Older siblings not wanting to share

DS is turning 3 in June, and I started cleaning some of the baby gear we had for him for DC#2. And he got so mad. I asked him if he can share his stroller with the baby, and he yelled telling me to buy a new stroller for the baby because that's his. Now he hasnt sat in his stroller for over a year, but all of the sudden he wants his stoller. I'm nervous now that he is not going to want the baby. We have some time because I'm due in November, but still feel the same way.

Did anyone have issues with the older sibling not wanting the younger one?

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Mason was too young to understand when I was pregnant since he was just 2 when Brayden was born.
In the hospital and when Bray first came home he'd just turn to the baby and say "No"
He would ask me to put him down, which I did.
I just made a big deal over Mason. Didn't talk about him being a big brother, but how helpful he is and such a good brother.
He was never mean towards the baby. Just ignored at first. The Ped said it's better anyway.
I let him go to the baby and never yelled at him, but would just say... softer (if he was swinging him).
He started to just tickle his feet. If I took out the camera he'd run so I didn't get much pics of the two of them.
Now that Mason will be 3 soon and Bray is 10 months they play together more. Mason will grab a toy away and run around the room with it knowing Bray isn't as fast crawling, but I don't yell unless it's needed. They're really cute together now. Not as close as I'd like, but Mason does like to help me bath Bray. Poor the water over him and they both laugh.
Takes time. Big changes ahead and it'll work out.

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1st 3 weeks we all cried. Between hormones and all the changes, I felt bad that my oldest(who just turned 2 a few weeks before DD2 came) didn't get all the attention any more, I felt bad that my youngest didn't get the attention my oldest got when she was a newborn. It's tough but it got better. My oldest's line was "I want daddy wanna hold it" lol. When my husband went back to work it got a little better because I think she realized I had to take care of both of them. She also liked "helping" me give the baby a bath.

As far as sharing. A month before the baby was born we bought my oldest a bed to get her used to that and also moved her carseat to the other side. So those were not issues. She will share toys that are not her "favorites" and she also wants to play with the babies toys too(baby is 6 months old now)-she'll say things like i want to hold it for her. When we took out the exersaucer she wanted to go in it, same with the jumper...so we let her(she's on the smaller side), when I started solids with the baby she wanted oatmeal too lol, so i would make her regular oatmeal and feed them both at the same time...in the beginning it was every day now she doesn't do it as often...when i try to use the high chair for the baby she doesn't let me she wants to go in(also hasn't used it in a long time but wants to just because I am going to use it for the baby)-so i put her in first and let her stay for a while, then when she wants to get out i put the baby in. She never says she didn't want the baby, she always wants us all together...but of course there are still times she says put her down because she wants my attention...but it is much better now, it will all work out!

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Thanks ladies. I was starting to get worried that he will hate the baby, but as you mentioned it will be a big adjustment for him and us.