Need quick advice/thoughts - stupid kindof

dh buys me dead flowers all the time
but not on purpose

today he left me a dead plant on the kitychen table- its rotting - but he left a sweet note with it


i had a big deal at work today happen and part of me feels - he could have went to the florist to get me flowers (not but any crap at the supermarket) then part of me feels like im unappreciative for being annoyed at the dead plant

maybe im just annoyed that hes not home tonight

i dont know- what would you do?

Message edited 8/9/2007 2:35:12 PM.

Re: Need quick advice/thoughts - stupid kindof

It's really sweet of him to think of you.

Drop hints at some "nicer" places to buy flowers.

Go have a glass of vino and relax! And, congrats on your big day!

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It's dead???? Like not just a little dry, or wilted, but dead?

If it was me, I would leave it in the exact same place that he left it in and not say a word, even if it takes a week. Wait for him to say something about it. Then say that you didn't have a clue that it was for anything since it was DEAD!

I'm sorry, but it just seems mean to me that he got you something dead. How could he not notice.

And for whatever big happened at work,here's some flowers

Message edited 8/8/2007 9:23:46 PM.

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Say to him that you really appreciate the though of getting flowers. But next time be careful on which ones you pick out because these are dead.

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Ok, my DH bought me a very odd combination of flowers for this past birthday. A few weeks later we were walking out of the subway and I was eyeing this beautiful bok that this guy was holding and my DH goes, do you like those? Do you want me to buy you those? I think it takes time for them to understand. Next time you see nice flowers in a magazine or in person-point them out to him. Congrats on your accomplishment at work!

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thanks ladies.

i guess i a little sensitive.

thanks girls

Message edited 8/9/2007 2:34:44 PM.

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I once got a half-dead dozen roses for Valentine's Day from DH (that he spent a ton of $$$ on too). I thanked him and then told him they were dead. That was the last time I got flowers from DH. And this was at least three years ago. lol.

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It took a long time for me to train DH about flowers.

I don't care where he gets them or how much he spends (i always hope he doesn't spend a lot) just make sure they are beautiful and *gasp* alive.

Tell him..hints don't work.

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Its not stupid at all! I can see myself being sensitive to something like that as well. Maybe you can casually ask him where he gets the flowers/plants from, and when he answers just nicely say " it seems that they die so quickly or are wilted when you buy them. Maybe you should try a different place so at least you get your money worth?"

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I think that the thought is what counts the most...maybe he didn't have time to get you something a little nicer...I would thank him for the plant/flowers and suggest that maybe next time instead of the dead flowers he can just give you a card...so that he doens't waste his money on plants/flowers that need to be thrwon out the next day...

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I think I would feel like there wasn't much thought going into the gift and that would be somewhat bothersome to me.

It's nice to get someone flowers but the fact that he doesn't pay enough attention to them to see they're dead or dying leads me to believe it's just something he does w/o really putting any thought into it.

I understand how you're feeling...I think it's just the "female" in you. He probably thinks he's doing something nice for you!

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aweeee.... I see both sides....... I would still be happy b/c the thought was there........

I went through this w/ DH a while ago....... he use to send me flowers alllll the time....... my peeve was that he spent soooo much money and they would die within three days... I hate seeing dead flowers....I eventually told him that I appreciated the thought, but it bothered me to have them die so quickly and if the mood struck him to suprise me w/something to please choose a nice healthy plant that I can always have and care for........He didn't mind since his ultimate goal was to make me happy....... we now have lots of plants

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I just wanted to say Congrats Pork on whatever your good news at work was
As for the dead plant....errrrrrrrrr

I miss you around here

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Mel...

If it makes you feel better..I RARELY get flowers or plants so he makes up for the men that dont do anything.

I hear ya though...and yes, tell him how you feel.

I miss you too! Hate that u actually WORK!

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Congrats on the good news at work!


Sounds like your DH was thinking, but not putting much "thought" into it...
Right train, wrong track....

Is it possible, just maybe, that he keeps buying you dead plants/flowers just to see how long it will be before you say something to him? Like a long, on-going joke?

I'm sure your hubby is very, very proud of you!

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