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DebG
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
The man did not need to speak to you like that. You were trying to quiet him down and I am sure you were more distressed about the situation than anyone else.
People are increasingly judemental and decreasingly compassionate.. It's just so sad. Things like this happen, I know it is going to bug you but make a deal with yourself that you won't let it hang over your head for more than 24 hours.
This is the deal I made with myself earlier this week when I locked my child in the car. I was beating myself up and couldn't get it off my mind. I made myself the above deal and now I feel like its been lifted off me.
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Karebaby
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
I would have lipped out if someone said that about my kid, no matter if they were being a bit noisy. When you go out to a restaurant, you have to expect that there are going to be people with children, and that children are sometimes loud.
Do not feel bad, I think that a-hole that said that was in the wrong.
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| Posted 10/19/07 1:27 AM |
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MrsBumbleb
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| Posted 10/19/07 4:42 AM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
I am so sorry that happened to you. We actually had the opposite. We were seated near a table of adults on Tuesday night that were so loud we couldn't have a conversation at our own table. But I would never think to do that to them. For whatever reason when people see children they think they also have a license to say whatever they want/parent and it's not right.
Don't give up though. My daughter was difficult in restaurants but we kept plugging away. We would go at off times or out of the way places until we were comfortable with her behavior in a restaurant. I am sure if your son has sensory issues a loud restaurant could also be very overstimulating for him. Keep trying and don't let one idiot keep you from eating out again.
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| Posted 10/19/07 5:20 AM |
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
I would have told that man, "Yes, my child might be loud, but I am going to raise him to have better manners than YOU. YOUR mother must be ashamed that she raised such a rude son..."
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| Posted 10/19/07 6:04 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
OMG that is disgusting behavior for an adult. Stay home if you don't want other people to bother you. I am so sorry that happened. How awful.
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| Posted 10/19/07 6:36 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
That guy was a total a$$hole...I would have flipped on him, what a jerk
sorry you had to go through that
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| Posted 10/19/07 6:37 AM |
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purplegirl
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
That man was incredibly rude and insensitive. Sure, a screaming child is interruptive during dinner, but there's no need to react like that.
I work with children with sensory issues (and then some) and I know how hard it is for the parents to take their children out in public. My heart goes out to you. Don't let this discourage you from going out again. It is healthy for both you and your DC to live as normal a life as possible. People only respond like that because of ignorance... you are not doing anything wrong
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| Posted 10/19/07 7:07 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Honestly - don't give it a second thought.
As you said you made every effort to quiet him down & it didn't work. Sometimes every trick in the book doesn't work. I've walked my kid outside for almost the entire time while waiting for food. Sit down, ate & then DH walked him around outside while I finished up. You did what you could & it doesn't always work -sometimes it doesn't even work on a 6 year old.
You weren't eating in a quiet, romantic restaurant. You were in a pizza place. A place entirely appropriate for children.
This isn't a issue over your child or sensory issues. It's an issue of someone else being a complete @sshole.
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| Posted 10/19/07 7:29 AM |
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That man's behavior and that of the people who clapped was a lot worse than your son's. He's a child, they are adults and should have acted like it. It's one thing to be annoyed, but to say something like that is mean.
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| Posted 10/19/07 7:29 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
That's just horrible, it really is. I don't know what exactly is going on with your son, but I"ll tell you this - what you describe is perfectly NORMAL toddler behavior. Alex ALWAYS starts screaming and singing and playing and kicking and (you get the point) whenever we go out to eat.
If I were at a fancy restaurant, I'd remove her immediately and wait outside until everyone has finished, and I've certainly done that before.
BUT YOU WERE AT A PIZZA PLACE!!! By it's nature it is a family restaurant - that guy was completely out of place for yelling like that, particularly because he cursed in front of everyone
I would be more embarassed for him than you - don't feel bad at all
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| Posted 10/19/07 7:47 AM |
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MrsR
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Wow - I would have lost it (did you see my post about my trip to cali?)
I don't know who people think they are. They should know better...I am so sorry they made you feel this way. Please know they are in the wrong - not you...
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| Posted 10/19/07 7:54 AM |
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stayandjohn
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Wow, thats one miserable a-hole. I guess he never had a child, or his kids didnt develop vocal chords until they were 10.
Dont let a group of judgemental morons upset you.
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| Posted 10/19/07 7:59 AM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Posted by lvdolphins
Do NOT be hard on yourself. That guy was extremely rude as well as the table next to him.
There needs to be more understanding people in this world.
I am so sorry that happened.
ETA: YOU should not have left, the moron that yelled should have been asked to leave!
ITA
It was a loud FAMILY restaurant what did this guy expect?
And to spew the F-bomb clear across a restaurant, any public place and especially where there are children is absolutely UNACCEPTABLE
If people were that irritated, they should have calmly spoken to the waitress/hostess and they in turn speak to you.
It's not like a life or death situation occurred, no excuse for cursing across a public place.
You are entitled to be there just as much as he. Your son has to get accustomed to such places and how else do people think you are going to do that.
What ever happened to giving people the benefit of the doubt? It's not like you were ignoring an undisciplined child, you are really trying.
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GenLCSW
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Diane
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Posted by nymommy2be
i think that they guy was totally inappropriate and the clapping even worse. I woud never go back to that place. People are miserable!
I agree....what he said was WAY OUT OF LINE!!!!!
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| Posted 10/19/07 8:57 AM |
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Faithx2
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2PreciousBlessings
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kimmie
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Crabby guy screw him you are entitled to go out- was it a fancy rest?
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| Posted 10/19/07 9:01 AM |
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nylisa
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
We have had something like that happen to us when we go to Applebee's. DS is 14 months old and likes to talk and everytime we go we get nasty looks from other people around us because they think that DS is making to much noise. We always stay because DH says that if it is a kid friendly restaurant than they have to understand that children are going to make noise.
DH would of gone crazy if he heard someone say that about DS.
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| Posted 10/19/07 9:07 AM |
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Laura1
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
 I am so sorry that happened to you
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| Posted 10/19/07 9:08 AM |
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Colie
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
so sorry to hear that. but i think i would have definitely said something to him becuase it was my child. i also understand that you felt bad by the whole situation and just wanted out.
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| Posted 10/19/07 9:57 AM |
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littlejoy06
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Posted by KateDevine
I think it is horrible for that guy to say that and for people to CLAP! OMG! I would have flipped a tit and I am normally calm in those situations!
I am sure you were in a family type restaurant and freakin people need to know that means FAMILIES will be there.
I am sorry that happened to your family Do NOT feel bad at all!
ITA!!
If my DH was there, he would have FREAKED out on the guy who said that. Obviously they don't have children and don't realize that the parents need to go out once in a while too. What ***hole!!!!
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| Posted 10/19/07 10:06 AM |
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JennasMom
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Re: Restaurant Incident tonight
Posted by -DonnaMarie-
As a fellow patron I would have been more offended by Mr. Loudmouth Showoff's choice of words than a 2 yo being a 2 yo.
No class!
I don't think I would have been able to keep my mouth shut!
OMG I totally agree with that, what a piece of sh!t that man was. I'm sorry he made you feel that way, people are morons
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