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CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

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New Life Rule

Do NOT allow your know it all MIL to come to your first new home the DAY after you move in. She will shoot down all your decorating ideas, tell you she hates the colors you have picked, will buy you endless things you didn't ask for so your DH thinks she is God, and you will feel isolated, alone and hate your new home.

I trust that all of you would not be as incredibly stupid as I was to allow this to happen. If my DH does not start to support me on how she is running my new home(arranging the furniture in a different way while I was at work)Chat Icon then I may have to leave him and let him live with his mom forever and ever.

Thanks for that vent veiled as a life lesson. I feel much better now.

Posted 7/7/06 11:56 AM
 
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baghag
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You can always tell her that when she pays the mortgage, she can decorate it however she likes.

Posted 7/7/06 11:57 AM
 

pmpkn087
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Re: New Life Rule

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You can always tell her that when she pays the mortgage, she can decorate it however she likes.



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I agree with Rebecca.

Posted 7/7/06 11:58 AM
 

Ambersmom
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Re: New Life Rule

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You can always tell her that when she pays the mortgage, she can decorate it however she likes.



No way girlfriendChat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Because what if she really ponied up the money??Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 11:58 AM
 

JodiBabe
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Posted 7/7/06 11:58 AM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

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Christine

Re: New Life Rule

Posted by baghag

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You can always tell her that when she pays the mortgage, she can decorate it however she likes.



I really think I am going to tell her that she had several homes to decorate without interference and I would appreciate the same.

Posted 7/7/06 12:00 PM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

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Christine

Re: New Life Rule

Posted by Ambersmom

Posted by baghag

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You can always tell her that when she pays the mortgage, she can decorate it however she likes.



No way girlfriendChat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Because what if she really ponied up the money??Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon



Trust me she would- she uses money to control people. That why she keeps buying us stuff.

Posted 7/7/06 12:01 PM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: New Life Rule

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Hey as long as she didn't LIVE there, I may actually be able to tolerate fake Orient decor.Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 12:01 PM
 

janet
WITH LOVE MY ANGEL MISS YOU!!!

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Re: New Life Rule

thanks for the help that i did not need now if you don't mind please put it back the way i had it!

Posted 7/7/06 12:01 PM
 

oneday
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Re: New Life Rule

I'm sorry you are having to deal with that! I'm lucky, my MIL is awesone, but my best friend's MIL did similar things when she was at her house for her wedding. My friend woke up in a cold sweat on her wedding night saying to herself "I have to divorce him or get this annulled - I can not be married into HER family!!!" Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Her MIL was "helping" her get the house ready for everyone by buying new plants (that my friend didn't even want, with my friends money), and deciding that the light fixture in the kitchen needed to be moved, that they needed valances in the living room-amongst other things. She's a whacko. Chat Icon

I hope you can get your DH to see what's going on and put a stop to it NOW!!!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 12:04 PM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

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Christine

Re: New Life Rule

Honestly, if my DH was supporting me I would be fine and just wait to decorate when she leaves. But he's not- when I tried to talk to him last night he said, I am sick of being both sides of this- Ummm... this is the first I mentioned it since I was trying to be patient so how many conversations have you had with HER about ME!

Instead of saying that though, I said, F that, I am your wife- you don't need to hear both sides at all. At that point he stormed at the room, moved the couch back where I had it just to be a jerk and show his mom that I was being a bit*h and we haven't spoken since. But on the way to bathroom, I saw him with his head in HER room having a nice chat about me. I am so angry at him, I can't even tell you.

Posted 7/7/06 12:09 PM
 

MrsPorkChop
Twinning!!

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Missy

Re: New Life Rule

omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
are you freaking kidding me?????

what a nut! who the HELLL is she to do that!!!!!!!!!!!!
i think i would have a nervous breakdown dealing with that


keep her out of your home!!! im sooo sorry Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 12:11 PM
 

jilmadison
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I'm so sorry you have to deal with that!


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Posted 7/7/06 12:12 PM
 

Ambersmom
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Re: New Life Rule

Posted by CkGm

Honestly, if my DH was supporting me I would be fine and just wait to decorate when she leaves. But he's not- when I tried to talk to him last night he said, I am sick of being both sides of this- Ummm... this is the first I mentioned it since I was trying to be patient so how many conversations have you had with HER about ME!

Instead of saying that though, I said, F that, I am your wife- you don't need to hear both sides at all. At that point he stormed at the room, moved the couch back where I had it just to be a jerk and show his mom that I was being a bit*h and we haven't spoken since. But on the way to bathroom, I saw him with his head in HER room having a nice chat about me. I am so angry at him, I can't even tell you.



