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smith1234
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New some support
My sisters wedding is in 2 weeks out in Montauk. This wedding was planned long before I got pregnant. Since it's out in Montauk we booked rooms from Thus-Sat. DH and I are supposed to be going out last Thursday night and coming home early Sun morning. I just can't imagine leaving my daughter. My in-laws are babysitting and I have complete confidence leaving her with them. I just feel like the worst mommy. How can I leave her for 3 nights??!! They offered to bring her out there, but I still feel she is too young and is much better of safe in the house.
Am I terrible for going? I also can't imagine missing my sisters wedding. She has a bunch of stuff planned for us on Fri including a rehearsal dinner and day at the spa. What do I do? I'm so torn!
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Tracey
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Re: New some support
Awww, it'll be hard and you'll miss her like crazy, but at least she's in good hands. Who better than grandma and grandpa to look after her???
I think your sister would be a little upset if you didn't go. Do you have to go for the whole 3 days? Maybe she'll understand if you bail on the rehearsal dinner and spa.
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| Posted 9/8/06 7:56 PM |
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Tany
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Re: New some support
I agree with Tracey, she is still so little she won't even realize.
Have fun !!
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| Posted 9/8/06 8:02 PM |
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Calla
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Re: New some support
You absolutely have to go to your sister's wedding and the rehearsal dinner but that should just require one night away.
I'm not sure I could have handled being away from the baby for three days though. (Of course she is 17 months now, and I haven't been away from her for more than 6 hours, so maybe I'm a nut. LOL)
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| Posted 9/8/06 8:25 PM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: New some support
Just because its your sister - i would definitely go for it and enjoy a bit of getting away.
Of course you will miss your daughter but in reality like the other ladies mentioned she really is too young to notice your absense. If you still feel unsure and not happy with leaving her behind = would it be possible that you could miss some of the earlier festivites and go the night before the wedding? Im sure your sister would understand you wanting to do that also.
Message edited 9/8/2006 8:53:02 PM.
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| Posted 9/8/06 8:52 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: New some support
Posted by Calla
You absolutely have to go to your sister's wedding and the rehearsal dinner but that should just require one night away.
I'm not sure I could have handled being away from the baby for three days though. (Of course she is 17 months now, and I haven't been away from her for more than 6 hours, so maybe I'm a nut. LOL)
I'm the same way. My daughter will be 1 and the longest I have left her was 12 hours to be in my friend's wedding so maybe I'm a nut too.  We actually cancelled our hotel room for the night of the wedding because I coudln't sleep away from her.
I say go and if you need to just spend one night instead of three.
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| Posted 9/8/06 11:34 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: New some support
If it were me. I would take her. see if the hotel has another room for your In-laws. That way she is there but she is also being watched.
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| Posted 9/9/06 8:32 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: New some support
I think it's good to get out with your husband without the baby. We all feel guilty leaving our kids (particularly in the beginning). It's called balancing the rest of your life vs your baby.
I would consider having my ILs come & pay for a hotel room but I think it would make me crazy bouncing back forth between the wedding & the hotel room. When my daughter was 6 months old, I was in my SIL's wedding party. The kids and my parents were invited to the wedding. I made myself trying to have a good time, dancing, etc and then running back to check on her. I think you're better off taking the 3 days alone with DH. The others are right, your DD is too young to notice.
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| Posted 9/9/06 8:45 AM |
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My2Boys
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Re: New some support
Posted by IrishTracy
If it were me. I would take her. see if the hotel has another room for your In-laws. That way she is there but she is also being watched.
Me too. Is there any way you can get another room for your IL's so you can spend time w/ your DD over the weekend? Maybe they can bring her one night, Friday - Saturday so you won't miss her as much.
Whatever you decide, ENJOY yourself!! 
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| Posted 9/9/06 8:45 AM |
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JoCaCoLa
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Re: New some support
I think it would be very overwhelming having her go with you, even if she is being watched by your IL's. I say you should go and try to have a great time, I'm sure you will, even if she's on your mind. You can always call and check on her, but your sister's wedding is definitely an important event not to miss.
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| Posted 9/9/06 9:24 AM |
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smith1234
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Re: New some support
Thanks ladies. I really appericate your input. I just feel so torn. She is my older sister and she has always been there for me. She has waited such a long time for this. I know she would understand if I missed the Friday, but I just feel I should be there. I'm thinking maybe we won't go out Thursday and go out early Fri morning. At least that's only 2 nights
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| Posted 9/9/06 10:59 AM |
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Moehick
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Re: New some support
Posted by smith1234
Thanks ladies. I really appericate your input. I just feel so torn. She is my older sister and she has always been there for me. She has waited such a long time for this. I know she would understand if I missed the Friday, but I just feel I should be there. I'm thinking maybe we won't go out Thursday and go out early Fri morning. At least that's only 2 nights
Going out early Friday would probably be better for you...but go and try to enjoy this special time for your sister
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| Posted 9/9/06 11:51 AM |
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sweetp
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Re: New some support
We left our little guy to go on a cruise for a whole week, I missed him dearly but he was so little he did not even notice or care that I was gone. He stayed with Gramma & Papa. You will be fine, go and enjoy yoursself. Anothe rgood thing is call when ever you get a chance. Also if you have a bedtime ritual, singing or reading, record yourself doing those things and it will amke it easy on her plus you will feel like you have done something special for her to help transition. Also one of my girlfriends travel quit a bit and she leave her little girl with a tshirt or an under shirt that she has worn for DD to sleep with so her scent is there. Good luck keep us posted on your weekend
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| Posted 9/10/06 1:38 PM |
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