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MrsFlatbread
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Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Just curious....
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Posted 9/19/08 4:53 PM  |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
This is an interesting question. I hear alot of people say "it wouldnt be worth it for me to work and pay for daycare" and I was surprised to hear them say that.
I left my job after 3 months back to go PT and I will say it was VERY hard to leave 1- because I loved my job and 2- because I had a good salary and great benefits...
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:02 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
wow, thats a pretty bold question lol
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:12 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
I answered the poll. My salary was on the higher end of the poll. For us, we can handle it financially without my salary though and would not be cutting it too close.
In the past, I used to think I wanted to continue working to keep my "independence" and pay, etc. But with time, I have realized that matters the least to me. In addition, we were definitely not interested in using a daycare or a family member. But if I had to work financially, I would be using a daycare for sure (NOT a family member).
Bottom line for me is, after many years of working FT and evaluating what is most important to me at this time and place in my life, staying home with my child is what I want 100% (and DH as well). I even left work awhile ago, not currently working and it has not bothered me in the least bit. But I really can't say I loved my job to be honest, or anyone I worked with either, so I don't miss much in those regards. I loved having the extra $ but other than that, nothing lost...
I am looking forward to being a SAHM with all of my heart. 
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:13 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by MommyAgain
wow, thats a pretty bold question lol
not really...just a question...and besides I have seen worse questions asked on these boards!!!
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:14 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by MommyAgain
wow, thats a pretty bold question lol
But it was in a poll. So no harm.
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:16 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
i guess, i did read the other thread that mayve made you decide to ask this though, and it just came off alil catty...
hard to tell i guess because we're all typing and not talking, so sometimes things are taken out of context, but im guessing people may assume that most women who decide to be SAHM must make beans, or theyd be working still..and this isnt really the case.
I wont assume thats what you meant, because that wouldnt be fair to you, you maybe not meant that at all, im just saying how the question posed, after the last thread, may look.
i actually totally agreed with you about feeling like my career makes me feel like the person i am, and i worked very hard to get where i am, and bring home a very decent paycheck..but i dunno..in any forum, asking peoples salary is very personal, and slightly tacky, imo..
its a number, it doesnt justify success or happiness in anyones life i think.
but youre right again, sometimes there are worse questions, and i think what another poster on the last thread said something to be absolutely true, women are just not nice enough to one another!!
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:21 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by MommyAgain
wow, thats a pretty bold question lol
Not really when its anonymous....
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:22 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by melijane
Posted by MommyAgain
wow, thats a pretty bold question lol
Not really when its anonymous....
Yeah I was thinking the same thing.
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:24 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by MommyAgain
i guess, i did read the other thread that mayve made you decide to ask this though, and it just came off alil catty...
hard to tell i guess because we're all typing and not talking, so sometimes things are taken out of context, but im guessing people may assume that most women who decide to be SAHM must make beans, or theyd be working still..and this isnt really the case.
I wont assume thats what you meant, because that wouldnt be fair to you, you maybe not meant that at all, im just saying how the question posed, after the last thread, may look.
i actually totally agreed with you about feeling like my career makes me feel like the person i am, and i worked very hard to get where i am, and bring home a very decent paycheck..but i dunno..in any forum, asking peoples salary is very personal, and slightly tacky, imo..
its a number, it doesnt justify success or happiness in anyones life i think.
but youre right again, sometimes there are worse questions, and i think what another poster on the last thread said something to be absolutely true, women are just not nice enough to one another!!
Or you could also assume that the DH makes TONS of money therefore the $$ the wife makes is unimportant if you look at it that way. I think everyone takes this stuff WAY too personally...if anything is ever posted that is remotely similar to someone's situation they turn it to be about them and get offended(not saying you are doing this but I have seen it many times)
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:25 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
lol, cmon..listen, im not saying im worried that anyone would know how much i make..i make between 60 and 80..ok? lollll
im not ashamed, and dont feel inadequate about it.
Im just saying, when you poll, NORMALLY people will reply with their opinion on the poll..
this was just my opinion..
i happen to agree with alot of what Flatbread posted, so this isnt about me thinking SHE was tacky, i just thought it to be a bold question.
No hard feelings ladies, we dont have to always agree
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:26 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by melijane
Posted by MommyAgain
i guess, i did read the other thread that mayve made you decide to ask this though, and it just came off alil catty...
hard to tell i guess because we're all typing and not talking, so sometimes things are taken out of context, but im guessing people may assume that most women who decide to be SAHM must make beans, or theyd be working still..and this isnt really the case.
