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giggles
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My MIL makes me so MAD
Background - My MIL is a pain in the A** - everytime she calls, she thinks she is being subtle by telling us about her sister's grandkids and how cute they are. She is buying a new house and she tells us about how it will have a backyard for the grandkids to run around in...  but she never comes out and asks when we are having kids or if we plan on having kids.
DH goes to lunch with her yesterday. She says, "how are you doing on the kids issue?"  Who said it was an issue and how DARE she ask such a personal question?
DH says, "we want kids, ma"
I am SO mad at him for this and I don't know if I should be. I don't want her knowing we are TTC - the whole world will know and we've been trying for a while unsuccessfully and the last thing I want is his family on "bump watch"
Then she says, "well your cousin Eddie is having a baby."
Gee - I'm so glad that it's that easy. Let me just snap my fingers and get pregnant. 
I am so mad at her because I feel like she waited till she had DH alone to ask about this and I'm mad at DH because he knows how superstitious I am.
I know he didn't say anything that bad, but I feel like he implied we are trying.
Thanks for listening.
Message edited 7/26/2006 11:55:21 AM.
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Stefanie
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Re: My MIL makes me so MAD
I hate how some MIL's are so pushy with children. I don't think your dh said anything wrong either...I also don't think he didn't give anything away.
Sorry your MIL is a PITA.
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Posted by Stefanie
I hate how some MIL's are so pushy with children. I don't think your dh said anything wrong either...I also don't think he didn't give anything away.
Sorry your MIL is a PITA.
I couldn't have said it better.
and some 
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giggles
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Re: My MIL makes me so MAD
Thanks girls - I think I am just so annoyed that I am taking it out on him. I know he really didn't give anything away, what else could he have said, I guess.
She just really annoys me - she is so CALCULATING
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Posted by giggles
Thanks girls - I think I am just so annoyed that I am taking it out on him. I know he really didn't give anything away, what else could he have said, I guess.
She just really annoys me - she is so CALCULATING
I do the same thing, everytime my MIL gets under my skin, i get so annoyed at DH. ANd i always say next time i won't do that but i do.
My MIL is the same way so calculating and she does the same thing as yours she waits until he's alone to ask him questions and put in her opinion. The only thing different is MIL doesn't want grandchildren and she likes to say we should wait. Big surprise we are startng to TTC in 2 months....
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: My MIL makes me so MAD
OMG!!!! I could have wrote this myself!!!
every f'ing time I speak to my MIL she brings up a baby in some capacity.
we are TTCing and it's NONE of her business! if she found out she would tell 1/2 the planet 
So I totally empathize
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giggles
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Posted by SweetestOfPeas
OMG!!!! I could have wrote this myself!!!
every f'ing time I speak to my MIL she brings up a baby in some capacity.
we are TTCing and it's NONE of her business! if she found out she would tell 1/2 the planet
So I totally empathize
Thanks so much! This is just so typical of her. I think I'm even MORE annoyed because it hasn't been so easy for us - it's been 10 months and no baby yet!
PS - I forgot to mention that she also asked DH how we've been getting along - I can't TAKE her
 I feel like screaming - IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!!
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Posted by giggles
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
OMG!!!! I could have wrote this myself!!!
every f'ing time I speak to my MIL she brings up a baby in some capacity.
we are TTCing and it's NONE of her business! if she found out she would tell 1/2 the planet
So I totally empathize
Thanks so much! This is just so typical of her. I think I'm even MORE annoyed because it hasn't been so easy for us - it's been 10 months and no baby yet!
PS - I forgot to mention that she also asked DH how we've been getting along - I can't TAKE her
I feel like screaming - IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!!
You seem like you need a and also some
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Re: My MIL makes me so MAD
I know how frustrating in-laws can be so here are some . And not at all to defend your MIL, but I don't think it's so odd that she would wait to be with her son alone to ask some personal questions. She probably doesn't want you to think she's nosy, even though she obviously is. Wouldn't your mom come directly to you to ask a personal question rather than ask you and your DH?
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giggles
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Posted by nferrandi
I know how frustrating in-laws can be so here are some . And not at all to defend your MIL, but I don't think it's so odd that she would wait to be with her son alone to ask some personal questions. She probably doesn't want you to think she's nosy, even though she obviously is. Wouldn't your mom come directly to you to ask a personal question rather than ask you and your DH?
I hear what you are saying but my mother would NEVER ask me how I was getting along with DH and she would NEVER ask me "how things are with the baby issue" - I don't think anyone should ask that question - it's not a fair question to ask.
No one knows what types of TTC issues a couple faces.
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Lucky09
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Re: My MIL makes me so MAD
Ugh - my MIL constantly makes "baby" references and how great it would be for us to have a child. I just smile and say we are not ready. It is getting ridiculous because it is every time I see her. I feel like telling her "well, if you would like to quit your job to watch the baby so I can continue working full time to pay our mortgage, then we will GLADLY start TTC-ing".
ETA: I don't think your DH really had a choice but to say what he did... But I do think it was nervy of your MIL to ask him on the sly.
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giggles
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Posted by MrsNYPDsGirl
ETA: I don't think your DH really had a choice but to say what he did... But I do think it was nervy of your MIL to ask him on the sly.
I know, she just gets on my nerves. She always has to be up in our business. This is just one of a million incidents where she just can't respect boundaries or people's privacy.
Thanks for all the hugs. I need them today. 
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