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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
The article was NOT ABOUT CHILDREN! Anything I said was in reference to the article about ADULTS. I cant be any clearer about that. If they want to make it personal and about their children I cant help that. And for the 400th time, I EVEN SAID that I am sure what they are dealing with is a VERY REAL issue.
What is your deal? I cant anymore.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
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The article was NOT ABOUT CHILDREN! Anything I said was in reference to the article about ADULTS. I cant be any clearer about that. If they want to make it personal and about their children I cant help that. And for the 400th time, I EVEN SAID that I am sure what they are dealing with is a VERY REAL issue.
What is your deal? I cant anymore.
I didn't quote you until you quoted me. I didn't make mention of a prior statement you said prior to your quoting me. I didn't ask you to explain any prior points that you made.
You quoted me with "Nothing of the sort was said. " and I pointed out one of the things I found a little offensive.
What do you mean, by what's my deal? I didn't make this personal but you are trying to. As you said, and I quote..."I can't anymore."
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
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Posted by eddiesmommy
The article was NOT ABOUT CHILDREN! Anything I said was in reference to the article about ADULTS. I cant be any clearer about that. If they want to make it personal and about their children I cant help that. And for the 400th time, I EVEN SAID that I am sure what they are dealing with is a VERY REAL issue.
What is your deal? I cant anymore.
I didn't quote you until you quoted me. I didn't make mention of a prior statement you said prior to your quoting me. I didn't ask you to explain any prior points that you made.
You quoted me with "Nothing of the sort was said. " and I pointed out one of the things I found a little offensive.
What do you mean, by what's my deal? I didn't make this personal but you are trying to. As you said, and I quote..."I can't anymore."
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by cjik
Thanks for posting it. I've often wondered what made my child such a picky eater, did we do something wrong, etc. It sounds as if we missed the window for introducing new foods (up until 2 years) because he really couldn't manage a lot of table foods until he was almost 2. Gagging, choking, vomiting, etc.
It's so hard to watch your child go through this and yes, seem afraid of new food. I am hoping he will grow out of it in time.
My DS ate anything and everything until around age 2, then one by one cut out just about everything he use to love. I'm hoping he gets better as he gets older.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
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Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
That. Exactly THAT. And another post about a 2 year old having a tantrum disorder.
I get that YOU don't think that it is a DISORDER. That YOU don't have an issue with YOUR PICKY EATING. While the article points to ADULTS - it was adults who learned their eating habits in early childhood. My child is a picky eater too. He also looks like he's on concentration camp victim. So if you don't think I am going to take issue with a SERIOUS eating disorder that I said I can identify with & my child has it, you can go take a flying leap.
I am done with this thread - because if I were to continue with the vision of the skeleton that was snuggled next to me this morning there is no question, I will get thrown off this board.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
this is ridiculous at this point........I dont know what part of.... I was referencing the article about adults, that I have to make clear.
I do not see how this can be misconstrued as me talking about other peoples children, and how it does not appear that I was referring to myself as the lines that followed the sentence that keeps getting quoted, directly after that, in the SAME response, it said
"Im an EXTREMELY picky eater, as is my DS. I do not consider myself to have a disorder.....Im just a pain in the arse and picky about what I eat. Different people have different food preferences, mine lean towards the limited sort."
Please make note of my use of "I", "I'm", "Mine" and "myself". I said *I* do not CONSIDER MYSELF to have a disorder. Is that not my prerogative to determine how I consider myself?
Someone show me where I said, "I dont believe your child has a disorder or a real issue with food?"
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by nrthshgrl
Am I the only one that is getting aggravated at the responses pooh-poohing a serious issue that I'm having with my kid?
No and if you don't have to deal with it on a daily basis, I think it's hard to even understand what others are talking about.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
That. Exactly THAT. And another post about a 2 year old having a tantrum disorder.
I get that YOU don't think that it is a DISORDER. That YOU don't have an issue with YOUR PICKY EATING. While the article points to ADULTS - it was adults who learned their eating habits in early childhood. My child is a picky eater too. He also looks like he's on concentration camp victim. So if you don't think I am going to take issue with a SERIOUS eating disorder that I said I can identify with & my child has it, you can go take a flying leap.