I wont assume thats what you meant, because that wouldnt be fair to you, you maybe not meant that at all, im just saying how the question posed, after the last thread, may look.
i actually totally agreed with you about feeling like my career makes me feel like the person i am, and i worked very hard to get where i am, and bring home a very decent paycheck..but i dunno..in any forum, asking peoples salary is very personal, and slightly tacky, imo..
its a number, it doesnt justify success or happiness in anyones life i think.
but youre right again, sometimes there are worse questions, and i think what another poster on the last thread said something to be absolutely true, women are just not nice enough to one another!!
Or you could also assume that the DH makes TONS of money therefore the $$ the wife makes is unimportant if you look at it that way. I think everyone takes this stuff WAY too personally...if anything is ever posted that is remotely similar to someone's situation they turn it to be about them and get offended(not saying you are doing this but I have seen it many times)
youre actually missing my point totally.
i wasnt offended. At all.
I made a comment with my opinion in it, when i replied to the poll, which usually everyone else does on here...
no big deal, lets drop it..im not a drama starter, i just thought it was funny...hence the "lol" at the end of my statement.
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
I'm not gonna answer the poll cuz I have to return to work. I do make a higher salary though.
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:28 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by mzsocialworker1
I'm not gonna answer the poll cuz I have to return to work. I do make a higher salary though.
 
i LOVE this.
thank you!
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| Posted 9/19/08 5:29 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by MommyAgain
im guessing people may assume that most women who decide to be SAHM must make beans, or theyd be working still..and this isnt really the case.
I wont assume thats what you meant, because that wouldnt be fair to you, you maybe not meant that at all, im just saying how the question posed, after the last thread, may look.
I do agree, I think many people may assume if one chooses to stay home, it's because they were not making much to begin with, which is not the case often.
For me, I chose staying home with my child above my desire for my good salary/job/freedom,etc. I looked at it like this: I can always make $ and I can always get another job as my degrees will always be mine, but what I can't do is go back in time should I regret not staying home with my child. This was my mindset and what helped me to decide. It took me different life experiences and years to come to this decision though, it wasn't always my thought process.
However, I definitely would not have put us in a bad spot if we couldn't afford it and would have continued to work without hesitation.
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monkeybride
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by Goobster
Posted by MommyAgain
im guessing people may assume that most women who decide to be SAHM must make beans, or theyd be working still..and this isnt really the case.
I wont assume thats what you meant, because that wouldnt be fair to you, you maybe not meant that at all, im just saying how the question posed, after the last thread, may look.
I do agree, I think many people may assume if one chooses to stay home, it's because they were not making much to begin with, which is not the case often.
For me, I chose staying home with my child above my desire for my good salary/job/freedom,etc. I looked at it like this: I can always make $ and I can always get another job as my degrees will always be mine, but what I can't do is go back in time should I regret not staying home with my child. This was my mindset and what helped me to decide. It took me different life experiences and years to come to this decision though, it wasn't always my thought process.
However, I definitely would not have put us in a bad spot if we couldn't afford it and would have continued to work without hesitation.
I don't assume that at all. That isn't the case for me or quite a few of my friends. I just assume that the family has decided they can make it work on the DH's income alone or with the wife working PT and making a reduced salary.
Why would people assume women who choose to stay home make "beans"?/ 
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| Posted 9/19/08 6:50 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by monkeybride
I don't assume that at all. That isn't the case for me or quite a few of my friends. I just assume that the family has decided they can make it work on the DH's income alone or with the wife working PT and making a reduced salary.
Why would people assume women who choose to stay home make "beans"?/
I would think b/c some people can't imagine why someone would (or could) part with $60,000 or $80,000 salary to stay home and watch their child, when they can make such a nice salary and pay alot less for daycare or have a family member do it.
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| Posted 9/19/08 6:54 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by Goobster
Posted by monkeybride
I don't assume that at all. That isn't the case for me or quite a few of my friends. I just assume that the family has decided they can make it work on the DH's income alone or with the wife working PT and making a reduced salary.
Why would people assume women who choose to stay home make "beans"?/
I would think b/c some people can't imagine why someone would (or could) part with $60,000 or $80,000 salary to stay home and watch their child, when they can make such a nice salary and pay alot less for daycare or have a family member do it.
exactly. I made more of a middle of the categorys salary. It was not worth it for me to work 40 hours a week plus commute and pay for childcare.
If I had made Over $80K a year, I would have gone back to work I "think"
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| Posted 9/19/08 7:08 PM |
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Katie111806
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by Goobster
Posted by MommyAgain
im guessing people may assume that most women who decide to be SAHM must make beans, or theyd be working still..and this isnt really the case.
