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KateDevine
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NPR: What would you do? SIL related
As most of you know we are going to a family reunion in Florida at the end of this month. It is a very nice family trip with DH's mom's whole side of the family. She has 5 brothers and sisters and her parents. Each night of the trip one of the families cooks dinner. We are getting to go on this trip b/c our tickets were free through a credit on JetBlue. So, we picked our theme (Christmas in July) and my SIL came up with a whole menu. Since I had DS she has been telling me that she and her mother would cover the cost of the dinner and we didn't have to worry about it.
So, DH's aunt sent out a big list of what each family has to bring/pick up at the store on the way in. SIL and BIL have to buy MAYBE $30 worth of groceries and DH and I don't have to bring anything (mainly b/c we are arriving Monday and everyone else is arriving on Saturday). So, NOW SIL is chaning her tune and calling DH and asking him to send a check in advance for our portion of the dinner and that she has no money (her DH does though, they are really weird about money) and it "shouldn't really be that bad between the four of us". Now, we don't even know who the "four of us" are since there are 6 adults in our family or 3 couples
So, should we just give in and mail her a check? It isn't the money, it is the principle. Plus, I kind of kept my mouth shut about planning the menu since we weren't paying for anything.
Seriously, why are SILs so ANNOYING?
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Just tell her the check is in the mail and then it must have gotten lost 
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| Posted 7/20/07 7:48 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Do what my SIL does when she is supposed to repay me for something. Keep saying you will give it to her and then just don't.
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| Posted 7/20/07 8:28 PM |
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smdl
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
While I would plan on EVIL plans not to pay her.... in the end I think you are better off just sending her the money.
Just don't get included in any future plans if she want to make them. Just opte out and mention that her previous arrangements were changed and that you are no longer interested in being part of those plans.
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| Posted 7/20/07 9:18 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
she is wacko ya know? I swear I would buy a book on her stories if you wrote them.
Ok, so I agree with summer....tell her you will send it and dont, when she asks, said I thoguht I sent it...then just forget again 
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| Posted 7/21/07 1:41 AM |
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Calla
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Send the check to her mother.
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| Posted 7/21/07 7:35 AM |
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ddunne2
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Ignore the request!
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| Posted 7/21/07 8:38 AM |
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KateDevine
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Posted by Calla
Send the check to her mother.
That's the funny part, I think my MIL doesn't know she is asking us for money...my MIL wouldn't ask us right now. She probably is going to pocket it herself. Last year, I lent her money to fly up here and she never paid me back and when Southwest gave her a credit (b/c of a lost carseat) and "her" money back she STILL didn't repay me!
But that is a good idea. I don't really want to say "it's in the mail" because that is something she would do...we are still waiting on our wedding present which was mailed in February 2006
I guess I should just tell her to tell us what they spent and if she wants money I'll give her a check when we are there.
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| Posted 7/21/07 10:27 AM |
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smdl
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by Calla
Send the check to her mother.
That's the funny part, I think my MIL doesn't know she is asking us for money...my MIL wouldn't ask us right now. She probably is going to pocket it herself. Last year, I lent her money to fly up here and she never paid me back and when Southwest gave her a credit (b/c of a lost carseat) and "her" money back she STILL didn't repay me!
But that is a good idea. I don't really want to say "it's in the mail" because that is something she would do...we are still waiting on our wedding present which was mailed in February 2006
I guess I should just tell her to tell us what they spent and if she wants money I'll give her a check when we are there.
Yes, good idea, tell her to keep the receipts too and pay her there.
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| Posted 7/21/07 10:31 AM |
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KateDevine
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Posted by smdl
Yes, good idea, tell her to keep the receipts too and pay her there.
Well, what can you expect when she thinks Sophie is a nickname for Sophia
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| Posted 7/21/07 10:54 AM |
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Janice
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
she sounds like she is a problem. I would write the check to avoid issues during the week. I have an aunt like that...loves treating me to things, I have money and would rather she didn't, then when it's not payweek she would call me up to let me know how she helped me out.
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| Posted 7/21/07 11:35 AM |
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
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Yes, good idea, tell her to keep the receipts too and pay her there.
Well, what can you expect when she thinks Sophie is a nickname for Sophia
I worked for a greek couple once, her name was sophia...they called her sophie for short. sorry....but this made me remember how confused I was and never sure of her name. I agree with sophie though...it's not a nickname.
back to the real topic:
I say don't send her a thing. See what is bought and a receipt and have your DH deal with it THERE in front of your MIL.
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| Posted 7/21/07 11:41 AM |
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ddunne2
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Ask her how much it is and then tell her you will subtract that amount from what she owes you for the plane ticket $ you lent her. That will shut her up!
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| Posted 7/21/07 3:25 PM |
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Posted by ddunne2
Ask her how much it is and then tell her you will subtract that amount from what she owes you for the plane ticket $ you lent her. That will shut her up!
This is what I would do.
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| Posted 7/21/07 9:01 PM |
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smdl
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by smdl
Yes, good idea, tell her to keep the receipts too and pay her there.
Well, what can you expect when she thinks Sophie is a nickname for Sophia
Oh Oh... time to change my avatar again!!!!
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| Posted 7/21/07 9:10 PM |
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michele31
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Re: NPR: What would you do? SIL related
If she owes you so much money, tell her to please take the money from the flight costs that she owes you Or just say that MIL said that you and DH do not have to chip in this year because you just had a baby.
I wouldn't pretend a check was in the mail but I would not pay her either.
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| Posted 7/21/07 9:16 PM |
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