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shell
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
Like many of the previous posters said, it is none of any ones business if you decide to wear your wedding ring or not. My husband does not wear his ring. He lost 3 rings... but that is another story. Anyway, he is not a jewelry person at all!!! Plus, with his job it's not a good idea to wear any rings. At first it bothered me that he didn't wear it, but I got over it. I don't think you need a ring to tell you your married.
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Posted 10/31/07 9:23 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
my parents have been married over 32 years and my dad never wore his ring.
i see nothing wrong with it, and i would never questions someone's decision on whether or not they wear it.
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Posted 10/31/07 9:27 PM |
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
I think the real point to your question is that you are questioning yourself about whether to wear the ring, and are simultaneously disturbed that your husband doesn't wear it.
I agree that it's a personal choice, but if the decision brings up self-doubt or a sense of concern, it's a sign you are not at peace with the decision. I suspect that you are not settled with the decision becuase it isn't merely a 'I don't like rings' issue, rather it's a relationship stability issue... which obviously would be disturbing to anyone...
how about going to marital counseling? Maybe it would firm up your relationship, and get this issue, and all the feelings affecting your decision come more into the open... possibly things will be resolved, and you will feel better about the decisions you and your husband reach.....
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Posted 10/31/07 9:29 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I think it is a very personal choice. there is no right or wrong answer here.
and I really doubt that anyone would think you're having an affair if you don't wear a w-ring.
I agree, don't worry
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Posted 10/31/07 9:30 PM |
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june262004
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
Myself and DH wear ours everyday. If I forget it I turn around and get it! I love it and want everyone to know I am married
That said that is US not anyone else. It's all a personal choice!!!!
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Posted 10/31/07 9:36 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
My bf doesn't wear hers. She actually hasn't in about 4 years and I didn't notice until this summer. I just never think to look since I know she' married.
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Posted 10/31/07 9:55 PM |
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lkrpaul
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
I think you need to do whatever you are comfortable with. I wouldn't think anything negative about someone who wasn't wearing their ring. I'd think they were getting it resized, lost it, forgot to put it on, didn't need it to prove their love...anything. I'd just assume they had a reason and everything was fine.
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Posted 10/31/07 11:17 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
I don't wear my wedding ring most of the time.
Everyone who matters knows that I am married. If anyone were to ask me, I would tell them I was happily married. But I talk so much about my husband and kids nobody has ever needed to ask.
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Posted 11/1/07 6:22 AM |
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TreAnt427
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Name: Tracy
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
I honestly wouldn't think anything of it. Some people just don't wear them and aren't jewelry people. I know a women who has been married for years and I have only seen her wear her ring a handful of times- only on special occassions.
However, if you were wearing other rings and jewelry and not your wedding ring - that might make me think.
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Posted 11/1/07 8:17 AM |
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angnick
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
It would bother me.
Dh has not taken off his ring since our wedding day. same goes for me.
I would understand if he had a job where he couldnt wear his ring, but it would mean a lot to me if he put it on during the weekends and when we went out..
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Posted 11/1/07 8:32 AM |
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Preguntas
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
We don't wear our rings, and we are not having marital problems. He just can't get into the habit, and I have this weird skin condition that won't go away.
I rarely care what strangers think of me, though.
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Posted 11/1/07 9:44 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I think it is a very personal choice. there is no right or wrong answer here.
and I really doubt that anyone would think you're having an affair if you don't wear a w-ring.
I agree. My parents have married almost thrity years and my dad rarely wears his ring due to his type of work.
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Posted 11/1/07 9:54 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
My parents don't wear wedding rings and they've been married a long time. I don't think it's anyone's business but your own.
I hope things work out for you...
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Posted 11/1/07 10:00 AM |
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Ginger123
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
Posted by MichelleR
My dad and stepmom don't wear their rings. They outgrew their original rings and just didn't get new ones. I don't think anyone even notices.
IA! I think it sounds like you are battling this bc deep inside you want to wear the ring.. I hate to sound so cliche but only time will tell, try not to let it define you
Message edited 11/1/2007 11:10:42 AM.
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Posted 11/1/07 11:09 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
I know for myself when I was having "problems" in the marriage (which was pretty much all the time), I couldn't bring myself to wear the ring. To me, it represented a lie and I felt dirty wearing it.
I haven't even seen mine in over a year.
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Posted 11/1/07 12:06 PM |
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Lucky09
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
Thank you everyone for taking the time to give your opinions / insight on my issue. It really means a lot.
I usually don't care what anyone thinks, but I honestly do wonder about the way my co-workers / boss perceive me and the fact that I don't sport my ring.
So glad to hear that so many people wouldn't give it a second thought and those that do notice wouldn't judge or make assumptions based on it.
Sometimes I am so happy to have these boards.
Message edited 11/1/2007 9:51:24 PM.
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Posted 11/1/07 9:50 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
id think something was up if you went from wearing it to not wearing it suddenly
if you never were they type to wear, it i wouldnt think twice
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Posted 11/1/07 10:42 PM |
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MM2004
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Re: Not Wearing Wedding Ring... (Opinions Please)
I can't wear my wedding ring everyday. Since I had my DS I've had issues with the skin on my hands for some reason and now everytime I wear my ring I get a rash on that finger. So I'll wear it for a day or two, get a rash, wait for it to get better and then wear the ring again.
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Posted 11/2/07 10:35 AM |
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