I am done with this thread - because if I were to continue with the vision of the skeleton that was snuggled next to me this morning there is no question, I will get thrown off this board.
Ive said though that Ive never said it wasnt a real issue. I dont know why you are on my case bc I said that I dont believe the article about adults and how it pertains to my eating habits and how I view myself. I made NO REFERENCE to anyones child, their habits, that it wasnt a real issue, that you were making it up. Just that I dont think adult "picky" eaters need to be labeled with a disorder. I understand this is a very real thing for you, that this is a hot button issue for but I was NOT talking about you, or ANY child. That is you internalizing what I said about an article labeling ADULTS with "selective eating disorder" and I get that, but its still not what I said.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by morgie124
Remember, it wasn't that long ago that children that fell on the PDD spectrum where just thought to be quirky and odd. Yet, they suffered a disorder that needed therapy and help to develop coping skills.
This is also what I was thinking. If it is determined to be a disorder, then there is more research and help for people who have problems like this. How is that a bad thing?
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
picky eaters aren't being labeled as having a disorder.
research is suggesting that SOME COULD.
if this doesn't pertain to you or yours, then fine.
but if this research and having a diagnostic code can help those it DOES pertain to, WHY is there something wrong with that.
I am an anxious person. I don't consider myself to go as far as to have an anxiety disorder, but I know that some do.
so just b/c my anxiety doesn't reach as deep as someone elses, I don't care that the phrase" anxiety disorder" exists.
I think this needs to die quickyl.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by Ophelia
picky eaters aren't being labeled as having a disorder.
research is suggesting that SOME COULD.
if this doesn't pertain to you or yours, then fine.
but if this research and having a diagnostic code can help those it DOES pertain to, WHY is there something wrong with that.
I am an anxious person. I don't consider myself to go as far as to have an anxiety disorder, but I know that some do.
so just b/c my anxiety doesn't reach as deep as someone elses, I don't care that the phrase" anxiety disorder" exists.
I think this needs to die quickyl.
this is what I said though....I said and I quote "I do not consider myself to have a disorder." I never said no one else couldnt consider their DC to have a disorder, or that they were wrong for thinking so.
And I know you werent directly referencing me, but what you said, is exactly what I said in my initial post.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by eddiesmommy
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
this is ridiculous at this point........I dont know what part of.... I was referencing the article about adults, that I have to make clear.
I do not see how this can be misconstrued as me talking about other peoples children, and how it does not appear that I was referring to myself as the lines that followed the sentence that keeps getting quoted, directly after that, in the SAME response, it said
"Im an EXTREMELY picky eater, as is my DS. I do not consider myself to have a disorder.....Im just a pain in the arse and picky about what I eat. Different people have different food preferences, mine lean towards the limited sort."
Please make note of my use of "I", "I'm", "Mine" and "myself". I said *I* do not CONSIDER MYSELF to have a disorder. Is that not my prerogative to determine how I consider myself?
Someone show me where I said, "I dont believe your child has a disorder or a real issue with food?"
I get it, you were talking about you and your situation. LB was pointing out why your initial statement was being taken offensively to some people and I agreed with her. You may not have meant it that way, but to come on and say another disorder, why can't they just be picky eaters can be read as dissmissive to people who feel like they are at their wits end with dealing with their child that wont eat.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Posted by eddiesmommy
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
this is ridiculous at this point........I dont know what part of.... I was referencing the article about adults, that I have to make clear.
I do not see how this can be misconstrued as me talking about other peoples children, and how it does not appear that I was referring to myself as the lines that followed the sentence that keeps getting quoted, directly after that, in the SAME response, it said
"Im an EXTREMELY picky eater, as is my DS. I do not consider myself to have a disorder.....Im just a pain in the arse and picky about what I eat. Different people have different food preferences, mine lean towards the limited sort."
Please make note of my use of "I", "I'm", "Mine" and "myself". I said *I* do not CONSIDER MYSELF to have a disorder. Is that not my prerogative to determine how I consider myself?
Someone show me where I said, "I dont believe your child has a disorder or a real issue with food?"
I get it, you were talking about you and your situation. LB was pointing out why your initial statement was being taken offensively to some people and I agreed with her. You may not have meant it that way, but to come on and say another disorder, why can't they just be picky eaters can be read as dissmissive to people who feel like they are at their wits end with dealing with their child that wont eat.
