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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
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Beth
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On the nanny search again...
We fired our last nanny about 2 weeks ago.
We started our kids at an in-home daycare this morning.
I can't place why exactly...but I felt like the scum of the earth leaving them there. It didn't feel right. It didn't feel like the right decision.
so, here I go...using my 2nd and final personal day (a.k.a. "mental health day") to try to find my kids a competent nanny.
I hate this. 
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Posted 11/8/10 12:10 PM  |
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Hofstra26
Love to Bake!
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Re: On the nanny search again...
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| Posted 11/8/10 12:11 PM |
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DBJ808
LIF Adult
Member since 6/09 1039 total posts
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Dana
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Where do you live? My cousin provides in home nanny services and she is so wonderful!
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| Posted 11/8/10 12:59 PM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
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Beth
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by DBJ808
Where do you live? My cousin provides in home nanny services and she is so wonderful!
We're in NC. I know I would have so many leads if we were still on LI. 
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| Posted 11/8/10 1:00 PM |
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HeathKernandez
Our Ron is an awesome Ron
Member since 4/07 9091 total posts
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baby fish mouth
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Re: On the nanny search again...
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| Posted 11/8/10 1:20 PM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Did you try care.com?
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| Posted 11/8/10 1:21 PM |
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CaseyGirl
Mommy to 3 Boys :)
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Jen - counting my blessings...
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Oh no...what made you have that feeling? 
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| Posted 11/8/10 1:28 PM |
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ali120206
2 Boys
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by CaseyGirl
Oh no...what made you have that feeling?
I'm curious as well, I thought you were happy with the inhome place?
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| Posted 11/8/10 1:29 PM |
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sweetie101
you make me smile :o)
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Re: On the nanny search again...
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| Posted 11/8/10 1:47 PM |
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yanksgrl
LIF Infant
Member since 5/05 186 total posts
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Have you ever thought about hosting an au pair? We are on year number two with an au pair and we love it. Any questions feel free to FM
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| Posted 11/8/10 3:12 PM |
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JennZ
MY LIFE!!
Member since 8/05 25463 total posts
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by DRMom
Did you try care.com?
Ita, this is where we found Jasons inhome care.
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| Posted 11/8/10 3:27 PM |
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monkeybride
My Everything
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Re: On the nanny search again...
People swear by Care.com
Sorry it didn't work out.
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| Posted 11/8/10 4:18 PM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
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Beth
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Thanks everybody.
I *thought* I was ok with the in-home daycare. But you know that "mommy gut feeling" you get sometimes? When you know something is not right, but can't place what, or why? I left them there today and I just lost it.
I feel extremely guilty that we can't afford to send them BOTH to the daycare that we used for Ryleigh when she was an infant (and that she still goes to 2 mornings per week). It's such a stellar place, but for me to send both my kids there, it wouldn't make much sense for me to be working.
There are a few things about the in-home daycare that bother me:
1. She is not licensed.
2. She smokes (never in the house, and has sworn to me up and down that she doesn't smoke at all when the kids are around, even outside...whether I believe that is a different story).
3. Her husband works nights and helps her with the kids. Call me a neurotic lunatic, but all I can think to myself is, I don't know this man, and he's sometimes alone with my little girl. It makes me sick just to think about it. 
4. Today I dropped the kids off and she sounded as though she was hacking up a lung. I asked her, "Are you sick?" and she said, "Yeah, I caught a little something over the weekend, I'll be alright though". I hesitated to leave them there...but I did...and when I came back, I saw her reach into one of the kids' mouths with her bare (germ-infested) hand to get sand out of his mouth. 
The price is certainly right...but I keep thinking to myself...what is the REAL cost?
So...that's where we're at. On the upside, when I went to pick up the kids this afternoon, Ryleigh was running around in the backyard w/ the other kids, having a great time. And she threw a huge temper-tantrum when I told her it was time to leave...so I think to myself, she must be doing SOMETHING right if my DD is reacting like that on her first day... 
