playdate issue...

my DD has been involved in playdates and playgroups since she was 1yrs old...she is now turning 3.
Everytime we are with other kids, i talk to the mom and my DD always has to interupt me talking...its like she doesnt want me to talk to anyone. She does this when im on the phone too, or if im talking to my husband, etc...

I have tried to re direct her and tell her that she has her friend to play with and that i am talking to the mom while they play, it never works...

today was a total disaster...we had friends over and i couldnt hold a conversation for more then 30 seconds with out my DD interputing me, for all different types of reasons. i know this sounds bad but its quite annoying!!!! has anyone else had this problem? if so, how long did it last and what did you do about it?
when we first started having playdates when she was a year old, she just stayed by my leg and didnt want to play...at 2, she got better but she still was clingy, and now at 3 she will play but run back to interupt whatever im doing. its constant all day but its getting to be too much and a little embarrasing when im trying to talk to someone.
shes in preschool so its not like she isnt around other adults. i would just like to know what everyone else feels about this and what they are doing. thanks! -

Re: playdate issue...

Hi Amy
I want to put in my two cents mainly because I feel like I know Bella a little bit.

I think on a daily basis you include her in almost everything you do (which is fantastic of course) so maybe she doesnt know the difference when its "adult" time and "kid" time.

Message edited 8/16/2008 11:33:55 AM.

Re: playdate issue...

Ugg, Ava does this, too. To be quite honest, I tell whomever I'm speaking to that I know it's annoying, but I have to ignore her, or she'll think it's ok to do. If I even stop to say, "Ava, I'm talking to someone else," she thinks it's all about her anyway. So, even though she knows I'm telling her to stop, I gave her the attention she was looking for. However, as soon as I finish my sentence, if she's still waiting there, I say, "Thank you for waiting, next time say excuse me." or somethign to that effect. It's starting to work, but on the phone is harder since she can't really see me talking to anyone. I feel your pain. It's really rough. I definitely think they don't want to share us with anyone else and that's a lot of the problem.

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I'm not there yet, but I have vivid memories of daring to interupt my parent's in the middle of adult conversation and I plan on handling DD the same... a quick stern look and saying "excuse me, I'm talking you need to wait" and I agree... ignore the behavior and even threaten and follow through with punishment if necessary... of course something that fits the "crime". I think addressing the child just reinforces her to believe she's not doing anything wrong. JMO... a lot of my friends do reinforce it by giving their kids "the power" to interupt and then it gets out of control as they get older.

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Oh, I don't have any advice, but we are in the same page. My DS will interrupt me as soon as he sees me talking with another person or in the telephone. Even if he has not said a word to me in the past 10 minutes, as soon as he sees me on the phone he says "Mommy, come!". I just tell him that i am talking to another person, to be patient and to wait. Hope it gets better for all of us!

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i think all of you are right. Thanks so much for your input and for making me feel like im not the only one who thinks this issue is a little annoying and some of you are going through the same thing right now...

im still unsure what im going to do, i might try all of the suggestions until something works for us. i like what everyone had to say, it was so helpful!