Need advice - q about death in the family - wakes and dc

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Re: Need advice - q about death in the family - wakes and dc

When my grandma passed I brought my youngest at the time he was 6 mos old. Like you everyone who watched my children were going so I had know choice. To be honest I think it helped some of the people there. You know babies just have that way about them. I personally don't see anything wrong with it and you'll have help so I think you'll be fine. I am sorry though for your loss

Re: Need advice - q about death in the family - wakes and dc

My father passed away last December. DD had just turned 1. We brought her to the wake and the funeral - we had no other choice. She had no idea what was going on and in a way she made a terrible situation more bearable.

She was such a spot of brightness and innocence that she entertained everyone and made most people feel better.

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First of all, I am very sorry for your loss

If it were me, I would take him. I know that if I left him with people he wasn't comfortable with, I would do nothing but worry and you don't need that. I don't think it's bad for him to be in that setting and he might even make a few people smile!

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My older son was 9 months old when my sister died. He came to the wake and the funeral.
My children were 5 & 3 when my mother passed away. They were at the wake. They had questions and I answered them the best I could.

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I'm so sorry for your loss

I am very close to my grandmother and I know if something were to happen to her someday that I would want my DD to be there as she is a big part of my grandmother's life. I would not bring her to the casket and if she got fussy I would take her out of the church but if it was me I would bring him. I always see young kids at wakes/funerals.

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I don't see any harm in bringing the baby. I am so sorry for your loss

Re: Need advice - q about death in the family - wakes and dc

First, I'm so sorry for your loss

My Uncle whom I was very close to died when DS was 4 months old. I brought him to the wake on both days and he was fine. His being there was actually a big help to my family. He won't remember anything and I think it would be fine, and maybe even a help with your family .

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sorry for your loss I think you should bring him..i think bringing him will also keep your mind off of things at times...also....if you would leave him with inlaws..you will be nervous the whole time!

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I am so very sorry for your loss

Re: Need advice - q about death in the family - wakes and dc

Sorry to crash...I am not a parent but my Grandma died last month and someone I know brought their baby and IMO it was the best thing. It made my mom very happy and it brought a smile to a very sad room at the wake. Also my Grandmother loved babies and I know that would have made her happy.

On another note her great grandchildren were not brought to anything and people were wondering why.

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I am going to a funeral tomorrow, DS is 13 months and I did think about this. I asked DH if he thought it would be ok for us to bring DS. DH's Uncle passed away and we have to go as a family. DS will not know what is going on is what my DH said. I have to agree with him. Of course I will not bring him near the casket though.

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I am so sorry for your loss

I would take him.