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heidla
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
My DH had a friend who recently got married and seperated in 3 mths. It was a mess though because some illegal activity was invovled. I found it amazing that after dating someone for 5 yrs. she didn't know what he was up too. I guess when you are in love it is easy top turn a blind eye. At least until the police come to your door.
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luckysmom
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
I had a friend like this. SHe chaeted on her DH up until the wedding. 4 months later they were getting an anulment. Not friends with her anymore. I feel like i wasted so much money. I Was in the wedding party plus the gift. And DH never liked her.
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| Posted 4/6/08 2:39 PM |
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robynfs
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
This happened to me...was with my ex-husband for 5 years before we married...separated after 10 months ... he was unfaithful!
I don't know why he married me ... he's a coward!
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| Posted 4/6/08 4:46 PM |
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ggt08
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
I AM one of those girls you are talking about... married Feb 04, separated by September 04 annulled by April 05...
All I can say is that is easier to judge and form an opinion when you are on the other side. No one knows what its like until you ACTUALLY go through it.
Yes I could have easily cancelled the wedding and done a lot of things differently. But they were my choices, my decisions, my mistakes. I knew what mu ex was like before I went into the marriage and it is something I have deal with moving forward...
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| Posted 4/6/08 5:17 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
My husband was married 10 years ago, and it lasted 6 months. By month 10 it was annuled.
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| Posted 4/6/08 5:23 PM |
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Pumpkin
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
Message edited 4/6/2008 8:24:56 PM.
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
I was almost one of those couples.
I think that unless you know all of the details you can't understand it.
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| Posted 4/6/08 6:29 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
I heard about a couple today from my sister... they will be added to this list - no doubt!
they met online last year. he lives in NJ, she in MO. they have seen each other a total of 6 time and are getting married in May of this year. he will be moving to MO in June (he works in a school so he's finishing the year off).
yea - they're going to make it 
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| Posted 4/6/08 8:06 PM |
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Pumpkin
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
Posted by Pumpkin
Posted by kdelace
I AM one of those girls you are talking about... married Feb 04, separated by September 04 annulled by April 05...
All I can say is that is easier to judge and form an opinion when you are on the other side. No one knows what its like until you ACTUALLY go through it.
Yes I could have easily cancelled the wedding and done a lot of things differently. But they were my choices, my decisions, my mistakes. I knew what mu ex was like before I went into the marriage and it is something I have deal with moving forward...
You are very right! Unless you are in those shoes you cannot judge. It really bothers me when people bring up the length of the time married with the size of the wedding and the gifts. Things happen. We made life decisions sometimes they work sometimes they do not.
Your happiness is what counts and if being in a bad situation means leaving your marriage 7 days, 7 weeks, 7 years etc no one should be judged. Marriage is not always a fairytale....
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| Posted 4/6/08 8:24 PM |
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MrsM-6-7-08
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
THis just happened to someone i know
beautiful wedding
she moved out 4 months after
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| Posted 4/6/08 11:51 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
MIL went to a wedding a few years ago - the husband asked for a divorce ON the honeymoon and left early - when he got home he had all his stuff moved out and that was it - all in all, they lasted less than one week.
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| Posted 4/7/08 12:06 AM |
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angnick
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
Unfortunately yes! We have friends who were together 5 years, broke up for 6 months, got back together and engaged in under 6 more months, got married a year later and split up 6 months after that.. very sad.. but when they got back together the first time they should have taken things slow to work out there issues. now they are a mess!
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| Posted 4/7/08 8:31 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
It happens. Often, unfortunately.
I have a good friend whose sister cancelled the wedding 2 weeks before - her parents lost $40k on the venue  The reason being, she was cheating. And the worst part of the story? She and the fiance got back together a year later, and just a few weeks ago got married. Needless to say, mom and dad did NOT pay for the wedding this time, and instead of planning an elaborate, HUGE reception at one of the fanciest venues in Philly, they opted for a destination wedding.
I also have a good friend who divorced a year after getting married. He's an amazing guy but they were just so different, and I think part of the issue is that he and his family were ridiculously, I mean GROSSLY rich and she just got caught up in it. Soon after she learned that money really does NOT buy happiness.
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| Posted 4/7/08 8:37 AM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
My STBX BIL and his wife. Got married in September, moved out by January...he tried to blame her (said she was cheating) but he was messing around with his current wife two weeks after his honeymoon
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| Posted 4/7/08 10:06 AM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
yes, sadly. a good friend of mine got married in october '06. she was out for good in march 07. she had moved in and out for a couple of days at a time prior to that. its sad...
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| Posted 4/7/08 6:39 PM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
Posted by kdelace
I AM one of those girls you are talking about... married Feb 04, separated by September 04 annulled by April 05...
All I can say is that is easier to judge and form an opinion when you are on the other side. No one knows what its like until you ACTUALLY go through it.
Yes I could have easily cancelled the wedding and done a lot of things differently. But they were my choices, my decisions, my mistakes. I knew what mu ex was like before I went into the marriage and it is something I have deal with moving forward...
and I think this is why this is the trend. Women are standing up and saying no, I am strong, I am don't have to stay in a marriage that really isn't working...I don't have to put up with this.
AND I also think there is a trend and this is all IMHO of men/women who believe that the grass is greener...
we are such a bigger and better society, there isn't always something better than the love you found that was enough to propose and get married...I know 4 couples that folded due to circumstances like this.
I think women being more and more self-sufficient has exposed a nerve in weak marriages.
Different circumstances mean different reasons for the failure of a marriage...it's a strong person to stand up and say I need to move on and the do so.
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JRG71
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
Posted by kdelace
I AM one of those girls you are talking about... married Feb 04, separated by September 04 annulled by April 05...
All I can say is that is easier to judge and form an opinion when you are on the other side. No one knows what its like until you ACTUALLY go through it.
Yes I could have easily cancelled the wedding and done a lot of things differently. But they were my choices, my decisions, my mistakes. I knew what mu ex was like before I went into the marriage and it is something I have deal with moving forward...
I am one of 'those' girls too. Married in May of 99 - Asked for a seperation December of 99 - Moved out August 00 - Annulled by 2001.
My reasons remain private but I will say this. I hope 'you' never have to go through something so awful, and embarrassing.
's to you kdelace.
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| Posted 4/7/08 8:26 PM |
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cjik
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
I had a friend who lived with her fiance for 3 years (they were engaged the whole time), got married, and was separated in less than 6 months.
I think they got engaged too fast (about a month after they started dating), and they realized something was wrong earlier, but had already begun the wedding process. That's my theory, my friend insists he changed after they got married.
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| Posted 4/7/08 10:54 PM |
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ggt08
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Re: People who get married then seperate right away
Posted by JRG71
Posted by kdelace
I AM one of those girls you are talking about... married Feb 04, separated by September 04 annulled by April 05...
All I can say is that is easier to judge and form an opinion when you are on the other side. No one knows what its like until you ACTUALLY go through it.
Yes I could have easily cancelled the wedding and done a lot of things differently. But they were my choices, my decisions, my mistakes. I knew what mu ex was like before I went into the marriage and it is something I have deal with moving forward...
I am one of 'those' girls too. Married in May of 99 - Asked for a seperation December of 99 - Moved out August 00 - Annulled by 2001.
My reasons remain private but I will say this. I hope 'you' never have to go through something so awful, and embarrassing.
's to you kdelace.
Thank you... I was a daily poster on here so many of the "oldies" know my situation and what I went through. Mine was awful but its in the past and I was strong enough to get out when I did. It has left some scars but I don't have ANY regrets!! Thanks for the hugs!!
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