Sad with no reason

Hi girls -

We are not TTC, but 2 freinds jst announced their pregnancies this week.

I completely have the baby bug, and DH is wearing heavy-duty baby-bug repellant.

We have decided to wait another year or two, but lately I find myself wanting to start a family sooner than that. We ar ethe only child-less, not pregnant couple in our group of friends, and I'm just getting a little blue.

I don't know what the real point of this post is, but I had to get it out somewhere. If I bring this up to DH, I know that he will go into his "mode" and think that I am trying to pressure him into something that he is completely not ready for right now.

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I can only imagine how you feel. Over the years I have had many pregnant coworkers and I was longing for another baby. DH was concentrating on our bills. I had this yearning deep inside-still do and sometimes we'd be around a pregnant friend and I would get quiet. I never told him what was wrong-it was just eating me up inside. That has changed now but I do understand how you feel.

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I posponed for a year, because of my school, and it was hard. But.. time flies by, and before you know it you and DH will be ready.

For now, you can start to do research and do some prep work - to make you feel that you are doing something. That is what helped me.

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i understand how you feel too. DH and i are together 5 years. when we me he said he didn't think he ever wanted kids. He knew I did which is why i think he took a while proposing. Before that, when he spoke of marriage, I made it clear that was something i would never compromise on. He said he wanted me and everything that came with me. Now he admits he wants a family but he drags his feet on the "actively" trying. too much pressure for men. Its ok to be sad sometimes. When it happens you'll both be happy and better for it. Most of my friends and family are married and have kids - many are younger than we are too but you need to do what's right for the two of you.

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So sorry Vanessa!

My friend just told me that she is pg and I am extremely happy and excited for her. I just wish it was me too.

My dh wanted to wait and I just let it be, now he is talking about ttc more than me. In your situation it may happen sooner than you think. Your dh may change his mind and not want to wait a year or two.

Hang in there!!!

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Thanks for all the kind words - I just have to be happy for my friends and know that it WILL be us someday - when we are both ready. (even though it's killing me)

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And for me too, even with the wedding, the looking forward to something can be just as fun as the actual event. I miss the anticipation of the wedding day. I know it doesn't completely help or anything but just enjoy the fun of imagining and daydreaming and that when you and DH are both ready it will be so worth the wait to have him 100% into it.

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It's hard to want something when you know it's not going to happen ... at least not at the moment for you, but your time will come.
We've been TTC for 2 years and everyone and their neighbor has been pregnant and had their baby. I had a chemical pregnancy this week and on Monday we found out that another couple that we hang out with is pregnant. They are married much less than us and got pregnant on their first try. GRRRRRRRR!!!!!! I am truly happy for them, but why the heck can't it happen for us.
So I totally get the wanting a baby.
Hopefully he'll come around soon.

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Your time will come - dont compare or measure yourself against others.