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rose825
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Question for Working Moms of older kids
specifically those working outside of the home, since ALL moms are working moms.
When you come home from work what do you do with your kids?
I get home at 6ish, and alot of the neighborhood kids are outside playing. One boy sits on our stoop (yes the "stoop" I should add mine is a city kid- we live in Queens) waiting for DS to get home.
I feel bad that he wants to be outside with his friends. DS isnt old enough to play outside by himself (he is 4), I still have to get dinner ready bathe him and give him time to wind down. AND I am exhausted and if I am sitting outside watching him I can get nothing done.
So when you get home from work do you go right in the house, or are you spending time outside?
I guess its harder for me because 1) the kids play right outside my window and 2) DH works nights so its only me who can go out.
Some of the neighborhood parents let them play outside alone but I dont see that happening for years.......
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Posted 7/24/07 8:38 PM  |
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
i wouldn't let my kids play outside alone.. maybe you can give him 45 minutes or so outside with the kids?
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| Posted 7/24/07 9:32 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
I think you should talk to your son about it and explain that you can't stay out long because you have things you need to do (cook, give a bath, etc...) Let him know that he has a half hour every day, or even every other day, to play outside with his friends, but he needs to come inside when his time is up.
Are there any other mothers you trust? Maybe you can take tunrs watching the kids?
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| Posted 7/24/07 9:37 PM |
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rose825
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
Posted by nferrandi
I think you should talk to your son about it and explain that you can't stay out long because you have things you need to do (cook, give a bath, etc...) Let him know that he has a half hour every day, or even every other day, to play outside with his friends, but he needs to come inside when his time is up.
Are there any other mothers you trust? Maybe you can take tunrs watching the kids?
I basically do this now. BUt honestly some days I cant even stand half an hour I am so tired. I know its what I need to do though.
can you believe some parents leave there kids outside by themselves? We are in a courtyard but not that far from the street. The oldest is 7, but there are a couple siblings who are 5 and 2. The mother checks on them from the window. 
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| Posted 7/25/07 7:24 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
We have neighbors that Alex loves to play with - an 8 year old, a 6 year old, and a little 2 year old that's the same age.
We usually get home from school between 5:00 and 5:30pm. I usually spend about an hour or so outside playing with Alex, with our neighbors. Then I bring her home, make her a quick dinner (DH freezes a lot of quick meals for her), give her a bath and put her to sleep. While I'm doing most of that, DH prepares dinner for us.
Where's your DH in the equation? Can you give some tasks to him, like making dinner, or getting the bath ready?
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| Posted 7/25/07 7:38 AM |
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rose825
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
Posted by Bxgell2
Where's your DH in the equation? Can you give some tasks to him, like making dinner, or getting the bath ready?
I realize thats part of the problem. He works nights, so its just me
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| Posted 7/25/07 7:43 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
Posted by rose825
Posted by Bxgell2
Where's your DH in the equation? Can you give some tasks to him, like making dinner, or getting the bath ready?
I realize thats part of the problem. He works nights, so its just me
Ohhhh... well, I can certainly relate - DH has taken up swim classes so two nights of the week he gets home after she goes to bed. I really try to keep our routine going on those nights. I think, at least for us, it helps to split dinnertime. So, on nights DH isn't home, I'll take one of the frozen dinners he's prepared and will heat it up in the microwave and give it to her. Whle she's eating dinner, I tidy up, pack her lunchbag for the next day, etc. That usually gives us at least an hour to play outside with her friends before bathtime, and sleep.
Maybe you can assign some tasks to hubby for when he gets home? Any help is good - so even if he can clean up the kitchen when he gets home, or pack lunch for your son for the next day. That way, while you're with your son after school, your time is dedicated to him.
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| Posted 7/25/07 7:47 AM |
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pugmama
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
Sydney runs from the car to the backyard to play as soon as we get home. I let her stay out for maybe 20 minutes and then I have to bring her in so I can dinner ready and get stuff done. She cries, but if I give her something to eat or drink while I am cooking she usally calms down.
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| Posted 7/25/07 10:11 AM |
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
My dh will go outside with the kids and play ball as I cook dinner.
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| Posted 7/25/07 10:17 AM |
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curley999
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Re: Question for Working Moms of older kids
When we get home usually around 5:30-6:00 we always go inside first to change and unwind. Typically I will let her play in the backyard while we BBQ. After dinner usually about 7 we go for a walk out front and she 'plays' with some of the other kids who are usually a little older for an hour or so. Some days seem easier then others to balance it all!
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| Posted 7/25/07 10:34 AM |
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