I wont assume thats what you meant, because that wouldnt be fair to you, you maybe not meant that at all, im just saying how the question posed, after the last thread, may look.
I do agree, I think many people may assume if one chooses to stay home, it's because they were not making much to begin with, which is not the case often.
For me, I chose staying home with my child above my desire for my good salary/job/freedom,etc. I looked at it like this: I can always make $ and I can always get another job as my degrees will always be mine, but what I can't do is go back in time should I regret not staying home with my child. This was my mindset and what helped me to decide. It took me different life experiences and years to come to this decision though, it wasn't always my thought process.
However, I definitely would not have put us in a bad spot if we couldn't afford it and would have continued to work without hesitation.
I don't assume that at all. That isn't the case for me or quite a few of my friends. I just assume that the family has decided they can make it work on the DH's income alone or with the wife working PT and making a reduced salary.
Why would people assume women who choose to stay home make "beans"?/
Me either, I don't assume anything. I gave up my great paying Manhattan job to move to CT and be a SAHM because it is what DH and I feel is best for our family (and our family only). Will it be tougher for us with me not working? Of course. Do I still worry about not working and having my "own" thing even though being a SAHM is what I've always wanted? Most definitely. Everyone's situation is different...no one should assume anything...I know I don't.
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pickles16
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
I'm someone that isn't planning on being a SAHM, and I make a six figure salary, but to be honest, I think I would still go back to work making A LOT less, I'm just the type of person that needs to be out of the house a little and "working" not saying thaat you're not working being a SAHM, bc I honestly think thats the hardest job in the world, I'm just like a mexican jumping bean, and know that for my mindset I'm going to need to work....so as for assumptions of giving up "beans" I don't think anyone was assuming that considering I know a lot of ppl in my industry that make what I make have decided to stay a home, and leave six figures!!!!! Everyone does what is best for them whether it be working for a $1 and hour and loving it or giving up 1 million dollars to take care of your children and home...
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| Posted 9/19/08 7:40 PM |
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
just wanna clear something up...
i specifically said, i WONT assume what she meant, or say that anyone "assumes" SAHM's make "beans" lol cause i think assumptions are for azzes lol...i said that i FIGURED some people would look at the post, and get that from what was said..
and obviously i was correct cause this got somewhat tense, and women on here ARE IN FACT thinking thats what was meant...
im obviously the one who started the drama by saying it was a bold question...if THATS a drama starter, im on the WRONG boards lolllll
everything said here should def be taken with a grain of salt, none of us live in each others homes..sometimes things are wonderful for people we may think have it rough, and sometimes people who look like they "have it all together" really dont..its none of my business..i just think the post was a bold one..i didnt say bold bad or bold good..
i was playing devils advocate for a moment, and obviously i made my point lol
sorry if anyone was offended by anything that i mayve said..
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Eireann
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
I was a Catholic school teacher...so, you do the math!  Somewhere around the middle of your poll...
Actually, I would have SAH regardless of what salary I was making--whether it was 10K or 100K. I never really desired to SAH, but this is the decision we felt was best for OUR family. If I could sacrifice a HUGE part of who I am and what I loved to do--my identity as a teacher--then I could sacrifice ANY dollar amount!
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MommyAgain
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
well said :)
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| Posted 9/19/08 10:00 PM |
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Donna
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
Posted by Goobster
I answered the poll. My salary was on the higher end of the poll. For us, we can handle it financially without my salary though and would not be cutting it too close.
In the past, I used to think I wanted to continue working to keep my "independence" and pay, etc. But with time, I have realized that matters the least to me. In addition, we were definitely not interested in using a daycare or a family member. But if I had to work financially, I would be using a daycare for sure (NOT a family member).
Bottom line for me is, after many years of working FT and evaluating what is most important to me at this time and place in my life, staying home with my child is what I want 100% (and DH as well). I even left work awhile ago, not currently working and it has not bothered me in the least bit. But I really can't say I loved my job to be honest, or anyone I worked with either, so I don't miss much in those regards. I loved having the extra $ but other than that, nothing lost...
I am looking forward to being a SAHM with all of my heart.
this pretty much sums it up for me.
especially after 3+ years of Infertility treatments
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| Posted 9/19/08 10:05 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Poll for those of you that will be SAHM's after the baby is born
I work PT and make on the low end of the poll. I just put in my 2 weeks yesterday though. But regardless of what I make, I always wanted to be a SAHM my entire life. I was never a career person. My desire was and is to stay home with my children.
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