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maybebaby
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Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
just curious.
He doesn't throw them often, and they aren't really terrible BUT the recent thing is that if he isn't instantly gratified he looks around to see what he can find to throw. It's awful!! He'll scream and cry and whine, he won't say anything even though he now can...
We have tried
1) putting him in the corner. Doesn't really work. He'll stay there but he thinks its a joke.
2) put him in the crib. I know a lot of people think its bad to place them where they sleep, but my mom did it with all of us and never had a problem. It seems to kinda work but the tantrums happen again anyway.
I know they are a normal part of 2 year old behavior, but I am so sick of wondering what is "normal" and what is happening b/c of his delays. I don't want to baby him or treat him differently, he is a smart little kid who knows what he is doing!
Any advice??
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SuzyQ
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
oh, boy, are we in this spot too. The only thing that seems to work right now is put DD in "her room" (if we're upstairs we put her in her bedroom, if we're on the main floor she goes in her playroom) and we close the door. She HATES this. We only leave her in for 2 minutes and it seems to do the trick. I always give her a warning ("if you hit mama again, you're going to your room.") And when I open the door, I get down on her level and tell her why she was put in her room and not to do that again. I don't think this is the ideal punishment and I'm not sure how long it will work for, but for now, it's all I can come up with. I did buy her a "time out chair" at home goods, but she likes it too much for it to be a punishment. 
I hope your toddler outgrows his tantrums soon and that you find the right solution. Let me know if you find something that works and maybe I'll try it too. 
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| Posted 1/7/09 1:27 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
Posted by SuzyQ
oh, boy, are we in this spot too. The only thing that seems to work right now is put DD in "her room" (if we're upstairs we put her in her bedroom, if we're on the main floor she goes in her playroom) and we close the door. She HATES this. We only leave her in for 2 minutes and it seems to do the trick. I always give her a warning ("if you hit mama again, you're going to your room.") And when I open the door, I get down on her level and tell her why she was put in her room and not to do that again. I don't think this is the ideal punishment and I'm not sure how long it will work for, but for now, it's all I can come up with. I did buy her a "time out chair" at home goods, but she likes it too much for it to be a punishment.
I hope your toddler outgrows his tantrums soon and that you find the right solution. Let me know if you find something that works and maybe I'll try it too.
Thanks so much 
What is upsetting to me is that he wasn't a really "tantrumy" kid, more of a WHINER. Lol. Literally, whining on and off a LOT but it recently turned more nasty. He is so impulsive and hard to control sometimes. When he has calmed down after his time outs he kisses my face and I ask him if he's a good boy, to which he replies "es mama" lol.
But then an hour later...another meltdown. It's just tiring. They say he never misbehaves at school, EVER. He plays and laughs and listens to his teachers. It's only for him mom and dad that he does this. Which again, can be typical.
If i find out other methods I will let you know!!! I think when I have my baby I will start drinking heavily till he's at least 4
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| Posted 1/7/09 1:36 PM |
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Sassyz75
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
I've been trying to implement 1-2-3 Magic...
It seems to be working..
you can read about it here:
123 Magic
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| Posted 1/7/09 1:40 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
If she is just freaking out, crying, etc, I try to ignore her
If she is hitting, throwing things, she goes in Time out ...that seems to work
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| Posted 1/7/09 1:52 PM |
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Reese1106
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
Posted by Mikismom
If she is just freaking out, crying, etc, I try to ignore her
If she is hitting, throwing things, she goes in Time out ...that seems to work
We do the same. DS is 18 mos so he doesn't have tantrums too often yet but we try not to be reactive.
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| Posted 1/7/09 1:57 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
Posted by Mikismom
If she is just freaking out, crying, etc, I try to ignore her
If she is hitting, throwing things, she goes in Time out ...that seems to work
same over here..works well.
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| Posted 1/7/09 1:59 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
Since we started therapy, the tantrums have decreased drastically! Now, we try to ignore, but we really don't like for him to cry. If he is faking...then I ignore him. He gets time-outs which are working well and not really needed as much either. His behavior has improved dramatically! It's like I have my baby back 
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| Posted 1/7/09 2:10 PM |
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annie
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
I would highly highly recommend the book Supernanny by Jo Frost. My DD is 2 1/2 and throws tantrums on a daily basis and the suggestions in this book have helped us a lot in dealing with them. It hasn't really decreased their frequency, but it helps us deal with them better and end them quicker. Turns out I was doing a lot of things the wrong way before I read the book and I was actually encouraging some of her bad behavior.
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| Posted 1/7/09 7:45 PM |
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Michelle
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Re: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
Whining we ignore
Tantrums we ignore if they are not throwing stuff or hitting each other
If they are tossing stuff, hitting each other or being destructive they go into time out to calm down.
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| Posted 1/7/09 7:49 PM |
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Reis.: Moms of toddlers..how do YOU handle tantrums?
For tantrums I put her in a safe quiet place and that's her crib.
123 magic looks interesting........I'll have to pick it up.
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| Posted 1/7/09 8:06 PM |
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