Post Partum Sex question

So DS is 12 weeks old. We didn't "do it" until he was 8 weeks and even then I was terrified. I took one for the team, so to speak, and we did it then. It pretty much succked. I think we'd both agree on that. But good enough for him at the time. It hurt big time and I just don't think I was mentally "there", what with DS being in the other room and me in my head knowing that he could start crying and need me at any second. It didn't exactly let me relax and enjoy the moment. Anyway, we've only done it one other time since then, still hurt, and then this past weekend at 12 weeks pp, it still hurt..so much that we couldn't even finish. DH is being very understanding and we've been intimate otherwise.

My question is, how long is this pain going to last??? Oh, and I should mention that although I did push for over 2 hours, I ended up having a c-section. I didn't think it would hurt like this having had a c. Do you think it may be all mental or do you think it's possible to still have pain? I'm wondering if I should call my doctor and get looked at...

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I had a C also and was back on the "wagon" after 4 wks. It was a bit uncomfortable but I looked past it. DS must have known something was up (no pun) but we finished then got him. better parents.

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I never had pain with either of my c-sections. I would call the OB and see what they say. I would think 12 weeks PP you shouldn't still be having so much pain

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I will be 12 weeks pp on Monday... We tried at 8 weeks and we never finished. It was way too painful...Went to doctor and she said there were some fissures and I would take some time to heal.

We tried again this week and although extremely painful- we "got through it"... it was not so much fun for either of us but my goal was to at least "do it"

I have another doc appt tomorrow -so we will see what she says.

I understand how you feel- I feel like it is completely not the norm to feel like this 3 months pp...it really sucks!

Edited for spelling

Message edited 5/14/2009 10:03:34 AM.

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Honestly...it was a good year before I felt back to normal. It wasnt painful the whole year, but even still now we need lots of lube. I tore REALLY badly though and the scar tissue just isnt as "stretchy".

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DD will be 9wks tomorrow. DH and I have tried twice now and the same thing - lots of pain - finsihed the first time, but not the 2nd b/c it just hurt too much. I had a scheduled c-section, so no pushing or anything for me. I think the pain comes from "lack of use" - that you kind of shrink back to where you were as a kid. I just bought some KY figuring that maybe some lube would help - haven't gotten that far yet. I think it just takes time and you have to sort of ease back into it. But know that you are not alone and I think this is a fairly common problem.

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Are you BFing? That could be the main reason you're in pain. It could get better soon or it could be painful until you stop BFing. Make sure you use a lot of lube.

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I have been having this issue (4.5 months pp). It has been getting better although I will admit can still be a little painful. You have to use A LOT of lube. And I mean A LOT.

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I did the "deed" a day b4 my 6 week check up. It was horrible to say the least. And I didn't think it would be because I had a csection. It honestly only got better after the 4th time we did it.

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This is one aspect where I was happy DH was away. It took me 11 months to feel the urge or desire. My hormones were a mess but it got so much better. It won't last forever.

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Posted by ruby

Posted by MrsS2005

Are you BFing? That could be the main reason you're in pain. It could get better soon or it could be painful until you stop BFing. Make sure you use a lot of lube.

yes, i'm BFing. We did use lube cause i know that bfing dries you out. Maybe i need to use more.

At least I know I'm not alone in the pain dept, though I think i may try and see my OB just in case. Thanks

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Posted by MrsS2005

Posted by ruby

Posted by MrsS2005

Are you BFing? That could be the main reason you're in pain. It could get better soon or it could be painful until you stop BFing. Make sure you use a lot of lube.

yes, i'm BFing. We did use lube cause i know that bfing dries you out. Maybe i need to use more.

At least I know I'm not alone in the pain dept, though I think i may try and see my OB just in case. Thanks

I spoke to my OB about it and said it's definitely due to the BFing and it's very common. You can always ask your OB for some estrogen cream, which could help.