Prayers needed for a friend

A friend from work miscarriaged at 20 weeks..She buried the baby today. I am so sad for her and don't know what to say.. Should I send her a Peace Lilly Plant? I really don't know what to do..thanks

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I don't know about a plant- I think that at regular deaths the gesture is a wonderful one because it reminds the person of that person when they look at the plant- I never buy flowers anymore for funerals, only plants.
I think if I were her, it would be too difficult to be reminded of someone that was growing inside of me but that I never got to enjoy time with. Are you close enough to her to just take her out to lunch or maybe a mani/pedi or something- like a mini day of pampering? My prayers are with her, I can't even imagine having to go thru that.

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Thanks, I see what you are saying about the Plant idea..not being a good one..because it is a reminder of life and growth.. A Mani/pedi and lunch is a good idea..Thanks.. I wish I knew what to say..All I kept saying was I am so sorry..but that isn't enough.

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so sorry to hear about that

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I would skip the plant. At my sons funeral we got a beautiful plant. I loved that plant. My DH and I don't have green thumbs. Needless to say the plant died and I cried, it was like I falled my son by letting it die. Like a someone else said it reminds them of the person who past (which isn't always a good thing). A dinner would be great to give them. either home made or dilivered.

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I'm so sorry for your friend. The same thing happened to my cousin at 19 weeks. I just mourned with her let her talk and most of all acknowledged the baby. We attended the funeral and sent flowers...she is doing better now.

for your friend to heal

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I have no idea what you can do but I am so sorry for your friend.

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beign there for her will mean the world to her. make sure to acknowledge the realness of the pain

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I dont think there is anything more you can say but sorry, and be there for her. Be that shoulder for her to lean on.

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I'm very sorry for your friend's loss, that's devastating. I would try a hot meal so they don't have to cook.