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headoverheels
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moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
a little background:
my family has been friends with another family for years. i am friendly with their daughter, A. i have NEVER liked A's dad, and this is well known to my family (probably not theirs). he is skeevy and just... icky.
about 10 years ago, maybe less, A's father began cheating on his wife - who is chronically ill - with another married woman that BOTH of them were friendly with. A's dad eventually left A's mom for this woman, who left her husband (and children as well, i believe).
obviously their family, and ours, were devastated.
A's dad now works at a store, and A recommended that DH and i go there to buy something we need for our apartment. DH and i have the chance to save a LOT of money on what can be a very expensive item.
i am nauseous at the idea of going in there, putting on a fake smile, and shopping at this man's store. i cannot stand the sight of him, and i know he will make $ off of the sale.
on the other hand, why not take advantage of this? use him and his connection, so to speak. pretend to be nice, buy what we need, walk out and never speak to him again.
what would you do? i am seriously torn about this.
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Posted 11/2/07 10:21 AM  |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
I think if you can live with it then go ahead and make the purchase w/ him. If this item will be a constant reminder of this icky man, then don't buy there & go elsewhere. IMO
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| Posted 11/2/07 10:24 AM |
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Christine
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
I would go someplace else. If the idea of going to a store would make me physically ill, it's not worth it.
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| Posted 11/2/07 10:24 AM |
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Geraldine
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Personally, I wouldn't ask for a favor from someone I didn't like.....
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| Posted 11/2/07 10:26 AM |
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baghag
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Does he own the store? If not, you could just have another salesperson help you. That way he won't receive any commission.
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| Posted 11/2/07 10:28 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Posted by baghag
Does he own the store? If not, you could just have another salesperson help you. That way he won't receive any commission.
he doesn't own the store, he's the area manager, and i don't think we can get the discount unless he is the one who sells it to us.
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| Posted 11/2/07 10:34 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Posted by headoverheels
i am nauseous at the idea of going in there, putting on a fake smile, and shopping at this man's store. i cannot stand the sight of him, and i know he will make $ off of the sale.
If this is really how you feel, and its not an exaggeration, then I wouldn't do it.
Personally, I don't love taking these kinds of favors from people I like (I feel like I am taking advantage- even if they offer). But if you really hate the man, then you are just using him. Using someone you hate for your benefit is just wrong IMO.
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| Posted 11/2/07 10:54 AM |
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JessieQ
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
If you feel that way about him I suggest you don't do it, the money to me wouldn't be worth having to look him in the eye and ask a favor.
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| Posted 11/2/07 11:14 AM |
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mommy0604
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
I wouldn't take any favors from a man that left his wife while she was sick for another woman...
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| Posted 11/2/07 11:27 AM |
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Tany
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Why would you even be associated to someone that you highly dislike and approve off?
Trust me, karma is a beotch and it would be wrong for you to take advantage of this person.
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| Posted 11/2/07 11:43 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Posted by Tany
Why would you even be associated to someone that you highly dislike and approve off?
Trust me, karma is a beotch and it would be wrong for you to take advantage of this person.
actually, i am not "associated" with him. this man is still my friend's father, and she loves him, despite what he did and who he is, and she was the one who suggested to see him for what DH and i need. i would never do this on my own, ever.
my question was should i take advantage of a significant discount that he can give me - not, should i be friends with him.
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| Posted 11/2/07 11:57 AM |
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diva7531
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
If it makes you ill, don't go. I would be torn too, but it really depends on how much I wanted something and needed to save the money
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| Posted 11/2/07 12:59 PM |
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dpli
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Re: moral dilemma - taking advantage of a cheater
Regardless of the discount, I would be uncomfortable giving my business to this man.
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| Posted 11/2/07 1:30 PM |
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