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dm24angel
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Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
My Son's temper is out of control...
He is only 6 months old?!?!
It only started recently, maybe in the last week, where when hes mad or wants something, change of scenario...ANYTHING...HE freaks out.. He screams, he "tries" to cry, but SCREAMS , and kicks his feet and FLAILS his arms around, if hes laying down he throws his body around.
It's insane.
It looks like a temper tantrum a 2 yr old would throw.
I didnt have a clue babies did this.
And what do I do?
I cant rationalize or yell or anything to a 6 month old who cant really understand?
I try to change my tone of voice to one he is not gonna like and show Im unhappy, cause he does seem to understand that he likes when I'm smiling and how to make me that way, happy etc...
But really...any advice?
Is this it? Did he learn "temper" and theres no turning back?
THANKS!
Message edited 12/13/2007 9:09:58 AM.
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yankinmanc
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Its a phase. There I told you.
Its called CHILDHOOD.
Only when they turn 18 does it end.
Hope that helps!!!
Signed a woman whose child had Pringles and 2 yogurts for dinner last night.
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Smileyd17
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
I dont have an answer except my DD does have a bad temper and does similar things.
When she gets pi$$ed, she throws herself back and worst part is someone is usually holding her and you almost lose her!
When she cant get something she throws a fit. I try to give her a tone, but I think she is still too small to understand and I hope that its a phase too.
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by racheeeee
Its a phase. There I told you.
Its called CHILDHOOD.
Only when they turn 18 does it end.
Hope that helps!!!
Signed a woman whose child had Pringles and 2 yogurts for dinner last night.
It doesn't end at 18 Rachel because when we moved back in with my parents for 3 weeks right before baby #2 was due I had quiet the temper at the age of 25 
To the OP, I think he is just developing his personality. Also did he learn to squeal or scream recently. I know my DS did that when he learned because he could get my attention and it did pass but I don't remember how long. My nephew is doing it right now and he will be 5 months next week. It is actually kinda funny to see him get "angry".
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Diana1215
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Ha - I say that Jack has no chance of being mild mannered since DH and I have such bad tempers - and he def. takes after us.
He has been having temper tantrums for about two months now! I'm sure this will go on till he's about 25 or so.
Good times! 
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cgdg61606
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
DS does the same thing and it started at around the same age. I was shocked too...
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MrsR
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Although I am sure it is just a phase (this is one of the mantras I am constantly repeating to myself) - is he getting enough sleep? It sounds to me like he might be tired!
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btrflygrl
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
it's not really a temper tantrum per se....Noah is TRYING to communicate something but can't...so he does what KNOWS how to do....cry and scream.
If possible try to change the situation that may be frustrating him. Play some calming music?
Does it seem to happen at the same time of day? Maybe he's changing his daily routine?
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BigB
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
I think it is just part of the babies development. When they are so irrational, I think the only thing to do is let them scream it out! When we pay attention to the fit and try to calm the baby down, we get ourselves upset and that just feeds the fit!
It does get better as they can use their words to communicate. I can remember telling my nephew "Use your words and i will help you" when he was screaming bloody murder!
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Crismicka
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
I am going through this right now with DS. It has been like this since he was 4 months old. If he isn't fed quickly enough, when he is being changed, when he wants me to hold him, etc...he screams as if someone is trying to kill him! Seriously it sounds like a murder scene in a horror flick. He kicks and screams and now is punching himself!
I decided that I cannot play into this, especially since he is a twin and his sister is now seeing how to manipulate me as well. I have been trying to put him into his crib for a second so that he knows I will not tolerate being screeched at all day long...only problem is....last week he had such a fit in his crib, he banged his mouth on the crib rail and gave himself a fat lip and a bloody mouth. I felt so terrible and partially to blame. I am all out of ideas to make this easier.
I am sorry for the vent. I know you were looking for a pat on the back and someone to tell you this too shall pass. I will be waiting in line right behind you so that I too can get the pat and the reassurance, because right now I could use it....and a hug!
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LInative
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by btrflygrl
it's not really a temper tantrum per se....Noah is TRYING to communicate something but can't...so he does what KNOWS how to do....cry and scream.
If possible try to change the situation that may be frustrating him. Play some calming music?
Does it seem to happen at the same time of day? Maybe he's changing his daily routine?
Yup - agreed. And it is a phase, but the "trying to communicate" and having a fit over it is still here at 15 months. Only now he has his fits in front of the cabinet I wont open, or over the rocks I wont let him eat, etc.
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dm24angel
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
TO answer some questions
Yes he sleeps a LOT...We have never had a problem with sleep..He naps 3-4 times a day and sleeps 9-11 hours at night.
He didnt learn to screech/scream recently...
And I know hes trying to express himself sure...the situations are always " me taking something dangerous he grabbed away from him"...."Taking him out of the cold bathtub" ..."changing his clothes" ..."trying to get him to stop eating the rug" ....Stuff like that
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| Posted 12/13/07 9:27 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by btrflygrl
it's not really a temper tantrum per se....Noah is TRYING to communicate something but can't...so he does what KNOWS how to do....cry and scream.
