Question about godparents

My DH and I already know who we want to be the godparents of our first child. We have known since before we even conceived. I am only starting week 11 so I know it is very early to discuss this. However we have a tiny dilemma that may or may not be an issue.

We just found out that the in laws of one of our godparent choices is expecting their 3rd a few weeks after I am due. I have a feeling that there is a very good chance that our chosen godparent might be asked to be the godparent to this child.

This is our first child and the godparent being referred to is the sibling of my DH, so it means a lot to us to have this person. We want to make sure we ask this person before anyone else does- this may sound selfish, but since this is our first, we want it to be special, and not something that can become a burden (since it could be- being asked to be a godparent twice so close together).

This can be a lot of overthinking on my part, since perhaps the in-law might not even be thinking to ask this person, but it is still for some reason something I think could very likely happen.

Should we make mention that we would like this person to be the godparent, even though it is extremely early, or should we just wait it out and see what happens? Am I jumping the gun and being selfish? TIA

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Should I take it that after 19 views and no replies that yes I am being selfish, yes I am jumping the gun and I should just take a chill pill?

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What we did with Rogan was ask them after the Level 2. It was still early, but we had felt that once we knew the baby was okay we wanted them to know we wanted them as Godparents.

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I would ask if you are worried.

I would think that the Inlaw would understand since this would be the first child of their sibling.

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if it were me and I were in your situation I would ask. But I am also the type of person that is very organized and likes to have everything done. Follow your instinct, if you feel you should wait, then wait but i would get it out of the way. Hope this helps.

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Heck no, I don't think that's selfish!!!!! If you really want this fellow for the godfather, I say go ahead and ask him, he will be HONORED I'm sure! And while it MAY be that the other couple is going to ask him too, they may or may not have him in mind for the job, KWIM?

And in reality the godfather role is largely ceremonial, I don't think it's a big imposition to have someone be the godfather to 2 babies in close proximity....

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If it is very important to you I would go ahead and ask when you are ready why not? Honestly though for the most part godparents are more ceremonial than impositions. I know plenty of people who have multiple godchildren so as long as they aren't scheduled for the same day I'm sure she would be honored to be your child's godmother!

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i would ask, but just so you know.... people can have more than one godchild. so they might be asked by the other couple as well, I still don't think it takes from the fact that they are the godparent for YOUR child also, KWIM?

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I know what you mean about it becoming a burden so close together.. I would ask now if I were you just to ease your mind.. But I have a feeling they may still ask them as well anyway.. But you should ask now. I would..