Reassure me!-UPDATE

So, I took off work today. I have been feeing horrible for the past couple of days and have just been in constant pain. My wrist is killing me, my fingers are numb, I can't even sit at my desk because my back hurts so badly, my ankles have started swelling and after my bus rides into and out of the city everyday I have been having some serious AF feeling cramps.

DH has wanted me to stop working for the past couple of weeks b/c I have just been in so much physical pain. I am due one month from today, so I have enough time so that I COULD take off til my due date and then go on STD.

I just have it so ingrained in me that I HAVE to go to work, that I am "bad" if I don't! I know that this is the time to take time if I need it, that Christopher and I are more important than going to work, I just am nuts, I guess.

Help remind me that I am doing the right thing

UPDATE: So, I am not going back at all. I think if I even thought about it, DH would be filing divorce papers and my mom would be trying to have be committed

I just came from the doctor. I am 1 cm dilated, and as we all know, that could mean nothing or it could mean everything. My doctor recommended staying home and using my sick and vaction time (which is about 3 weeks worth) and then filing for disability after that, she thinks my cramping is probably due to exhaustion. She also said I may have a UTI and when I asked "Why?" she said "Because your body pretty much hates you right now"

So, now I just need to tell my boss, that should be fun

Message edited 4/3/2007 2:28:38 PM.

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Honestly, I have 10-12 wks to go and I am feeling so much pressure and wake up at night with some AF type pain, I wonder how long I will last.

Walking is really not good for me. It brings so much pain. I am all belly and this is getting rather difficult.

If you can, take off! Don't feel guilty!

I know I push myself also but I have told DH I would work as far as I can until this is too demanding. You have give myself a break and rest. That will do you no good to go in labor too early.

Maybe take a few days off to rest. By rest.. I mean, feet up!!

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You need to do what is best for you and DH and no one else (meaning work) You will make the right decision - if you feel stopping is the right thing than I say go for it.

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You have to take care of you and the baby first. If that means you don't work, then you don't work! They can handle things without you there - no reason to sacrifice your own health for a job!!

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Do what you feel is best for you...or maybe just take a few days off to really rest--sleep in, lounge around, and keep your feet up. Sometimes a few days can work miracles!!! I hope you are starting to feel better soon!!!

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Can you work from home? That is my saving grace. I could take time off but would rather use it after the baby comes.

I only commute 1 day a week now and work at home the other 4 days.

See if your boss will accomodate that.

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Do what is best for you. I am working full time until the end of May and then part-time starting beginning of June. I am not going to kill myself with working. Its not time to be superwoman. If you need the rest just stop working.

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Why even Go back Kate?

This is nuts. You dont want him coming too early, so you need to relax and as soon as you do, you know at least some of the pain is going to go away from simply not having to do the whole commuting lifestyle.

STOP thinking about them. They dont treat you well anyway there, so why the loyalty. Take DH;'s advice. STAY HOME ( and keep me company...LOL LOL)!

Re: Reassure me!-UPDATE

BUMP for update

Donna, you officially have company!!

And I think I want to start a website called www.yourbodyjusthatesyou.com

Message edited 4/3/2007 2:38:40 PM.

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You're doing the right thing sweetie! Stay home, rest and take care of yourself and that little boy!

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You made the right decision....feel GOOD about that!!

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Posted by KateDevine

BUMP for update

Donna, you officially have company!!

And I think I want to start a website called www.yourbodyjusthatesyou.com

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You really are doing the right thing

Re: Reassure me!-UPDATE

Posted by KateDevine

So, I took off work today. I have been feeing horrible for the past couple of days and have just been in constant pain. My wrist is killing me, my fingers are numb, I can't even sit at my desk because my back hurts so badly, my ankles have started swelling and after my bus rides into and out of the city everyday I have been having some serious AF feeling cramps.

DH has wanted me to stop working for the past couple of weeks b/c I have just been in so much physical pain. I am due one month from today, so I have enough time so that I COULD take off til my due date and then go on STD.

I just have it so ingrained in me that I HAVE to go to work, that I am "bad" if I don't! I know that this is the time to take time if I need it, that Christopher and I are more important than going to work, I just am nuts, I guess.

Help remind me that I am doing the right thing

UPDATE: So, I am not going back at all. I think if I even thought about it, DH would be filing divorce papers and my mom would be trying to have be committed

I just came from the doctor. I am 1 cm dilated, and as we all know, that could mean nothing or it could mean everything. My doctor recommended staying home and using my sick and vaction time (which is about 3 weeks worth) and then filing for disability after that, she thinks my cramping is probably due to exhaustion. She also said I may have a UTI and when I asked "Why?" she said "Because your body pretty much hates you right now"

So, now I just need to tell my boss, that should be fun

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YEAHHHHHHHHHHH to your decision!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!