I think I will check out care.com. Does anyone know how much it costs to contact caregivers through the site? I couldn't find that information on there.
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| Posted 11/8/10 7:21 PM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
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Beth
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by yanksgrl
Have you ever thought about hosting an au pair? We are on year number two with an au pair and we love it. Any questions feel free to FM
We would love to, but I hear the start-up cost is astronomical?
My sister has used Cultural Care Au Pair. She had an ok experience, but when we contacted them, they told us there was a $7000 startup cost 
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| Posted 11/8/10 7:22 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: On the nanny search again...
No license, smoking, and a stranger of a husband with no background checks that is probably running on empty helping out with the kids....I think I would be running from that place as fast as I could! Sorry, but I would not be comfortable with what you described. I hope you can find something else asap!
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| Posted 11/8/10 7:29 PM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
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Beth
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by BargainMama
No license, smoking, and a stranger of a husband with no background checks that is probably running on empty helping out with the kids....I think I would be running from that place as fast as I could! Sorry, but I would not be comfortable with what you described. I hope you can find something else asap!
We did do complete background checks on both of them. They both came back 100% clean.
I don't know...something about it just doesn't feel right to me...
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| Posted 11/8/10 7:34 PM |
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monkeybride
My Everything
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by MrsRivera
Thanks everybody.
I *thought* I was ok with the in-home daycare. But you know that "mommy gut feeling" you get sometimes? When you know something is not right, but can't place what, or why? I left them there today and I just lost it.
I feel extremely guilty that we can't afford to send them BOTH to the daycare that we used for Ryleigh when she was an infant (and that she still goes to 2 mornings per week). It's such a stellar place, but for me to send both my kids there, it wouldn't make much sense for me to be working.
There are a few things about the in-home daycare that bother me:
1. She is not licensed.
2. She smokes (never in the house, and has sworn to me up and down that she doesn't smoke at all when the kids are around, even outside...whether I believe that is a different story).
3. Her husband works nights and helps her with the kids. Call me a neurotic lunatic, but all I can think to myself is, I don't know this man, and he's sometimes alone with my little girl. It makes me sick just to think about it.
4. Today I dropped the kids off and she sounded as though she was hacking up a lung. I asked her, "Are you sick?" and she said, "Yeah, I caught a little something over the weekend, I'll be alright though". I hesitated to leave them there...but I did...and when I came back, I saw her reach into one of the kids' mouths with her bare (germ-infested) hand to get sand out of his mouth.
The price is certainly right...but I keep thinking to myself...what is the REAL cost?
So...that's where we're at. On the upside, when I went to pick up the kids this afternoon, Ryleigh was running around in the backyard w/ the other kids, having a great time. And she threw a huge temper-tantrum when I told her it was time to leave...so I think to myself, she must be doing SOMETHING right if my DD is reacting like that on her first day...
I think I will check out care.com. Does anyone know how much it costs to contact caregivers through the site? I couldn't find that information on there.
Well the teenagers would have sent me running.
Then add to that a smoker (gross, gross, gross) and her DH helping with the kids.
You did the right thing.
Mommy gut is always best to follow.
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| Posted 11/8/10 7:49 PM |
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MrsRivera
2 under 2...whew!!
Member since 2/07 9876 total posts
Name:
Beth
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Posted by monkeybride
Well the teenagers would have sent me running.
Then add to that a smoker (gross, gross, gross) and her DH helping with the kids.
You did the right thing.
Mommy gut is always best to follow.
We haven't pulled them out yet. They are due to go back again tomorrow.
We just don't have any other options right now. My (68 year-old) mother just watched them for the last week and she is exhausted...
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| Posted 11/8/10 8:20 PM |
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ali120206
2 Boys
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Re: On the nanny search again...
Sorry it didn't work out - hopefully you can find a new nanny quickly! It's stressful I'm sure.
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