Re: Moms who use family member for child care

Posted by exotica776

My mom watches Sydney and we DO pay her. She hates taking the money but we asked her to quit her job to watch our angel and after a lot of thinking she did. She needs some money, if Syd werent here she would obviously still be working.

We pay her a set amount/week and IMO its not nearly enough but she wont take a penny more.

When we go out at night or weekends etc. we never pay either set of grandparents, they love to do it.

We are extremely lucky with our situation, my mom comes to our house every morning, Sydney is showered with love and kisses and stimulated and played with all day long w/ my mom, and then when we come home as well, that, IMO is priceless

ETA: if your family member already doesnt work and doesnt "need" the money they probably wont accept it anyway. I like the restaurant GC idea every now and then, or spa GC occassionally, just to show you're thankful.

Re: Moms who use family member for child care

I don't use family to watch Molly but I do think that payment should be offered and if they don't take it then a really great gift should be given a few times a year. I have a friend whose parents watched 6, yes 6, grandchildren FULL-time (7am-6pm or sometimes later), even driving them to dance/sports/pre-school. Not one ever paid them a dime or even sent them on a nice trip or anything. They acted as if because their parents were retired it was owed to them. I thought that was awful.