Question about your clinic's policy

on children in the waiting room.

We are having a "discussion" about this on one of my other boards and I'm just curious.

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Attached to my welcome packet was a very well-worded letter (IMO) about not bringing children to the waiting room unless it is absolutely necessary.

And if they do bring the children in, to please closely watch them and be sensitive to others' feelings.

I have to say, until I got the letter I hadn't thought about it, but it does make sense to me and I felt kind of relieved about it in a weird way.

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well what does a woman do with her child or children when she has to come in?
Thank goodness NSUH doesnt have a policy like that.. if they did I wouldnt be able to go as I dont have a nanny and my parents and DH all work.

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The clinic I went to had no policy about bringing kids however i strongly believe that people should be considerate of the feelings of the others around them. Who's to say that the person next to you has gone thru endless rounds of IVF still with no good results. It is just common sense that being there in itself is uncomfortable and then having little kids run around just kindda rubs it in the others face. JMO

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Where i went there was no policy, most of the time i would find a sitter, but it was very hard for those early morning visits.

Sometimes I had no choice and had to bring my daughter in, and made sure she was very quiet. She did bring a smile to some of the women's faces, which was nice.

I guess a clinic could put up a notice about it, but they can't prevent you from doing it if you have no other choice.

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Posted by mtg1970

The clinic I went to had no policy about bringing kids however i strongly believe that people should be considerate of the feelings of the others around them. Who's to say that the person next to you has gone thru endless rounds of IVF still with no good results. It is just common sense that being there in itself is uncomfortable and then having little kids run around just kindda rubs it in the others face. JMO

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I can honestly say at RSONY when there was a baby crying or a yound child running around near me, I fought back tears on many occasions so I think there should be a warning to patients to be considerate.

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I am fully aware of children being a part of life and have always loved being in the presence of children even if I didn't have one of my own. Fortunately after 3 IVF tries I will soon become a parent as well and have learned to appreciate the value of what it takes to have this child. My opinion about bringing children to a clinic is based on observation and how I felt at the time. Even with being able to have my own child soon I still feel it is the one place where it is uncomfortable bringing a child to in the presence of other women and their infertility struggles.

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Funny you should bring this up. I know how hard it must be for those TTC without any children, and I always found it a bid weird when I see children in the clinic, but also think that it could bring hope because I always assume those babies were ART babies.

I started a thread earlier this week about my dilemna about this, but deleted it in case it would upset anyone.

So far I have always (except once) been able to get childcare. However, this week I have an appointment at 7:30 AM and no one to help. My DH started a new job and leaves at 6:30AM, my dad will be away, my mom has a 7:30 school meeting. My inlaws live across town and dont drive, and my sister has no idea what is going on and I can not rely on her. I dont really have any firends that are free/able to come babysit from 7AM-9AM.
I have exhausted every avenue and called NSUH to ask their policy. They said there policy is "children are welcome" and that it happens all the time. I would prefer that my 3y.o DS not be in the room while I am on the dildo cam, but I have no other options. I will bring toys to keep him quiet and try to sit in a corner out of respect for those that are upset by this. Fortunately NSUH has a very large waiting room and usually no wait, so hopefully I wont come in contact with too many people.

Having been on both sides of the fence, it is not easy/pleasant either place.

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Rose, if hes in a stroller you could always just TURN the stroller the other way..

My apts also have always been early in the morning so that I wasnt late getting my school aged son.
I would so much rather go by myself but just dont have that option.

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he hasnt used a stroller in months, I have thought about turning the chair around, but I am afraid that will just make him more curious. I probably will give it a shot though.

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I have to say that my visits post miscarriage to my obgyn were very painful. It felt like every woman sitting with me was very, very pregnant. It made me feel heartbroken. When I go for my first appointment at North Shore Manhasset, I'll be nervous and I don't know if I would feel comfortable with adorable children in the waiting area. I'm sure there are pictures of the babies that were born to patients to prove success, I don't know if I should have to meet them. On the other hand, we as women juggle so much that if someone didn't have a sitter, it wouldn't make me mad, what can a mother do, miss an important appointment, I wouldn't want that. I would just ask that they are respectful and understanding if I'm a little quiet and "stand offish"

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Off the subject but, Teresa what a beautiful picture of you and your hubby!

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Posted by Jillybean28

I have to say that my visits post miscarriage to my obgyn were very painful. It felt like every woman sitting with me was very, very pregnant. It made me feel heartbroken. When I go for my first appointment at North Shore Manhasset, I'll be nervous and I don't know if I would feel comfortable with adorable children in the waiting area. I'm sure there are pictures of the babies that were born to patients to prove success, I don't know if I should have to meet them. On the other hand, we as women juggle so much that if someone didn't have a sitter, it wouldn't make me mad, what can a mother do, miss an important appointment, I wouldn't want that. I would just ask that they are respectful and understanding if I'm a little quiet and "stand offish"

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Posted by Jillybean28

I have to say that my visits post miscarriage to my obgyn were very painful. It felt like every woman sitting with me was very, very pregnant. It made me feel heartbroken. When I go for my first appointment at North Shore Manhasset, I'll be nervous and I don't know if I would feel comfortable with adorable children in the waiting area. I'm sure there are pictures of the babies that were born to patients to prove success, I don't know if I should have to meet them. On the other hand, we as women juggle so much that if someone didn't have a sitter, it wouldn't make me mad, what can a mother do, miss an important appointment, I wouldn't want that. I would just ask that they are respectful and understanding if I'm a little quiet and "stand offish"

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Thanks for the warning about the hall way, I'll just wear big, black sunglasses and make a run for it!

And as for the waiting room, I'm a big girl and I'll have to get over it. The world does not revolve around me ( or so dh tells me!)

Message edited 2/7/2006 11:09:20 PM.

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We have a sign in our office that says dues to the sensitivity of our patients, try your best to provide day care for your children.

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Posted by Jillybean28

Off the subject but, Teresa what a beautiful picture of you and your hubby!

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Teresa!!!!!! I was wondering how you were!!!!

CONGRATS!!!!

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I don't think my current place has a policy but I haven't seen children there yet.

I have seen them in the past and it has bothered me at times, because it wasn't the mother only with the child, the father and/or grandma was there too. In those cases I would have rather had dad/grandma take the child outside or something

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