Question about changing Godparent Status

I am very upset. When my DS was born 5 years ago, my MIL was just diagnosed with cancer (she has since passed away). She begged me (kinda guilted me into it) to ask her sister (my DH's aunt) to be the baby's godmother. We were pretty close to his aunt at the time. I didn't want to upset my MIL since it was really looking grim for her and I wanted her to have a nice memory, so I agreed.

Well, fast forward 5 years later. Since my MIL passed away 2.5 years ago, the aunt has TOTALLY dropped out of our lives. She's totally selfish and self-absorbed (we've come to learn).

So now, my question is...am I stuck with her as my son's Godmother? I would love to have her name taken off his certificate and have my aunt (who is my younger son's Godmother also) become his Godmother instead.

Does anyone know of anyone that has ever done this? Is it even allowed?

I am so upset and I can really kick myself for ever consenting to having her be my child's GOdmother.

Re: Question about changing Godparent Status

I am soo sorry

I would call the rectory of your church and see what they tell you. Maybe you can re baptize him or they can change the name on the certificate.

I think it would totally worth the call since you feel so strongly about this

Re: Question about changing Godparent Status

I know someone who was basically in the same situation (the godmother became estranged from the family and completely dropped out of their lives).

She told me she went to her parish, talked to a priest and was able to get it changed.

I would imagine the church would be okay with it -- the godparents pledge to be spiritual guides for the child. If they are not around, you should be allowed to pick someone else.

Good luck...

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We were told that we would never be able to change the godparents, and were basically lectured on how to make sure we were making a good choice. BUT, maybe they will let you change. Good luck!

Re: Question about changing Godparent Status

I "adopted" honorary new godparents. My godfather grew apart from the family and my godmother wasn't around much, so I "adopted" a favorite aunt & uncle as my new godparents. It wasn't anything official, but it felt nice.

Maybe you can do something like that...?

I'm not very religious though -I see the godparent role as more of an honor than an active role of spiritual guidance, so I didn't care what the paperwork said.

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