pregnant bridesmaid

I am a bridesmaid in a family member's wedding party. My dilemma is the bachelorette party...which is going to be in AC.. I will be 3 months at the time..I haven't been feeling well. What do I do? Nobody know I'm pregnant yet..Any ideas? Thanks ladies

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when do you plan on telling people?

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at 12 weeks. I am almost 9 weeks now. The problem is the money etc. for the bachelorette party is due next week. I really want to know..but deep down don't think it is a good idea. I just don't want the bride to be mad.

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I mean I really want to go to the party

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I would totally go, but that's just me. I went to the Jersey shore for a bach party when I was 7 months preggo with DS #1, went to AC this past summer for a bach party when I was not even 3 months preggo and then again with DH when I was 5 months. I had a great time each time.

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Are you going to be 3 months pregnant by the time the party comes around? If so, pay the money and go! You can just tell everyone before the party and they will totally understand if you are too tired to participate in all of the *festivities*

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how many months will you be at the wedding.
you def need to tell bride as soon as you feel comfy telling.
i went to ac when i was 4months but didnt go to party tho.

Message edited 2/26/2010 8:14:53 PM.

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If you're not feeling up to going I wouldn't put myself though it. I would have a bad time if I wasn't feeling up to it. And how will you explain not drinking to the people? Can you tell the bride in confidence? I am sure she would unsderstand. Or blame it on your Dh tell them he's giving you trouble about going! lol

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Thanks ladies..the thing I am nervous about..is we are taking a bus there.. staying about 6 hours then taking the bus home..so we aren't getting rooms.

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I will tell the bride I'm preggo soon..I just want to wait for my sonogram.

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I was also a BM in a wedding in October and went to a bachelorette party to the wineries when i was 3 months preggo too!Yes I was tired, but I still had fun!

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The plan is to gamble for a little while and then spend the night dancing at a club the rest of the night.

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i don't wanna sound like a jerk.. i really think you should just tell her you're pregnant. I totally understand the fact that you want to wait to tell people and all that.. but if the money is due next week and you have nothing to tell her it's just going to cause waves. This girl considers you a good enough friend to have you in her bridal party, I don't get why you'd be hesitant to open up to her. I absolutely understand you not wanting to go.. I know with me I feel great one day and like shiiit the next. I just think you should be up front with her.. but then again I had no patience and told everyone we were PG right away lol..

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I agree, you should be worried about the dresses for the wedding (esp. if they are going to be coordinated).

It depends on you. If you are going to have horrible morning sickness you could either:

1. Give in money & say that you have a stomach thing if you aren't feeling well at the time.

2. Pony up and tell the bride, in secret, that you are very early & you are having MS and prob. won't be fun.

3. Go with your hubby and hang out with them for parts. Though rooms in AC for the weekend can get $$$.

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i'm going be be 6-7 months old and still going to my friends bachelorette party. I would say just go and enjoy!

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thanks ladies.. I decided to tell the bride today.
I am going to go to the bachelorette..If it gets to crazy or I'm too tired I'll find a place to sit and gamble. I appreciate everyone's suggestions I'll let you know how it goes.

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Go and tell everyone you don't want to know yet that you gave up drinking for Lent!

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I went to a bachelorette party for my best friend at 10 or 11 wks. I told the bride and a few of my girlfriends who were there and everything as fine! I had a lot of fun and chipped in for everything except drinks at the bar, of course. I will admit that I was tired the second night, but the other girls were drinking all day and into the evening and it ended up being an earlier night than I expected because of that, lol!

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