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eddiesmommy
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Even if I viewed it as asking for gifts (which I dont)....I would never ever call or think my good friends tacky. If you know your friend, wouldnt you know their true intentions, and for my friends it would be a gathering of us to celebrate....with gifts. Even if the intention was for gifts.....I would have ZERO problem with giving my friend a gift. I just dont understand.
Dont birthday invites come with the unspoken expectation of a gift? Do you think its tacky to be invited to a birthday gathering for a friend even if they had one just a year before and you brought them a gift then?
Why is it OK to bring the same baby gifts every year at a party for its birthday but not for said baby's actual birth?
This makes no sense to me.
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I cannot for the life of me understand why anyone would be "against" a sprinkle. All it is for is celebrating the life of a new child. If they don't like it they can RSVP no. And I honestly do not think it matters about the baby being the same sex. I hope you get your sprinkle 
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CrankyPants
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I don't have an issue with them, though I didn't have one myself.
Like some say, I think it depends on your circle as to whether or not they would be acceptable.
That said-let's call a spade a spade, all baby showers, bridal showers etc are at once a celebration that comes with an expectation of a gift.
Some think you only get 1 bridal shower, 1 engagement party, 1 big wedding and 1 baby shower per lifetime regardless of whether you get married a second time, break off an engagement or have more kids.
Me? I don't care-as long as you have wine, I'm there gift in hand, no questions asked and no judgement. If you don't have wine, well, then you are tacky
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:30 PM |
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sarahbelle
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by eddiesmommy
I never understand people being offended or thinking it tacky bc they were invited to a Sprinkle. I dont care if there is 10 months between kids or 10 years, I would always be more than happy to celebrate the birth of a child with a friend. I would also be more than happy to bring a gift for them.....these are my FRIENDS. I consider it sharing in their joy. I celebrate their birthday and give them a gift for it every year.....I find that far less important that the birth of a child and I do it. Sprinkle or not, Id give them a gift anyway, so I dont seem the harm.
I say invite them, maybe put "your presence will be gift enough" on it for those that would be offended and dont want to bring a gift.
ITA.
If you were my good friend, I would go to your sprinkle and I would have a gift regardless of what the invite said.
I would be surprised if it was a really elaborate shower, but I would just assume you are blessed with very generous friends and family. I wouldn't call my friend tacky.
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:31 PM |
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by CrankyPants
Me? I don't care-as long as you have wine, I'm there gift in hand, no questions asked and no judgement. If you don't have wine, well, then you are tacky
This I agree with
Just to clarify, if I were invited to a sprinkle, I'd never bad mouth a friend for it and would happily attend. I was trying to give the perspective of my family/friends where it's just not done...
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:36 PM |
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mamabear
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
My kids were close. I didn't have a sprinkle. I didn't need anything, and Im pretty sure people would have been annoyed. I did feel a little bad like the second baby wasnt as exciting to others, even though it was to me.
I think your sentiment is very nice. I just thought of a nice idea that I really dont think anyone could say is tacky. how about having a little brunch to honor the baby where you make things for the new baby. You supply all the goods. Make it like an arts and crafts party. Buy some onesies that people can paint and decorate with messages. Some books that people can write notes to the baby in. A mural that is outlined and people can paint different sections. Paper, scissors, etc where people can write cards to the new baby. I can't see that being tacky or greedy at all and actually think that could be a really sweet, fun time.
and of course..many congrats to you
ETA--you asked about wording for an invite. How about putting something like "All You Need Is Love" at the top of the invite, and then giving details, saying no presents/registry, etc.
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
The idea of throwing a sprinkle/shower for yourself is kinda weird to me. 
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:37 PM |
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KrisT
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by MarisaK
I personally am not a fan of 'sprinkles' - I think, as you said, they are pretentious and seem like the couple is 'looking for gifts" -
However, part of the reason I feel this way is b/c in my family and circle of friends we always bring the baby / Mommy a gift when the baby is born and we go to meet him/her - There are HUGE Baptism celebrations and 1st Brithdays - so, in our circle, a 'sprinkle' is just overkill
I think it really depends on your invite list - You'll get completely mixed opinions on this
I agree!
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:41 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Not a fan of the whole sprinkle thing. I didn't even have a shower for ds ( well we lived oos, and Im sure I would have had we lived here) and still wouldn't have one if we had another.
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:42 PM |
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mosa77
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
my family threw my sister a shower/sprinkle for every child she had i believe each child is special and should be celebrated i mean she didnt register for anything big again just little things it was totally our decision to have it she said she didnt want one because she was afraid it was tacky but we did it anyway....the people that came didnt mind or think it was pretenious
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:49 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
My sprinkle was small just mmediate family- mom step mom grandmothers and all my sisters. They bought gifts. We will do tthe same for each baby in the family.
