SAHM....

Do you ever feel like the responsibilities are not equally shared?
I was so annoyed yesterday, because he wanted to go to his Grandparents house at the beach with all the IL's The morning started because I had to take Jord to the Dr last minute and I only had 20 min. to get the kids ready....So I ran around getting me and the kids ready and fed while my DH just sat there holding the baby for part of the time....I took both kids to the Dr. (a 45 min. drive) and my DH said he'd meet us at his grandparents.... I then took the kids to the grocery store (Jord had to have something for school) and then I went home, got the kids lunch and packed up for the beach (sunblocked, changed, packed bathing suits, toys etc) and finally got out the beach, to find out that he had taken a nap and went out in the boat while I was running around like a madwoman The rest of the day I watched the kids, while he went clamming, played around with his cousins car etc the only time he sat with me, was while the kids were napping!.... then we didn't get home after dinner, so I had to get laundry done, get stuff tidied up, get both kids to bed....I turn around and he's in bed asleep saying he doesn't feel well!!! Are you kidding me! Now he's mad because I was pissy when we got home and I told him that I didn't want to talk about it !
Sorry for the long vent
I just feel like he's at work all day, but I am home with the kids and I don't get to do anything on my own... Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and I wouldn't want to be anything but a SAHM mom with them, but I don't get any help with cooking, cleaning, laundry...nothing! He thinks if he takes Mal while I go to the bathroom it's a help! I've tried telling him, it just doesn't change, he tells me I need to ask for help I shouldn't have to ASK!!!!
I guess I just feel a little trapped sometimes and I needed to vent....sorry!

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I totally understand where your coming from I work a full time job come home and cook dinner and then take care of the marissa even though FH does take care of her during the day and works at nite from Monday to Thursday and everyother sunday. Its on the weekends is when I need help. I mean yes I do straighten up the house after marissa goes to sleep but I can't do much cuz I would liek to get to bed at a decent time. Usually on fridays I try to get everything done so I have the weekend to do other things but once I get home I cook then I start to clean and marissa is following me everywhere and fussing cuz I am not paying attention to her yes I know he was with her all day but please help out straighten up a bit and do something. Also When we go out someplace as a family he gets to sit and hang out and do whatever he wants and I am the one chasing after marissa and dealing with her I am like you I love my daughter and wouldn't change a thing but come on us ladies need some help as well.

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I haven't had Dh home in almost in two months to help and family is out of town so believe me I can relate.

The church's here do a "mom's day out" I haven't signed up yet but they will take your child in a 1/2 day daycare twice a week either mornings or afternoons so you can get your time to treat yourself or sleep. Maybe there is a church up by you. The methodist and lutheran churchs here do it.

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I get the same thing and our child is not even here yet. WE agreed that we'd share chores and stuff....so on HIS days off, I find myself running after the puppy to take him out. I ALWAYS need to remind him to put his dishes in the dishwasher, he needs to TELL me he's running low on underwear or undershirts....he just throws them in a corner!!!

But, he is working 2 jobs to make up for his paycut and when I ask, he helps, but sometimes I don't like HOW he does it (when he vacuums, he doesn't do the edges where the dog fur accumulates or the stairs), so I find myself doing it instead.


Sometimes I feel it's a never ending game.....

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Posted by JennChris

Do you ever feel like the responsibilities are not equally shared?
I was so annoyed yesterday, because he wanted to go to his Grandparents house at the beach with all the IL's The morning started because I had to take Jord to the Dr last minute and I only had 20 min. to get the kids ready....So I ran around getting me and the kids ready and fed while my DH just sat there holding the baby for part of the time....I took both kids to the Dr. (a 45 min. drive) and my DH said he'd meet us at his grandparents.... I then took the kids to the grocery store (Jord had to have something for school) and then I went home, got the kids lunch and packed up for the beach (sunblocked, changed, packed bathing suits, toys etc) and finally got out the beach, to find out that he had taken a nap and went out in the boat while I was running around like a madwoman The rest of the day I watched the kids, while he went clamming, played around with his cousins car etc the only time he sat with me, was while the kids were napping!.... then we didn't get home after dinner, so I had to get laundry done, get stuff tidied up, get both kids to bed....I turn around and he's in bed asleep saying he doesn't feel well!!! Are you kidding me! Now he's mad because I was pissy when we got home and I told him that I didn't want to talk about it !
Sorry for the long vent
I just feel like he's at work all day, but I am home with the kids and I don't get to do anything on my own... Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and I wouldn't want to be anything but a SAHM mom with them, but I don't get any help with cooking, cleaning, laundry...nothing! He thinks if he takes Mal while I go to the bathroom it's a help! I've tried telling him, it just doesn't change, he tells me I need to ask for help I shouldn't have to ASK!!!!
I guess I just feel a little trapped sometimes and I needed to vent....sorry!

Message edited 9/6/2005 10:18:54 PM.

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You should not have to ask!! HE should just do these things.

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It can be very frustrating. I think in my next life I am coming back as a man.