If possible try to change the situation that may be frustrating him. Play some calming music?
Does it seem to happen at the same time of day? Maybe he's changing his daily routine?
No its not this at all...Other then hes trying to express hes pisssed off.
It happens when hes mad...like if He grabbed a cup and I take it away or when I try to put him in his car seat when we have to leave somewhere...Or when hes playing with his foot and Im moving it to put his pants on.
Its DEFINATLY a temper tantrum....
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krashnburn
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
At about 6 months DS started doing this strainging grunt when he gets mad or frustrated and he'll usually slam his arms down when he does it with this ****** off face. He was doing it constantly at first and I thought he was constipated, but then I began to see he was doing it in response to certain things like being mad at me for grabbing him on the changing table or when he couldn't reach something he wanted or when he wanted to get out of the high chair. 2 months later, he does it less frequently, but he still does it. I think in the beginning when they learn something new, even a new behavior, they repeated it frequently to see the responses...but the novelty wears off and they find something new.
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traceyd
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by Smileyd17
I dont have an answer except my DD does have a bad temper and does similar things.
When she gets pi$$ed, she throws herself back and worst part is someone is usually holding her and you almost lose her!
When she cant get something she throws a fit. I try to give her a tone, but I think she is still too small to understand and I hope that its a phase too.
my nieces used to do the through themselves back thing as well -they would do it when they were being held or just sitting on the floor-they would hit their heads on walls, furniture-everything it was teribble. But they did outgrow it and thankfully never got seriously hurt.
DD screams or cries when she can't get something she wants -especially when she wants to put something in her mouth that hangs from her play mat.
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yankinmanc
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by btrflygrl
it's not really a temper tantrum per se....Noah is TRYING to communicate something but can't...so he does what KNOWS how to do....cry and scream.
If possible try to change the situation that may be frustrating him. Play some calming music?
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I agree with this completely, I think that most "tantrums" are from kids trying to communicate with us and they simply CAN'T. I have this problem with my Noah...and also, when he doesn't get what he wants. So I think its normal
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dm24angel
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by kra5hnburn
At about 6 months DS started doing this strainging grunt when he gets mad or frustrated and he'll usually slam his arms down when he does it with this ****** off face. He was doing it constantly at first and I thought he was constipated, but then I began to see he was doing it in response to certain things like being mad at me for grabbing him on the changing table or when he couldn't reach something he wanted or when he wanted to get out of the high chair. 2 months later, he does it less frequently, but he still does it. I think in the beginning when they learn something new, even a new behavior, they repeated it frequently to see the responses...but the novelty wears off and they find something new.
This is what Iw as thinking. Mainly b/c it just started and he does it like 30 times a day over silly little things, so its him expressing his anger, I was asking really if its a behavior I was to expect would occur 30 times a day from now till forever...LOL....
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dm24angel
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by racheeeee
Posted by btrflygrl
it's not really a temper tantrum per se....Noah is TRYING to communicate something but can't...so he does what KNOWS how to do....cry and scream.
If possible try to change the situation that may be frustrating him. Play some calming music?
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I agree with this completely, I think that most "tantrums" are from kids trying to communicate with us and they simply CAN'T. I have this problem with my Noah...and also, when he doesn't get what he wants. So I think its normal
Yeah i get that..thats common sense, and completly understandable.
I was wondering how do I express to a 6 month old that screaming and hitting me with his arms when I take a sharp object away is not ok...Or is there simply no way to do that for quite a while...
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yankinmanc
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
Posted by dm24angel
Yeah i get that..thats common sense, and completly understandable.
I was wondering how do I express to a 6 month old that screaming and hitting me with his arms when I take a sharp object away is not ok...Or is there simply no way to do that for quite a while...
You don't. You ignore it. You praise good behavior and you ignore bad behavior. Reasoning with a 6 month old baby is a waste of your breath. Save it up until he REALLY throws tantrums when he is older.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
DS does this too now. he started around 7 months. The other day I tried to give him some pastina and for about 10 min. he spit it out at me and screamed at the top of his lungs like he was having a temper tantrum. I told him "no" and still continued trying to feed him (I am more stubborn that he is). Now a few days later, he loves pastina  He just was fighting b/c it was something new and he didnt want to be bothered at that time.
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Cailen does that too - honetly, I pretend its not happening, and carry on with my business... he already has learned it doesnt work, and has given it up for the most part, not that he wont revisit a few million more times within the next few years, I'm sure... I'm a big proponent for under reacting...
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heidla
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Re: Please tell me this is just a phase! BTDT moms, come in!
DS does the crying/screaming thing too. He does it when I take away something or when he wants something. DH looks at him and says "Fix it." I thought he was insane at first, but it is starting to work. DS calms down and figures out how else he can relay what he wants to DH.
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