I understand that, but my frustration lies in the fact that I was still having to defend what I said, even though I had explained what I meant halfway down the FIRST page and then over and over on the next 3 pages to no avail.
On the FIRST PAGE I addressed it and said : "This article was about adults, and I was addressing the article. No one said, that you dont have an actual issue or valid eating problems, no one is saying its all in your head or dont exist or isnt a big deal"........."And if goes beyond a picky eater for your son, then thats not what this thread or the article in it was about, it was addressing extreme preferences in adults, which is all I addressed. " I expressed the same sentiment repeatedly, to still then be quoted and called out on the initial statement, with no regard for the sentence that even followed it in the first post where I made it very clear I was only referring to myself. Never once in my subsequent responses did I try to refute how people personally felt about it or try to tell anyone that they did not have a valid concern.
That was frustrating. Its fine, it is what it is and amends have been made privately, but that was the source of my frustration.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by eddiesmommy
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Posted by eddiesmommy
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
this is ridiculous at this point........I dont know what part of.... I was referencing the article about adults, that I have to make clear.
I do not see how this can be misconstrued as me talking about other peoples children, and how it does not appear that I was referring to myself as the lines that followed the sentence that keeps getting quoted, directly after that, in the SAME response, it said
"Im an EXTREMELY picky eater, as is my DS. I do not consider myself to have a disorder.....Im just a pain in the arse and picky about what I eat. Different people have different food preferences, mine lean towards the limited sort."
Please make note of my use of "I", "I'm", "Mine" and "myself". I said *I* do not CONSIDER MYSELF to have a disorder. Is that not my prerogative to determine how I consider myself?
Someone show me where I said, "I dont believe your child has a disorder or a real issue with food?"
I get it, you were talking about you and your situation. LB was pointing out why your initial statement was being taken offensively to some people and I agreed with her. You may not have meant it that way, but to come on and say another disorder, why can't they just be picky eaters can be read as dissmissive to people who feel like they are at their wits end with dealing with their child that wont eat.
I understand that, but my frustration lies in the fact that I was still having to defend what I said, even though I had explained what I meant halfway down the FIRST page and then over and over on the next 3 pages to no avail.
On the FIRST PAGE I addressed it and said : "This article was about adults, and I was addressing the article. No one said, that you dont have an actual issue or valid eating problems, no one is saying its all in your head or dont exist or isnt a big deal"........."And if goes beyond a picky eater for your son, then thats not what this thread or the article in it was about, it was addressing extreme preferences in adults, which is all I addressed. " I expressed the same sentiment repeatedly, to still then be quoted and called out on the initial statement, with no regard for the sentence that even followed it in the first post where I made it very clear I was only referring to myself. Never once in my subsequent responses did I try to refute how people personally felt about it or try to tell anyone that they did not have a valid concern.
That was frustrating. Its fine, it is what it is and amends have been made privately, but that was the source of my frustration.
Holy cow you are dense. Obviously at this point everyone gets that you are talking about adults but you yourself stated that you have always been this way, clearly connecting the dots between how you ate as a child and how you eat as an adult. The adults referenced in this article did not all of a sudden develop an eating disorder and/or become picky eaters. So therefore it is quite clear that you were knocking any and all persons who might believe they have this type of disorder, child OR adult. And please don't pull the "who me?" card, because everyone knows your history around here.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by Karma
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Posted by MaMaTeenie
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by eddiesmommy
Oh lord.....does everything need to be a "disorder" now, honestly.
Melissa, this is what everyone is focusing on. Your wording, whily you MAY have been referring to yourself only (though it doesn't appear that way) is antagonizing to people who are having very difficult feeding issues with their kids and really identify with the article.
ETA: I DO agree that there are a lot of things that are now labeled as "disorders that I at... this isn't one of them.
I agree with you 100% LB.
this is ridiculous at this point........I dont know what part of.... I was referencing the article about adults, that I have to make clear.
I do not see how this can be misconstrued as me talking about other peoples children, and how it does not appear that I was referring to myself as the lines that followed the sentence that keeps getting quoted, directly after that, in the SAME response, it said
"Im an EXTREMELY picky eater, as is my DS. I do not consider myself to have a disorder.....Im just a pain in the arse and picky about what I eat. Different people have different food preferences, mine lean towards the limited sort."
