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Alex110879
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My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
So my birthday is in a few weeks an orgionally dh and i had plans to go out so i had asked my parents to babysit... however in the past three weeks i have had alot of pregnancy related issues to the point that i have to sit with a pillow behind me from the pain... so today dh and i discussed it and decided that maybe going out is not the best idea since i cant even sit....
so i called my mother and told her that i am 99% sure that we will not be going out (most likely we will do something with the people we had plans with here instead) and she went crazy on me... basically i was told to suck up the pain and that she was pregnant 6 times and it never gave her an issue...
you know it annoys me because prior to my first preg i was diagnosed with fibromyalgia as well as vasovagal syncope... and my ds is only 12 months old and weights 30lbs.. but he doesnt walk so with dh working overnights i have him 24/7 for 5 days straight... so the combination of close pregnancies and chasing around ds is killing me physically and i actually do a happy dance when it gets to the day dh is off...
this is why my sister-in-law is watching ds when i go into labor... i just cant take them...
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
sorry your mom was not so understanding! and sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. do what is best for you! don't listen to others, even parents. sometimes people say things that are hurtful when their mood really has nothing to do with you or they didnt realize it came out that way. if there tends to be a pattern of when she has nasty/unsupportive comments you can try to avoid telling her things/topics that you think she wouldn't understand. i hope you have others in your life that are more supportive. i know how hard it is to have two children so close together, it will get easier. 
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You have to do what's best for you and the baby. Does your mom want an award for beig pg 6 times with no issues? EVERY pg is different and NOBODY should judge anybody! I would just tell her you appreciate her help, but you need to rest and that while you applaud her for being so tough, you just aren't going to risk your back, and that your pg is different. If she still carries on I would just say...... Well sorry you feel that way, but he's my kid and he's staying hiome with us.
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| Posted 10/17/09 9:20 PM |
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
I think your mom may just be upset that she doesn't get to watch your DS! I feel your pain, my DS is also 12 months just under 30 lbs and not walking yet  my back and legs are already hurting, you must be in so much pain 
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| Posted 10/17/09 9:26 PM |
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Alex110879
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
Posted by medic6809
You have to do what's best for you and the baby. Does your mom want an award for beig pg 6 times with no issues? EVERY pg is different and NOBODY should judge anybody! I would just tell her you appreciate her help, but you need to rest and that while you applaud her for being so tough, you just aren't going to risk your back, and that your pg is different. If she still carries on I would just say...... Well sorry you feel that way, but he's my kid and he's staying hiome with us.
i am telling you , my parents are going to be the end of me... it is one thing after another with them... has been since ds was born and it is always something different... at the beginning they gave me a hard time because we didnt call anyone for almost 4 hours and tell people he was born... then it was the fact that i was nursing ("but all of you were on formula and did fine")... the actually asked me almost everyday for 10 months when i was planning on stopping... after that there was the issue that i took ds off of baby food and off of bottles at 10 months... he actually eats extremely well on table food and as for the bottles, well ds gave them up himself.... and now it is the fact that i dont go out enough.. actually it is the fact that i dont go to their house enough... yesteday i asked my mom if she wanted to go to the mall and she was annoyed when i asked her to come towards me since the mall is a mile from my house ("but your father wanted to see ds")... they are really pushing me further and further away.... thank god dh's family is "normal"
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| Posted 10/17/09 9:27 PM |
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Alex110879
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
Posted by maybesoon
I think your mom may just be upset that she doesn't get to watch your DS! I feel your pain, my DS is also 12 months just under 30 lbs and not walking yet my back and legs are already hurting, you must be in so much pain
i can't even sit on the couch without a pillow behind me.. it is so bad.. and my loving sister gave me yoga positions to try and everytime i try ds climbs on top of me...
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| Posted 10/17/09 9:29 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
what is her major malfunction? Does she have an insensitive switch? is it all abotu her?
I'm so sorry you can't have the relationship with her that you want. It's really her loss.
You may need to exhibit tough love with her. Tell her to cut it out and to STFU! She sounds like a spoiled baby.
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| Posted 10/19/09 9:32 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
I'm so sorry your parents are giving you such a hard time about everything. They really need to relax.It's wonderful that your mom had 6 easy pregnancies, but that does not mean that's the case for everyone. Jeesh!
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| Posted 10/19/09 9:40 AM |
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 5 years ago (I am a rheumatoid arthritis patient as well) and I know first hand how difficult it is to function PG with this. If you need to vent, feel free to FM me!
I would just ignore your parents. They sound very compassionate. Just because one person has a dream pregnancy, doesn't mean another will too. I am not sure about the other thing you have, but I know fibro causes all over pain and soreness and exhaustion.
Feel better
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| Posted 10/19/09 10:36 AM |
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twinkletoes807
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
Ugh!!! Don't you hate it when people (esp family) compare their pregnancies to yours, as if any one pregnancy (even within oneself) is similar?! I also have a 12 month old who is a big girl (25lbs), doesn't walk so I am always carrying her, and I also have ridiculous pubic bone pain- so I know exactly how you feel!! I agree with you... I wouldn't go out for your Bday and would celebrate at home instead. I mean, hellllooooo... it's YOUR birthday!! Tell your mom you don't want to hear her commentary on the subject. I think it's a smart idea to have your SIL take care of DS when you go into the hospital.
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| Posted 10/19/09 10:48 AM |
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Alex110879
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
Posted by munchkinfacemama
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 5 years ago (I am a rheumatoid arthritis patient as well) and I know first hand how difficult it is to function PG with this. If you need to vent, feel free to FM me!
I would just ignore your parents. They sound very compassionate. Just because one person has a dream pregnancy, doesn't mean another will too. I am not sure about the other thing you have, but I know fibro causes all over pain and soreness and exhaustion.
Feel better
vaso vagal is when you basically pass out from a drop in blood pressure... i have been clocked witha blood pressure of 50/20 as my lowest.... it is horrible and worse when pregnant.. never fun.... the pain with this preg with the fibro is so awful... i am hoping my ob is willing to refer me to a chiropracter (my insurance requires referrels for EVERYTHING...
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| Posted 10/19/09 11:52 AM |
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Alex110879
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Re: My parents are driving me crazy(sorry long)
Posted by Blu-ize
what is her major malfunction? Does she have an insensitive switch? is it all abotu her?
I'm so sorry you can't have the relationship with her that you want. It's really her loss.
You may need to exhibit tough love with her. Tell her to cut it out and to STFU! She sounds like a spoiled baby.
i have been having such an issue with both of them lately that it really has been driving me crazy.. when my first husband passed away i didnt speak to them for 9 months (after they told me they were not going to his funeral because if didnt hug them first and i should realize i need to help them cope with his death)... after months of therapy i got over it and now i seriously regret it most of the time.... they honestly believe that by title they are allowed to say whatever they want and do what they want to whomever they want.... so her opinion now is that i am a big baby and that i need to just suck up my pains... HOWEVER yesterday she told me how she could never watch ds for more then a day or two a week because it is too much work and he takes alot of energy to follow around all day....
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| Posted 10/19/09 11:57 AM |
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