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Twinzmommy2B
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Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I don't know what to do...a good friend of mine is getting married in August and I just received an invite to her bridal shower for early June and her bachelorette party which will be a dinner / dancing / limo to the city in mid-July. I'm due on July 3rd with my  but I know I won't go 40 weeks...I'll probably have them sometime in June. As much as I would love to go to everything since she has been there for me through everything, I don't know how to RSVP. My response in needed by mid May. Any advice would be much appreciated!!! 
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Posted 4/21/11 6:51 AM  |
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BabyLoveBug143
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
im sure she will understand
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| Posted 4/21/11 7:19 AM |
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teaforthree
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Just put off your delivery until September... 
Just kidding... obviously the situation's out of your hands and the timing just plain $ucks for being able to attend these events. I'm sure she will understand.
So, the bachelorette party is definitely out.
I would guess that the bridal shower is PROBABLY a "no". I would call whover you have to rsvp to and tell them you're a "no", but if it's okay, you'd like to come if you feel like you're still able to that day. I think they'd rather you come unexpectedly than not show up. And if you can't go, maybe someone can go to the shower that day with your gifts and sentiments so that she knows you're thinking of her!
Good luck and don't feel bad! It's out of your control!
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| Posted 4/21/11 7:41 AM |
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julesrbf
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I am positive that your friend will be understanding about missing her pre-wedding events. Just bad timing! 
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| Posted 4/21/11 7:55 AM |
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CloudNine
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
i would speak to whoever is taking care of the rsvp's for the shower and let them know the situation. see if its possible to give a last minute cancellation if you had to.
if you dont go though, i would still get her a gift and have it sent to her shower.
as for the bachelorette party, maybe you can just do dinner if its local. you never know, you may want to get out of the house for a bit at that point!
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| Posted 4/21/11 8:16 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I think you could make it to the shower in June -- but the bachelorette party is likely not going to be easy to go to.
Your friend will understand -- you are going to go to what you can!
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| Posted 4/21/11 8:21 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I would talk to her about it, tell her you will play it by ear. I am SURE she will understand if you can't make it
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| Posted 4/21/11 8:33 AM |
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Twinzmommy2B
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Thanks ladies for your advice!! It's very helpful!!!
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| Posted 4/21/11 8:47 AM |
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Lisagail55
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
If dinner is local I would go to that. If it's all in the city I'm SURE they would understand you saying no! And def go to the shower.
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:00 AM |
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caps612
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I am sure she will understand that you probably will not be able to go.... I had a bridesmaid that was due around when we wanted to have my bach party.... no matter what we did it would have been a bad date, she had a hard pregnancy... her health and the baby was more important to me than her coming... and even if she had it before ai can't imagine her wanting to leave for a day/wknd and he even feeling up to it....she didn't come, i still love her and her baby! 
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:11 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I'd attend the Bridal Shower, and decline the Bach Party -
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:17 AM |
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I'd go to the shower and probably forego the bachelorette party. Its totally understandable.
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:20 AM |
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Nayia
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
what I do when I have to RSVP to something is say "if I'm not on bed rest or in labor I will be there"
Im not due till technically June and the docs were assuming min May. I doubt I will even get that far at this point but i have responded to baby showers and stuff saying exactly that. They will understand!!
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:27 AM |
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jax1
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Posted by MarisaK
I'd attend the Bridal Shower, and decline the Bach Party -
ITA. I'm sure whatever you do, your friend will understand!
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| Posted 4/21/11 10:45 AM |
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wingsofsong
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Posted by teaforthree
Just put off your delivery until September...
Just kidding... obviously the situation's out of your hands and the timing just plain $ucks for being able to attend these events. I'm sure she will understand.
So, the bachelorette party is definitely out.
I would guess that the bridal shower is PROBABLY a "no". I would call whover you have to rsvp to and tell them you're a "no", but if it's okay, you'd like to come if you feel like you're still able to that day. I think they'd rather you come unexpectedly than not show up. And if you can't go, maybe someone can go to the shower that day with your gifts and sentiments so that she knows you're thinking of her!
Good luck and don't feel bad! It's out of your control!
ITA with this!
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| Posted 4/21/11 11:37 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Posted by teaforthree
I would call whover you have to rsvp to and tell them you're a "no", but if it's okay, you'd like to come if you feel like you're still able to that day. I think they'd rather you come unexpectedly than not show up.
This is exactly what my friend did for my wedding. She told me she really wanted to be there but her due date was the day after my wedding. She said we will be there if we can. I counted her as a no but saved her a seat just in case. Good thing I did because her and her DH were there ripping it up! I was thrilled they could be there. She had the baby the next day.
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| Posted 4/21/11 12:46 PM |
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wcs3504
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
I’m sure she knows your due date and is probably already aware that you may not attend some of the events… But I would tell her first before you RSVP. The Shower you could go to. Depending on when you actually have the babies, would you just go to the dinner for her bachelorette party and skip out on the rest?
I went to the movies with my sister and cousin 4 ½ weeks post partum. Although I was worried and texted DH (at one point he told me he was shutting the phone off since I kept bothering him) everything was fine. And thinking back now, I’m glad we did go out. Not only did it give me some alone time, but that was the last time the three of us were out alone without DH, boyfriends, kids…
Whatever you decide to do, I’m sure your friend will understand.
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| Posted 4/21/11 12:47 PM |
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MissingLI
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Posted by MarisaK
I'd attend the Bridal Shower, and decline the Bach Party -
I would do this as well.
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| Posted 4/21/11 12:55 PM |
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casey31
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
If the shower is in June and you think baby will come in early July, there is no reason you can't go to the shower- you are just going to be sitting and eating.
Bachelorette party is a no- but of course she will understand!
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| Posted 4/21/11 4:01 PM |
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Twinzmommy2B
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Re: Need advice on upcoming shower / bachelorette
Thank you all so much! I'm going to decline the bachelorette party and hope to attend the shower as long as I'm not on bed rest or giving birth! My decision is just so difficult since I don't know when the twins will arrive. I know they'll be here way before July 3rd!!
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| Posted 4/21/11 6:23 PM |
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