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First off, congratulations to everyone and best of luck.

Second, was anyone newly married, but TTC and scared to death of how their job will react when they found out? How did you/are you dealing with this? I know family comes first, but I feel that there will be so much tension because I'm newly married and fairly young (27, but young to them) and they they will not have expected to hear any sort of announcement for another few years...
Any advice would be helpful, thanks!

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I am kindof in the same boat as you are. I just got married this year, and I know that we will begin trying on our 1 year anniversary I am same age as you (25) and most people just assumed that I will wait till 30. I have coworkers coming up to me telling me that they are happy that they KNOW I have full 5 years with them before they have to worry about replacing me for when I leave on maternity leave - We have capability to leave for 6mnths.

Honestly, I don't let it get to me. I don't say anything and just smile and nod. When time comes, I will let them know and they will have to deal with it. I know that the LAW is on my side and that when time comes they will undersa Also, when I got engaged my manager told me not to wait too long to have kids because it may never happen (she can't right now) and that I should do it as soon as I can; so I think though she would be upset she'd understand

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Thanks for the input! We just got married a few months ago and are thinking of trying next month. I just feel like life is too short and we both want a family, so why not do it now at 27 and 30?

I think most employers are selfish in that sense, but they will have to get over it! My bosses wives don't work, so they can't understand the need to do both. I am also a little nervous because if we do get pregnant, and have a baby, I may want to work part-time, or 75% and am not sure if they will work with me, but again...it all works itself out I guess!

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I got married last September and got PG in November. I am due in 8-16-05. As far as work went I had to leave early because of a few complications. When I first found out that I was PG work didn't have a problem with my age or the fact that it was so soon after the wedding it was my MIL who thought we were rushing. I am 24 and DH is 25. I wanted my family young and to us that is all that mattered. As far as work if they don't understand where you are coming from maybe it is time to find another place to work after the baby is born. A lot of girls here have said that they have had problem with where they work in regards to their PG, some people don't understand how important a family really is. Best of luck.

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I was in the same position. I am 24 and got married in February. We new that we wanted to have kids soon and it happened right away. First of all everyone at work kept telling me how young I was when I got married. So you know how they reacted when they found out I was PG. They took it really well tho, some people still think that it was an accident and not planned and make comments every once in a while. I knew I would get this because I am young compared to everyone else there who is having kids (in their 30's).

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Thanks for all of the advice. DH got upset that that would be a dedicing factor, how my job will treat me. I guess I'm moving up in my career, and that is great, but once we have a baby I wouldn't be as big as a go getter, and may want to work less than 40 hours a week and all of that scared me. Best of luck to everyone!

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Thanks for all of the advice. DH got upset that that would be a dedicing factor, how my job will treat me. I guess I'm moving up in my career, and that is great, but once we have a baby I wouldn't be as big as a go getter, and may want to work less than 40 hours a week and all of that scared me. Best of luck to everyone!