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jessbaby
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Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
DH has off tomorrow but I am still sending DS to my sister’s house. DH was going to watch him but I am worried that DS will cry and DH won’t be able to calm him down. My sister watches him every day and knows his schedule. I know if he stays home with him I will be at work worrying all day. I feel so guilty sending him though when DH is home. I know DH can handle it but there are times when DS is fussing and DH can’t get him to calm down and I take him and he stops. What should I Do?
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Diane
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
This has happened to me, DH watches the boys on Friday's and he has gotten MUCH better and has them doing things I never could do, so let him watch him and see how he does, and try NOT to worry
He may surprise you
Message edited 1/25/2007 9:56:31 AM.
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| Posted 1/25/07 9:51 AM |
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Moehick
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
I would let DH watch him....how will he ever learn to soothe his son if he is not given the opportunity? I am sure he will be in safe hands and your sister may enjoy the day off.
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| Posted 1/25/07 9:55 AM |
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paulandles912
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
I agree that I'd let DH watch him.
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| Posted 1/25/07 10:01 AM |
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jessbaby
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Even if DH said to send him to my sisters?
He didnt' say to send him b/c he doesnt want to watch him he just doesn't want him to be upset all day.
Message edited 1/25/2007 10:24:12 AM.
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| Posted 1/25/07 10:22 AM |
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WoodIAm
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
You're not a bad Mother! I feel the same way about DH having Charlie all day. He has gotten much better and Charlie is getting used to him. I still worry though.
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| Posted 1/25/07 10:29 AM |
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JavaJunkie
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by Moehick
I would let DH watch him....how will he ever learn to soothe his son if he is not given the opportunity? I am sure he will be in safe hands and your sister may enjoy the day off.
I agree! Plus my DH would be insulted if I didn't have him stay home with the baby.
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| Posted 1/25/07 10:31 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
You are not a bad mother for wanting to take him to your sister's BUT you are not giving your DH the chance to learn. I would leave him with DH and not worry about it.
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| Posted 1/25/07 10:34 AM |
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Moehick
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by jessbaby
Even if DH said to send him to my sisters?
He didnt' say to send him b/c he doesnt want to watch him he just doesn't want him to be upset all day.
BUt you are just assuming he will be upset all day...and maybe there will be times when DS is upset but I think that this time that DH and DS will have together will teach them alot about each other....they can become closer and your DH will be able to help with DS when needed
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| Posted 1/25/07 11:35 AM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by BabyAvocado
You are not a bad mother for wanting to take him to your sister's BUT you are not giving your DH the chance to learn. I would leave him with DH and not worry about it.
I agree...he needs to not have an easy way out!
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| Posted 1/25/07 11:38 AM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by BabyAvocado
You are not a bad mother for wanting to take him to your sister's BUT you are not giving your DH the chance to learn. I would leave him with DH and not worry about it.
I agree...he needs to not have an easy way out!
I agree too. Maybe the bonding time will be good for both of them.
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| Posted 1/25/07 11:45 AM |
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jessbaby
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
So much for that idea. I called DH to tell him I think it would be a good idea for DS to stay home with him and DH has to work tomorrow now. 
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| Posted 1/25/07 12:47 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by SuzyQ
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by BabyAvocado
You are not a bad mother for wanting to take him to your sister's BUT you are not giving your DH the chance to learn. I would leave him with DH and not worry about it.
I agree...he needs to not have an easy way out!
I agree too. Maybe the bonding time will be good for both of them.
INcase he still gets a day off 
I agree and I think your sister would enjoy the break too. I think she should take first dibs on the choice here 
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| Posted 1/25/07 12:57 PM |
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TwoGirls4Me
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by BabyAvocado
You are not a bad mother for wanting to take him to your sister's BUT you are not giving your DH the chance to learn. I would leave him with DH and not worry about it.
I agree... actually you are a great mom and wife for looking out for the men in your life
however I agree that I would let your DH watch him. He needs to learn how to soothe the baby and your ds needs to be able to feel comfortable with your hubby. It's funny, when Sydney was about 2 months old DH had off and was home w/ her all day while I was at work... when I came home he said how great the day was and I could really see how much more comfortable he was.
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| Posted 1/25/07 1:25 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by jessbaby
So much for that idea. I called DH to tell him I think it would be a good idea for DS to stay home with him and DH has to work tomorrow now.
Well now you know for next time
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
I wpuld be rthe same way....but what about a half day w/ each (or if its giung well then your dh can "keep" him....my dh is guilty of having me take samantha away and calm her too ....but i am "learning" to step back and let him do it..it takes a little longer sometimes but both of them have to learn.....the other day i left him w/ her when she was a crank all day for me and they had a great day....
oops just saw your update...oh well, maybe next time!
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Posted by BabyAvocado
You are not a bad mother for wanting to take him to your sister's BUT you are not giving your DH the chance to learn. I would leave him with DH and not worry about it.
I agree. And if he needs help or has questions, he can call.
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| Posted 1/25/07 1:43 PM |
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Tumbalina
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
I would let your husband watch hi, it is his child 
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| Posted 1/25/07 1:50 PM |
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jessbaby
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
Thanks girls
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| Posted 1/25/07 1:58 PM |
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beachgirl13
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Re: Please tell me I am not a bad mother...
I would let DH watch him. He should learn how to take care of him, even if it messes up the schedule a little bit for the day. It will be ok!
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| Posted 1/25/07 3:37 PM |
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