LIVINMYDREAM
LIF Adolescent
Member since 12/07 833 total posts
Name:
Erin
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Please pray for my Dad........UPDATE.... UPDATE2
My dad is my hero.. He raised myself and my two brothers from babies. (My mother walked out when I was 4,and brothers were 3 and 18 months) So needless to say my life has definitely not been easy. BUT my father did everything for us. Was mom and dad,took me to dance classes, to cheerleading,to soccer. Through all that though, my father suffered from a disease called alcoholism.
He now also suffers from cirrosis of the liver. Although he won't come out and tell me, he has all the classic symptoms. He has also been close to death more than twice. He ended up with a virus that depleated his vitamins and severly dehydrated him. He lives down in Florida, by himself, and THANK GOD for a friend of his who hadn't heard from him in a couple of days. He climbed in a window to find my dad sitting in his chair in a cattatonic coma. Couldn't talk, couldn't walk etc... He was almost dead. Thank god for his friend. (That was 2 years ago thanksgiving eve) fast foward to today.. I try and get down to see him when I can. But being I am struggling myself with my boys I can't really afford to get down and see him as much as I would like. He came up to help my grandfather move (his father) and he couldn't walk to get off the airplane. They had to take him in a wheelchair because once again he was dehydrated.
I just don't know what to do anymore. He won't stop drinking.. I am literally watching my father kill himself...
I pray everyday that he will stop drinking and forge whatever type of quality of life he can while he still has the time, but everyday I think that today is going to be the day I'm going to get that phonecall.
He is my hero. He raised me, even with his disease. How can I sit here and watch this man wither away to nothing.
 
Ok so my father had to be rushed to the emergency room this morning. To make it worse, he is in North Carolina, and was in the process of driving with my grandfather down to live with him and he took a turn for the worse. He became very disoriented and confused and couldn't move. Which is a definite sign that his cirrhosis has progressed. Has anyone ever been through this before? I know the only way to prolong his life at this point is for him to stop drinking all together but I doubt that will ever happen. He is slowly killing himself. I am beyond upset at this point and am almost angry at the fact that he knows what he is doing to himself, and what he is doing to me and his grandchildren and he just doesn't care. More importantly is that my 83 year old grandfather is there with him. He doesn't deserve to have to take care of him.
I know I didnt get too many responses for prayers, maybe because of the fact that what was happening to my father was self inflicted persay.. I don't know.
BUT anyway, I'm happy to say that my father went from bad to better in the matter of 1 day. His delerium vanished, and although he was weak , he was doing better, so the dr released him, and he and my grandfather made it safely down to Florida within the day.They were home for Thanksgiving and my father celebrated his 59th birthday last week. AND the best news of all, he hasn't touched alcohol since his hospitalization. So keep praying that this scared him enough to stop drinking for good. For those of you who don't know, alcoholism is a genetic disease. People are predisposed to it and some just aren't strong enough to keep from getting addicted to one thing or another. As I wrote in my OP, my father is my hero. Although he suffers from this disease he was still able to raise myself and my 2 brothers into wonderful human beings all by himself!
With that said, I am so proud of him and can only pray that stays strong and continues on his path of healing and a happy sober life. 
Message edited 12/7/2010 3:36:23 PM.
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