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Michelle
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Not sure if I should call the school or not.
My sons came home from school and said a boy in one of their classes was in the bathroom when they were there and he proceeded to pee in the garbage can, then started climbing on the toilet on the wall (I guess this means the urinal) and his foot fell into the toilet and got wet. He then proceeded to throw a gllue stick cap in the urinal and tried to flush it down. They said they just stood there and watched him, and I beleive them just by the way they were telling me, they were in shock at what he was doing.
Originally I was going to tell them to tell their teacher, but I was thinking that having them tattle is probably not the best idea. Should I call the school and let them know or just not worry about since my two were not participating.DH and I spoke to them about how to behave in the bathroom and not to behave, so I used it as a teachable moment.
The thing that really makes me want to call is the peeing in the garbage can. That is just gross and if he is peeing in the garbage I am doubting that hand washing is going to follow that situation. 
So what would you do?
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Posted 2/12/12 7:52 PM  |
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
how old are the kids?
i don't think i would do anything. i wasn't there, i don't know what happened, and it's not like it's a life threatening/dangerous situation.
i would probably handle it the way you did and leave it at that...
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| Posted 2/12/12 8:09 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
I would call the school & let the teacher know. Sounds like someone needs to relearn some basic hygiene rules.
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| Posted 2/12/12 8:37 PM |
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Michelle
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
They are in first grade and this is the first year that they have been able to go to the bathroom down the hall instead of having one in the classroom.
I will probably be speaking to one of thier teachers today about something unrelated so maybe I will mention it then.
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| Posted 2/13/12 9:26 AM |
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Lillies
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
It's def a great teachable moment for your boys and it's a great thing that they came to you and realized that this was totally gross behavior. I would email/call the teacher and give her a heads up but not to implicate your boys. She needs to know somethings obviously up with this kid (yuck)
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| Posted 2/13/12 10:37 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
I would look at it with an eye toward what you hope will be accomplished.
I don't know that I would give great detail or identify a single child.. that just leads to he said/he said and can have the potential to be intensely embarrassing for the kid and your sons. It is unusual for the school to allow both of your kids to go to the bathroom at the same time and if they were there together the school might look at it as though the 'brothers' were teaming up against another child. I had an issue when my sons 'tattled' on another boy for stealing - basically the after care people couldn't 'prove' anything and since my kids were related they didn't treat count it as 2 independent sources.
If the hope is to get the child to be more aware of hygiene maybe you can tell the teacher "An incident occurred x date and I really think it would be great and helpful if you would go over the importance of hygiene with the class again." It doesn't guarantee she will do it but I feel like it accomplishes more if taught to the whole class rather than isolating a single 'offender'.
I do think it's fabulous that you used the opportunity to reinforce hygiene to your own boys!
Good luck!
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| Posted 2/13/12 7:47 PM |
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Michelle
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
They are in different classrooms, so if they are in the bathroom at the same time it is a pure cooincidence. I am sure there is no policy about who goes to the bathroom at the same time and if there is that is insane. They are in first grade they are not plotting to meet in the bathroom to frame other classmates.
Also - I am not assuming that this kid will get into trouble just that there needs to be some sort of system to watch these kids in the bathroom and I want to notify the school of a potential safety issue. If this kid climbs on the urinal and falls onto my child, he can hit his head on a number of things. Couple that with a wet floor and it is downright dangerous.
Not sure really the point of your repsonse but to make me feel that my kids are some how the ones to blame in this and how they what are not telling me the truth? They came forward with this on thier own and told me about the situation, they were not caught in something.
Either way - I called and let the teacher know when I was tlaking to her about an unrelated topic and she is not this child's teacher but he is in my other son's class and she has heard things about this child, so she was going to pass it along and she was thankful that I called since it is a safety issue and a health issue.
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| Posted 2/14/12 12:50 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Not sure if I should call the school or not.
Posted by Michelle
They are in different classrooms, so if they are in the bathroom at the same time it is a pure cooincidence. I am sure there is no policy about who goes to the bathroom at the same time and if there is that is insane. They are in first grade they are not plotting to meet in the bathroom to frame other classmates.
Also - I am not assuming that this kid will get into trouble just that there needs to be some sort of system to watch these kids in the bathroom and I want to notify the school of a potential safety issue. If this kid climbs on the urinal and falls onto my child, he can hit his head on a number of things. Couple that with a wet floor and it is downright dangerous.
Not sure really the point of your repsonse but to make me feel that my kids are some how the ones to blame in this and how they what are not telling me the truth? They came forward with this on thier own and told me about the situation, they were not caught in something.
Either way - I called and let the teacher know when I was tlaking to her about an unrelated topic and she is not this child's teacher but he is in my other son's class and she has heard things about this child, so she was going to pass it along and she was thankful that I called since it is a safety issue and a health issue.
Hello!!
I am really surprised that my response made you feel somehow 'attacked. I NEVER said or implied that your children were lying or that they were in any way at fault for the incident that occurred. I commented that it was unusual that both boys were in the bathroom together. As far as I knew most schools try to make sure that kids go to the bathroom alone so they can avoid the distraction that comes with being with a friend. The fact that they are in different classes clears that bit up a bit - but to be honest I NEVER ASKED for clarification on that point at all. I took it at face value. The ONLY reason I brought it up was because of my own experience as detailed above. I NEVER doubted my own kids - but I was letting you know that it is POSSIBLE that the school might not take their story as being two separate accounts because they are brothers. Or maybe they will/did or whatever.
As to the POINT of my response... you asked for opinions. I stated mine. You don't like it and I'm perfectly okay with that.. it's just an opinion after all.
I'm glad you handled things in the way that YOU felt comfortable with and I sincerely hope it all turns out well for everyone.
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