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rojerono
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Need Fast Advice...
Noah has been a horror show today. He's clearly over-tired, he's angsty and he's plain bratty.
He has a birthday party in 1 hour. I bought the gift and replied yes.
While I was at the store picking up supper, Rob told Noah that he would not be allowed to go too the party if he continued to throw fits.
Well... he screamed and hit his brother no more than 2 minutes after that threat.
So.. clearly we should folllow through. But I feel badly for the kid who is having the bday party and the mom who already paid for Noah's slot.
Should etiquette trump discipline in this situation?
I should add that Noah is CONTINUING to be horrible as we speak. He is totally out of sorts and making us INSANE!
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Posted 4/11/09 11:58 AM |
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
Wow that is tough. If you used the party as a punishment, then IMO you have to follow through. I would think that another mom would understand that.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:01 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
How old is your son? The "experts" say never to make a threat that you can't or won't follow though on. I personally would not have made that threat, but since it has already been done, in my mind it depends upon the age of the child. Five or older then I would just drop off the gift, with you and the child in the car and have the spouse bring it in. That way the child knows he is being punished.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:03 PM |
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InShock
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
I would take him to the party but be VERY clear as to why you're taking him, i.e. that you don't want HIS poor behavior to ruin his friend's birthday. You are taking him to the party FOR HIS FRIEND. When he gets home from the party, perhaps follow through with a consequence of no TV or something.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:04 PM |
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ml110
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i think you have to follow through on the punishment. i work with kids at a school, and you definitely have to show them that you mean what you say. otherwise, they just aren't going to take you seriously and it all snowballs.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:14 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
Posted by InShock
I would take him to the party but be VERY clear as to why you're taking him, i.e. that you don't want HIS poor behavior to ruin his friend's birthday. You are taking him to the party FOR HIS FRIEND. When he gets home from the party, perhaps follow through with a consequence of no TV or something.
I agree with this
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Posted 4/11/09 12:20 PM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by InShock
I would take him to the party but be VERY clear as to why you're taking him, i.e. that you don't want HIS poor behavior to ruin his friend's birthday. You are taking him to the party FOR HIS FRIEND. When he gets home from the party, perhaps follow through with a consequence of no TV or something.
I agree with this
I also agree !
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Posted 4/11/09 12:22 PM |
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ChrisDee
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
This is why I always tell DH to never threaten with something you can not or will not follow though with!
Good Luck
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Posted 4/11/09 12:23 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
Thanks guys.. I am not taking him to the party. Rob will stop by and drop off the gift.
Noah's five and we've been very consistant with him so he knew Rob was serious when he told him no party.. but he is at this really odd stage where he KEEPS pushing at every corner.
I was considering taking him, but since he has not stopped with the tantrums today - and since he smacked Robbie AGAIN right after my first post - he is absolutely finished and there will be no party for him.
I hope the mom understands.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:23 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
I saw your update.
Message edited 4/11/2009 12:24:23 PM.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:23 PM |
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Violet
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
I think I would follow through with the punishment so he knows mom & dad means business. And send the birthday kid the gift with apologies to his mom, I am sure she will understand.
ETA: Just saw your update
Message edited 4/11/2009 12:28:00 PM.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:26 PM |
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2BEANS
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
Posted by LSP2005
How old is your son? The "experts" say never to make a threat that you can't or won't follow though on. I personally would not have made that threat, but since it has already been done, in my mind it depends upon the age of the child. Five or older then I would just drop off the gift, with you and the child in the car and have the spouse bring it in. That way the child knows he is being punished.
I agree.. but totally a tough situation.. b/c I know me personally would end up letting my dd go b/c im a sucker.
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Posted 4/11/09 12:34 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Need Fast Advice...
as much as it might stink for the kid whose party it is, i think that what is important here is that you are being consistent and following through.
of course i've never been in your shoes but i think you are doing a great job.
i hope today gets easier
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Posted 4/11/09 12:35 PM |
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