay on the couch. AHHHHH

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yeah, not a fan of the newborn stage AT ALL. The older she gets the more I enjoy it though - little things like eye contact make my day!

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I felt the same exact way!!!! It does get better. Once they become little "people" (not just sleeping, eating. pooping) it is so much more fun! Just wait...you'll be having a great time very soon.

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I'm with you! all I want to do at this point is to sleep, I will take 6 hours straight please, pretty please the only time we go out is on the weekends when DH is able to watch DS so I can actually get ready without rushing...

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I go out all the time. To families house, to the store, to sports games (not professional!). We are always on the go. Plus, my SIL had my nephew two weeks after I had Derek, so we are usually on the go together. And my friend is hopefully holding her brand new son right now (I think she started pushing about an hour ago )

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I found that taking a shower first chance I get helps motivate me. Yesterday was the first time I took her out to a store, and it felt like such a huge accomplishment!
But I have also made lunch dates with friends, had people over, visited people....anything to break the day up. It can be boring because newborn interaction isn't all that stimulating....but it does get better. Lily is 7 weeks and so much more alert than she was a week ago!

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Posted by dm24angel

Posted by shamrock124

Donna,

I think everyone has felt that way. The days used to fly by and I had no idea where they went.

It really does help getting out and about with a baby. I would go out EVERYDAY whether I wanted to or not. It helped me with feeling confident and getting some independence back.

I dont know where to go. LOL

And the thought of showering, getting dressed etc seems like so much work, when I woudl rather just lay on the couch. AHHHHH

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Oh, absolutely. I think your son is about a month younger than Abby--she's May 8--and you'll begin to see a lot of changes just in the next one month. She's smiling now and "cooing" and generally just better natured. But I'm with you I HATE the newborn stage!

I agree with the other posters who said to take a shower right away. Every morning I get up at 7:20 to be able to shower and at each stage of the "getting ready" process I tell myself, "OK, if nothing else is accomplished today, at least I washed my hair..." "OK, if nothing else is accomplished today, at least I put on some makeup..." etc. etc. etc.

Also, you need to get out. That's another huge accomplishment for me (now with 2, especially) that "makes" my day.

Things we used to take for granted are enormous tasks now, so be proud of the things you *are* doing!

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I can understand.

I stay home all day doing nothing but hold him and feed him.

I don't go to places since I am listening to the ped and not take him to public places.

The worst part is that days go by quickly and by the time it is supposed to get "better"according to BTDT moms, I will have to go back to work.

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I totally agree with you - but I decided for my own sanity, at around 2 weeks, i took him everywhere. I made plans with people for lunch, I went for long walks, I went to stores, I went everywhere.

i needed a focus to my day.

I needed a timeline to wake up, shower, get dressed, put on makeup, etc.

If i had nothing planned for the day, I felt like I was crawling the walls with insanity - or I was on here all day not too much of a drop...

So, FORCE yourself to get out. Anywhere. Doesnt matter. Pack diapers, clothes, bottles, and go for a walk to the park. You must, MUST get out of the house.

Meet a friend for coffee. Anything!!!

Not only did it save my mind, it got him used to being out and about!


ETA - I also stopped waiting for him to go down before my shower. If he had to scream and cry for 30 mins while I showered, dressed, and put on makeup, thats what it had to be - I figured I'm not going to make him any happier if I'm miserable all day because I feel like a depressed slob....

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I agree- this newborn phase is for the birds....

I'm actually in NY now and my mom has *made* me shower and go out with DD. We've been to restaurants, BRU, the park, Hofstra (mom and sister work there), my sister's bridal gown fitting, etc. Tonight we are going to Flushing to introduce DD to my dad's family.

It definitely helps me feel like I've gotten things accomplished.

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you are not alone Donna.....at this stage, they don't do or realize much so doing what you're doing is fine.

I prefer Alysons' age to Paul as well...newborns stink!

If you need a buddy to vent to via phone, emial or AIM--please let me know!

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I hated the first six months pretty much. It was only good once he was able to sit up and crawl. It will get better though!! I promise!

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I agree and I completely understand! My son is 3 months old today and it has gotten so much better. I go back to work in a few weeks and that makes me SO sad. I just started to get the hang of this mothering thing!!

Good luck!

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Thank god Im not alone....

( but Im still in my PJ's )