Mother's Day spinoff...Alone, or with extended family?

This is my first mother's day, and I would LOVE to spend it with JUST DH and DS. That could be my only present.

But I feel like extended family/mothers would be hurt if we don't see them. It takes up an entire day of driving around the city and LI if we want to see all the mothers and grandmothers.

Once you are a mother, do you make the priority visiting your mother/MIL/grandmother/gmaIL? Or do you make it just your DH and DC?

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This will be my 1st mother's day but I think its going to become a little more about me. For the past few years, I've had to share my mom's mother's day with my MIL. I am never too happy about that but she's lonely blah, blah. This year I still want to see my mom but don't want to have to make DH choose who to spend it with so I will inevitably have to spend it with MIL also. I think though that I will request some chunk of the day just for me, DH, and DS.

I think your mother/grandmothers would probably be hurt if you didn't see them. Can some of them get together in just one place to limit your driving around? I know some poeple who have a 2nd "mother's day" the weekend before or after the real mother's day and that's when they see family; the real mother's day is just for them.

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We still do "the rounds". But just to my mom and MIL.

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I wanted to be with DH and Abby on my first Mother's Day. Did not work out that way. It was my first Mother's Day as a mother and my second without my own. DH has his mother and she deserves to see her children, but it was my day too. I can forsee this being an issue in the future.

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Last year we wanted DH's family to come to brunch with us and my BIL and SIL, but they didn't want to for some reason.

So, we stopped by his parents house for maybe 20 minutes before brunch. Had a fabulous brunch with DH, BIL, SIL, Jack, and my nephew.

Then went to spend it with my family.

I always make it a point to see my family (mother, grandmother, even aunts)

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Morning is spent just with immediate family (me, DH and the boys)....afternoon is spent with Dh's family as my family lives upstate.

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Since Mother's Day is for me, DH makes me spend it however I want since he is always working. I always spend it with my family.

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My mom always has my extended family over at her house, I really look forward to it every year even before I was a mother.

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last year (my first mothers day) my sis, DS, and I took my mom out the day before mothers day and. DH went out with his mom. I still feel bad because my mom had a miserable day the next day, her hubby was acting like a total azzzzz bc he lost his mom a few yrs ago. then mothers day DH took me out w/ DS. not sure what I will be doing this year bc Im going to be very pregnant , but I don't want my mom to have another crappy mothers day

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My first two Mother's Days, we went to brunch with my parents and sister ON Mother's Day. Last year, we saw them on Saturday instead.

I have 0 clue what we are doing this year, its only March people

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Brunch with my parents, which I wouldn't have any other way

DH will likely take the kids to MIL for an hour or so

Some sort of nice dinner just DH, & & me

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We have one meal with just our little family and one meal with my mom (MIL is too far away). I could never not see my mom and she could never not see her grandson for mother's day!

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On my first mother's day is was about us. Nobody else!

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Since I've been a mom we've never had it with just DH, DD & I. The first 2 years we've had my mom and my MIL over for brunch with my SIL/BIL/nephew coming by too.

Not sure what we'll do this year, probably something similar.

I do like having some down-time with just DH & DD at some point during the day though...and I don't want to be the one cooking the brunch either DH has been in charge of cooking the last few years.

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Probably with the the whole fam... my fam and the in-laws. Just been like that since we got engaged and it's nice to celebrate all together. Even though this will be my 1st Mother's Day I want to be with my mom and MIL as well celebrating

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We usually do breakfast with my inlaws and dinner at my dads with my sister and SIL and families.

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Before I became a Mom, we spent Mother's Day with my IL's (my Mom is deceased). Now, we spend the actual day with just DH, myself and our 2 boys but we do get together another day with my IL's and SIL and her family to celebrate with them.

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Unless my mom decided to fly up, it will be all about me.

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Alone, probably.

MIL is in Florida, so that side of the family is easy.

My mom has 4 daughters. They all want to see her, but no one wants to host. So in the past my mom has hosted, but she grew tired of doing all the work. I don't blame her. The last 2 years, she's spent the day with me, since I wasn't a Mom yet.

This is my first mother's day, and I don't think we'll be driving around visiting family.

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The year before I had Sean I had everyone at my house (My Mom, Grandma, MIL, GMIL my sister's FMIL and GRMI(s) .....) it was A LOT ........

last year my Mom BBQ'd at her house and invited my MIL and SIL/BIL -

Which was nice of my Mom to do - but this year, on principal, I won't let her do it b/c she's been inviting MIL to her house for almost 10 years, and has never ONCE received an invitation - so, no more.

This year, the morning is for me, the afternoon is for my Mother and whatever she may want to do - and my MIL ..........well, I'll let DH figure out what he wants to do about her - I'm tired of making her a pirority .......


Hmmm, can you tell I've about had it w/ my MIL?

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Since DH and I have been married we have both families come over for dinner. Even though last year was my first mother's day, I didn't mind cooking. This year I don't know what's going to happen. I'm scheduled to take a state exam the weekend of mother's day and they're giving it both days. I guess if I have to take the test on Sunday, then we'll have the family over on Saturday then Sunday when I get home, do something with DH & DD.

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I've always spent Mother's Day with my family (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc) including last year. We probably won't go down to LI for it this year though. Part of me likes continuing with the tradition, but another part of me would like to spend the day just with DH and DS.

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Honestly, I want to see my Mom and family on Mothers Day.

We host it and have MIL & my family over for a BBQ.

I couldn't see it any other way.

Why not go to breakfast just you guys, then see your family later?

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Hmm, you know, I haven't even thought about it this year! I forget what we did last year

We are going away with my family the weekend after Mother's Day this year so my guess is that we'll spend it with MIL and FIL. I am hoping they come to us though, so I can sleep in and not have to worry about traveling with 2 kids.

The only "holiday" that I insist is about me is my birthday. My mom and MIL have been mommies MUCH longer than I have and they raised some damn fine kids so I am all about celebrating with and for them

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We celebrate Mother's Day with all the Mothers in our immediate family.