Ok...I gotta breathe...

since Ive been home from the hospital FIL has pretty much been not allowed in my home bc hes obnoxious, rude to my guests, doesnt know what "no" means and takes the baby out of my arms at his own free will. MIL not too far behind him. Tommorrow is Gillians baby naming and as some of you knowit became a very expensive party unexpectedly. I cant imagine that I am going to put up with his stuff tommorrow when I put so much time and effort into making this wonderful. He is out of control and everyone knows this. Any suggestions for making this peaceful without having to throw him out? After this many weeks of not seeing Gillian...hes not pulling her from me when so many people have yet to see her.

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Oy Vey!! . just wanna give you some

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I can relate I have had FIL and some MIL problems since before my wedding! Although it got pretty ugly for awhile I find our relationship now has actually been tolerable. I was pretty upfront with them even if it meant an argument,then we stopped going to their home and only met in public places (tempers/words can be controlled better in public). As I explained to them I was never exposed to abuse (verbal or physical) as a child and I don't need to take it as an adult and I will not allow my child to be exposed to abuse (even verbal). I think the most important thing however in situations like these is to have your spouse entirely on your side. The public place thing worked pretty well and if I thought it was getting nasty we immediately left and the visit with us was cut short -their loss! You do not want to have an argument at your party it is supposed to be a happy day (which miserable people love to ruin-Misery loves company!-you will find this for any and all occasions you have in your life that is when these people act up the most!) If things start to upset you, you may have to ask your spouse to ask them to curb it once and if that fails they may have to be asked to leave! I found at my parties I placed the in-laws at their own table with their own friends not near me or my family and I never heard from them they were occupied and happy catching up with their group!
Good Luck and no matter what ENJOY yourself-you put a lot of effort into it you deserve it!

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I think your best bodyguard should be your DH - he might be the only one that can control his folks. Let him know that this is YOUR day with Gillian, and they are not the only ones at the party to see her.
Good luck!

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Posted by BabyCote2006

I think your best bodyguard should be your DH - he might be the only one that can control his folks. Let him know that this is YOUR day with Gillian, and they are not the only ones at the party to see her.
Good luck!

I completely agree. You HAVE to get DH to step in here so your day isn't ruined. I feel so bad for you. I have problem inlaws as well and know how difficult it can be.