Not down with the dinnertime-bedtime bday party time slot

DD is 5 and in Kindergarten and so many of the parties she gets invited to now are 5:30-7pm. It just doesn't seem like a smart time for a party for young children. Now I know I'm a conservative mom as far as moms go but it's how I feel. She ends up eating pizza rather than healthy food and not even much of it b/c she's busy having fun so she comes home hungry and she's wound up like a top even though it's time for sleep she wants no part of that. She too high to come down. Normally she goes to bed at 7.

Don't get me wrong I know the advantages to it b/c so many kids are involved in activities during the day and/or have plans.

Anyway I know it's just MHO and rant over-thanks for letting me get that out

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While I agree I am not a fan of such a late party, I think that 7 pm is early for a 5 year old's bed time. I would think 8 pm would be an average bed time for that age.

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your rant your vent..

but if you don't like them, don't go to them.

actually a quite simple solution if you think about it.

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They don't bother me but like another poster said if its really too much for you you don't have to go. I agree that 7pm is a bit early for bedtime at that age. Are these parties during the week? That would be a little annoying bc there is school the next day but if not then I don't see the problem. If she's having a good time then who cares, its not like it's every night JMO.
On sort of the same note, what are you going to do when she is involved in actives that go to that time? For us during baseball, wrestling and football season practices don't start until 6 during the week

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I just wouldn't go to those parties unless it was for a good friend of my DC's. And ftr, I don't think 7 is an early bedtime, all of my kids are in bed by then And knocked out by 7:30.

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Yes, of course I realize that we could just not go. But she's old enough to want to go to her friend's bday parties and they all talk at school about who's going and who is not so I don't want to be cruel to her so we go b/c like you said Lois it's not all the time just once a month probably. It was a just a complaint that's all. It's just a weird time to be shuttling back and forth when you have dinner to worry about for DH and the other two kids and then bedtime for the other two.

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Yeah of course she wants to go so that's why I say it's not a big deal bc it's not all the time. You obviously aren't stopping her from going so She's happy :) But are they during the week? Now that they are in school that would be annoying unless it was a Friday. When we have sports it's annoying bc he has to get off the bus, homework/snack, dinner for just him by 5 then dressed and off to practice and then we don't get home until after 8!

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Even on the weekend, having a child's party that late would bother me.

I've always been kind of set in my ways, where I like to be home in the evening

I wouldn't stop by child from going, but it would irritate me a bit.

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Parenting, It's totally subjective ya know. I think 7pm is an early bedtime, I have friends who think my 8/8:30 bedtime is early and I think their 10/11pm bedtime is too late. It's what works for your family. We tend to Be a pretty flexible family. If we are doing something, on vaca, at a party etc and the kids are up then so be it. If you weren't actually her to these parties then I would think you were mean lol but you are so you're not lol. Hope I didn't come off mean in my post, luckily you know me and it's not supposed to be mean lol

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Personally, I would think that for 5 yr old that time is too late for a party.... I coudl understand doing it at that time if it was 10+ yrs though

If I was invited to a party and I did not think that time/location etc meshed with my child's schedule, I would let it slide. It's not happening every weekend ( I would hope!)

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I agree - not a convenient time for a kids party. If it was just one or two, I'd probably make an exception and go. But I can see how it'd be disruptive.

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My DD's 4th b-day was a 5:30-7pm time slot. It was a Pajama theme and kids wore their PJs.

Personally, I loved the time frame. I didn't "kill" anyone's Saturday/Sunday by having it smack in the middle of the day, kids had dinner there and were already in their PJs.

If your daughter doesn't do well with the time frame and you're not a fan of it, I would just simply decline.

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Not it's fine just not saying it's not my favorite time slot that's all. She does fine with it. I'm the only one that got a little disrupted with the whole thing. They did go in their PJ's but it's a gym, climbing, tumbling kind of thing so I in all my anal retentiveness still felt as though I had ot change her PJs when she got her b/c they were dirty (her socks were filthy anyway). It did happen once or twice during the week last school year and I think I ended up saying no to those but that was a while ago

it's fine. We all roll with the punches when it comes to their routines. No biggie just a Sat night vent was all Sometimes you can't win with these parties no matter what time you pick so I know when you're planning you pick the one that works best for your family not your guests necessarily.

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Ita.

My dd won't go to bed her normal time on a regular night, forget about after a party.

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I totally would change Ryan's pjs too!!!