Please make note of my use of "I", "I'm", "Mine" and "myself". I said *I* do not CONSIDER MYSELF to have a disorder. Is that not my prerogative to determine how I consider myself?
Someone show me where I said, "I dont believe your child has a disorder or a real issue with food?"
I get it, you were talking about you and your situation. LB was pointing out why your initial statement was being taken offensively to some people and I agreed with her. You may not have meant it that way, but to come on and say another disorder, why can't they just be picky eaters can be read as dissmissive to people who feel like they are at their wits end with dealing with their child that wont eat.
I understand that, but my frustration lies in the fact that I was still having to defend what I said, even though I had explained what I meant halfway down the FIRST page and then over and over on the next 3 pages to no avail.
On the FIRST PAGE I addressed it and said : "This article was about adults, and I was addressing the article. No one said, that you dont have an actual issue or valid eating problems, no one is saying its all in your head or dont exist or isnt a big deal"........."And if goes beyond a picky eater for your son, then thats not what this thread or the article in it was about, it was addressing extreme preferences in adults, which is all I addressed. " I expressed the same sentiment repeatedly, to still then be quoted and called out on the initial statement, with no regard for the sentence that even followed it in the first post where I made it very clear I was only referring to myself. Never once in my subsequent responses did I try to refute how people personally felt about it or try to tell anyone that they did not have a valid concern.
That was frustrating. Its fine, it is what it is and amends have been made privately, but that was the source of my frustration.
Holy cow you are dense. Obviously at this point everyone gets that you are talking about adults but you yourself stated that you have always been this way, clearly connecting the dots between how you ate as a child and how you eat as an adult. The adults referenced in this article did not all of a sudden develop an eating disorder and/or become picky eaters. So therefore it is quite clear that you were knocking any and all persons who might believe they have this type of disorder, child OR adult. And please don't pull the "who me?" card, because everyone knows your history around here.
As are you it seems, bc the point I was continually trying to make is that despite how it came off or was taken, I tried to make it clear for 3 pages that it was not my intent and was misunderstood, as you continue to do above. It was to no avail so I handled the matter privately with the parties I may have inadvertently upset. As I said, I have made amends with certain parties privately, and that is all that matters.
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
I think people are internalizing - like anything and everything discussed here, there are things that affect each of us personally, so we take offense to other's opinions ..........
I don't think anyone is saying that there are not people (children AND adults) that do have a legitimate eating disorder - and that this is one of them -
But the way *I* read that article, it made it sound, to *me* that they were taking those extreme and real disorder cases and lumping them together with just your average 'picky' eater ..........
Which to me, is ridiculous - and why *I* was the one who made the comparison to suddenly calling a 2 year old's tantrum a 'disorder' .........
I feel like when these studies are published all of a sudden there is this immediate panic that happens where everyone thinks they or their children have xyz disorder, there are 5 million mis-diagnoses and IMO the people who really DO have the legitimate disorders are kind of overshadowed by this sudden epedimic of whatever the 'new' thing is ..........
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Re: New research suggests picky eaters could suffer from a "selective eating disorder"
Posted by MarisaK
I think people are internalizing - like anything and everything discussed here, there are things that affect each of us personally, so we take offense to other's opinions ..........
I don't think anyone is saying that there are not people (children AND adults) that do have a legitimate eating disorder - and that this is one of them -
But the way *I* read that article, it made it sound, to *me* that they were taking those extreme and real disorder cases and lumping them together with just your average 'picky' eater ..........
Which to me, is ridiculous - and why *I* was the one who made the comparison to suddenly calling a 2 year old's tantrum a 'disorder' .........
I feel like when these studies are published all of a sudden there is this immediate panic that happens where everyone thinks they or their children have xyz disorder, there are 5 million mis-diagnoses and IMO the people who really DO have the legitimate disorders are kind of overshadowed by this sudden epedimic of whatever the 'new' thing is ..........
Wow this got crazy
Marisa I don't know about you but part of me wishes I could classify my 2-year-old DS's tantrums as a disorder because then someone could find a treatment for them.
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