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| Posted 11/17/10 4:49 PM |
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Kate
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I think it's tacky if you throw it for yourself. If a friend wants to throw you one, then I think it's fine.
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| Posted 11/17/10 5:11 PM |
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usuk2004
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by mamabear
I just thought of a nice idea that I really dont think anyone could say is tacky. how about having a little brunch to honor the baby where you make things for the new baby. You supply all the goods. Make it like an arts and crafts party. Buy some onesies that people can paint and decorate with messages. Some books that people can write notes to the baby in. A mural that is outlined and people can paint different sections. Paper, scissors, etc where people can write cards to the new baby. I can't see that being tacky or greedy at all and actually think that could be a really sweet, fun time.
I think that's a lovely idea.
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| Posted 11/17/10 5:46 PM |
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Dollface
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I don't like "sprinkles" but I do like "meet the baby" parties.
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| Posted 11/17/10 5:50 PM |
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by eddiesmommy
I never understand people being offended or thinking it tacky bc they were invited to a Sprinkle. I dont care if there is 10 months between kids or 10 years, I would always be more than happy to celebrate the birth of a child with a friend. I would also be more than happy to bring a gift for them.....these are my FRIENDS. I consider it sharing in their joy. I celebrate their birthday and give them a gift for it every year.....I find that far less important that the birth of a child and I do it. Sprinkle or not, Id give them a gift anyway, so I dont seem the harm.
I say invite them, maybe put "your presence will be gift enough" on it for those that would be offended and dont want to bring a gift.
ITA. I had a sprinkle for my 2nd, and I really didn't care what anyone thought. If you thought it was tacky or didn't want to give a gift, then don't come, or don't bring a gift. But I wanted to celebrate baby #2 the same way #1 was celebrated. Plus I was having a different sex.
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by CrankyPants
Me? I don't care-as long as you have wine, I'm there gift in hand, no questions asked and no judgement. If you don't have wine, well, then you are tacky
Same here! 
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| Posted 11/17/10 6:45 PM |
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SecretTTCer
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Personally, I wouldn't have one. I would feel funny.
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ChrisDee
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
My mom wanted to give me a Sprinkle. It took us 7 years to have another child(we lost 4) I was against it but caved in to 10 people at her house for lunch. It was awesome! It was my SIL's, my Aunt, 2 cousins, my BFF, and my mom and her BFF and me. It was about celebrating the baby(Finally) and not about gifts.
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| Posted 11/17/10 7:59 PM |
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
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I think sprinkles are fine but I would never throw one for myself.
Ditto- this is something someone else typically does for you. Maybe your friends who knows what you went through will do something?
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| Posted 11/17/10 8:07 PM |
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LulaBell
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I wouldn't throw a sprinkle for myself but I don't mind sprinkles. We threw a sprinkle in June for a friend who had boys 20 months apart. I agree every baby should be celebrated, I just wouldn't host the party myself.
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I didn't want one for myself, but I would attend one. I don't see anything wrong with it but it just wasn't for me.
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| Posted 11/17/10 8:24 PM |
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CucumberGirl
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
Posted by eddiesmommy
I never understand people being offended or thinking it tacky bc they were invited to a Sprinkle. I dont care if there is 10 months between kids or 10 years, I would always be more than happy to celebrate the birth of a child with a friend. I would also be more than happy to bring a gift for them.....these are my FRIENDS. I consider it sharing in their joy. I celebrate their birthday and give them a gift for it every year.....I find that far less important that the birth of a child and I do it. Sprinkle or not, Id give them a gift anyway, so I dont seem the harm.
I say invite them, maybe put "your presence will be gift enough" on it for those that would be offended and dont want to bring a gift.
ITA. I don't think it's a big deal at all and I fully support sprinkles. I often get gifts for additional babies anyway, sprinkle or not so I don't see where the controversy comes from. If the recipient of an invite is offended, then they can simply not attend and not send a gift.
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| Posted 11/17/10 8:56 PM |
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I would go to one, but I would never want one when we have #2 just as if, GOD forbid I would ever be widowed or divorce, I would never have a 2nd wedding shower.
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| Posted 11/17/10 8:58 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I didn't want a sprinkle for my second, but my mother and sister did it anyway.
It was my mom, sister, grandmother, aunts and three close friends. People that would normally be close by as it is. We had some food, celebrated the excitement of the new day and they gave me the gifts they were going to buy for me anyway.
At least, that's how my mom explained it.
I see nothing wrong with a sprinkle now that I've had one.
I like an excuse to buy some cute baby clothes
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| Posted 11/17/10 9:15 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Need HONSET opinions-Sprinkle question
I wouldn't throw it for myself but I have nothing against them. I'd love to go to an intimate gathering to celebrate a new baby coming into this world.
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