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FelAndJon
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Overnight question
We have a wedding to go to on March 10. Jeremy will be exactly 6 months. He JUST started sleeping through the night (cross your fingers that this will continue!!). We have already arranged to have DH's brother watch the baby. He is over 40 but single and this will be the first time he will be on his own with the baby. Everytime he comes over, we have him feed and change the baby to give him practice as he has never really been around or taken care of a baby on his own.
OK, here is the dilemma! I am a crazy mom and I'm not really sure I am going to be OK with Jeremy spending the night away from me. I know this is just one night but still! The wedding is out on LI and we live in NJ. Back when, (even before the baby was born!) when we made the arrangements to have my BIL watch the baby, I didn't realize I would feel this way so we said that BIL would stay at our house so the baby's schedule wouldn't be disrupted. I have made a reservation at the hotel we are staying at for another room so BIL can stay overnight with the baby. Well, over the weekend he told us that he really doesn't want to stay at a hotel overnight and he will just go home when we get back to the hotel after the wedding. Oh, and the wedding starts at 8:00 PM on a Saturday night so we might not get back to the hotel until about 3:00 AM! I have known the bride her entire life and I work with her FH. My entire family will be there and we have been looking forward to this night out for a long time (sad, I know!)
There are a few possible scenarios here:
1. We all go to the hotel and BIL just hangs out in our room until the wedding ends and leaves when we get back (he lives in Brooklyn, about 15 minutes from the hotel).
2. We tell BIL to suck it up and stay overnight
3. I suck it up and let BIL stay at our house as originally planned and we just come home and skip the brunch (or eat and run)
4. Not overanalyze all this and just go with the flow
5. Not stay overnight at all and come home after the wedding
6. Could there be another scenario that I haven't thought of?
With all this, keep in mind that Jeremy will be going to sleep at about 8:30 so it isn't like BIL is really going to be doing anything with him other than giving him a bottle, changing him into jammies and changing a diaper or 2 before he goes to sleep. I am mostly worried about the morning.
Oh, and I am still nursing so with all this, I will have to bring my pump!  That was another reason I wanted him at the hotel. This way, I can nurse him before we head to the wedding and possibly after we get back that night do a dream feed. Also, I can nurse him in the morning when he gets up.
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november12003
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Re: Overnight question
I say go with option 1. This way you have the baby with you to feed him before the wedding. It sounds like BIL doesn't mind this option, except that he wants to go home after.
Most of all, enjoy the night 
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luvsun27
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Re: Overnight question
Why don't you have BIL come to NJ and stay over one night and do a "trial run" with you home...so you can see how he handles getting the baby to sleep and in the morning. That might make you feel more comfortable. I say...go to the wedding and enjoy yourself...and you can call home 100 times to check on DS. 
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| Posted 2/21/07 8:52 AM |
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twobabies
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Re: Overnight question
i could have written this post myself. i am in a wedding next month. she has been my best friend for 20+ years. all my friends and family will be at the wedding. she is having a brunch the next morning as well and wants everyone to stay at the hotel that night. the reception hall is an hour from where i live. i have decided NOT to stay over. i am just so not comfortable with staying over. jmo, but i would be so nervous wondering if everything was going ok without me home, i wouldnt have a very good time. so i decided me and dh will attend the wedding and them come straight home. and believe me i know how it is to look forward to those nights out. oh believe me, i know, lol. if you are having doubts about your bil, i would follow your instincts. either way you look at it, you will have an awesome time at the wedding!
so i guess my option would be #5 
Message edited 2/21/2007 8:53:24 AM.
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| Posted 2/21/07 8:52 AM |
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aja
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Re: Overnight question
Posted by november12003
I say go with option 1. This way you have the baby with you to feed him before the wedding. It sounds like BIL doesn't mind this option, except that he wants to go home after.
Most of all, enjoy the night
I agree if he is only 15 minutes from the hotel why would you not want him to go home.
He is young and single I am sure he is used to driving home late at night.
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| Posted 2/21/07 8:58 AM |
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FelAndJon
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Felice (aka LuckyBride2004)
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Re: Overnight question
OK, I will talk to DH tonight. I think you guys are convincing me that #1 is the way to go!
I guess we were just hoping that BIL would have DS sleep in his room so DH and I could have some alone time
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| Posted 2/21/07 9:08 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Overnight question
option 1 sounds the best
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| Posted 2/21/07 9:12 AM |
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