Why are YOU being the b!tch for wanting YOUR couch where YOU want it?!? Stand your ground girlfriend. Your home, your stuff, your preference. Period.

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Posted 7/7/06 12:14 PM
 

Stacey1403
Where it all began....

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Chat Icon I would be sooo p*ssed!!!

I think you need to throw in the pregnant card. Make him feel bad for fighting with his poor pregnant wife when he should know that she needs his support now more than ever while carrying his childChat Icon

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Posted 7/7/06 12:15 PM
 

jenny
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Posted 7/7/06 12:16 PM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Christine

Re: New Life Rule

Posted by Stacey1403

Chat Icon I would be sooo p*ssed!!!

I think you need to throw in the pregnant card. Make him feel bad for fighting with his poor pregnant wife when he should know that she needs his support now more than ever while carrying his childChat Icon

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I wish that stuff worked on him- he's just going to shut down and ignore me and then try to make nice later when he thinks I got over this. Luckily he goes away tonight for a week and I bringing my MIL to her other son's house tomorrow. I can't wait till Sunday. I am going to paint the whole house in every color I WANT!

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Posted 7/7/06 12:26 PM
 

Laura1976

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Laura

Re: New Life Rule

is she almost gone??
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i'll be thinking of you tonight at Bourbon Street on Bell tonight!

Posted 7/7/06 12:28 PM
 

Baboots
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Re: New Life Rule

Posted by CkGm

Honestly, if my DH was supporting me I would be fine and just wait to decorate when she leaves. But he's not- when I tried to talk to him last night he said, I am sick of being both sides of this- Ummm... this is the first I mentioned it since I was trying to be patient so how many conversations have you had with HER about ME!

Instead of saying that though, I said, F that, I am your wife- you don't need to hear both sides at all. At that point he stormed at the room, moved the couch back where I had it just to be a jerk and show his mom that I was being a bit*h and we haven't spoken since. But on the way to bathroom, I saw him with his head in HER room having a nice chat about me. I am so angry at him, I can't even tell you.




Umm, do we have the same mil????? My dh too always say this...about taking sides. It makes me so angry..Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 12:49 PM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

Member since 5/05

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Christine

Re: New Life Rule

Posted by Laura1976

is she almost gone??
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i'll be thinking of you tonight at Bourbon Street on Bell tonight!



One more night and morning and then she leaves to my BIL house.

AWWWW... Bourbon Street- enjoy dinner- I hope they have the lobster special again.

Posted 7/7/06 1:07 PM
 

CkGm
They get so big, so fast :(

Member since 5/05

13848 total posts

Name:
Christine

Re: New Life Rule

Posted by Baboots

Posted by CkGm

Honestly, if my DH was supporting me I would be fine and just wait to decorate when she leaves. But he's not- when I tried to talk to him last night he said, I am sick of being both sides of this- Ummm... this is the first I mentioned it since I was trying to be patient so how many conversations have you had with HER about ME!

Instead of saying that though, I said, F that, I am your wife- you don't need to hear both sides at all. At that point he stormed at the room, moved the couch back where I had it just to be a jerk and show his mom that I was being a bit*h and we haven't spoken since. But on the way to bathroom, I saw him with his head in HER room having a nice chat about me. I am so angry at him, I can't even tell you.




Umm, do we have the same mil????? My dh too always say this...about taking sides. It makes me so angry..Chat Icon Chat Icon



Glad to know I am not alone. I really don't know what to do- he doesn't even see what she does as wrong or intrusive.

Posted 7/7/06 1:08 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: New Life Rule

Posted by baghag

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You can always tell her that when she pays the mortgage, she can decorate it however she likes.

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I AGREE!!!!

Posted 7/7/06 1:08 PM
 

MsMBV
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Me

Re: New Life Rule

Posted by CkGm

Do NOT allow your know it all MIL to come to your first new home the DAY after you move in. She will shoot down all your decorating ideas, tell you she hates the colors you have picked, will buy you endless things you didn't ask for so your DH thinks she is God, and you will feel isolated, alone and hate your new home.

I trust that all of you would not be as incredibly stupid as I was to allow this to happen. If my DH does not start to support me on how she is running my new home(arranging the furniture in a different way while I was at work)Chat Icon then I may have to leave him and let him live with his mom forever and ever.

Thanks for that vent veiled as a life lesson. I feel much better now.

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ps, mine *helped* me moveChat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 1:09 PM
 

Stefanie

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Stefanie

Re: New Life Rule

I won't even start with MIL's...Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 1:34 PM
 

LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here

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Well I have learned that you need to speak up and say something!!!!! Until you put an end to it she will never stop! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon We need a MIL support group! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 7/7/06 1:39 PM
 
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