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sourpatchkids
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Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Just curious about people's opinions on this. Hopefully I won't have to worry about this for a LONG time, as mine are only 1 and 3. But I already find myself deflecting dumb things people say around them about Santa, or changing the subject...I'm so worried about my 3-year-old DD finding out too early about Santa. So at what age do you tell them the truth about Santa, if they ask? My parents never told me the truth, even in my 30's 
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Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I was just talking about this with my coworker. His kids are grown now but he said his DD eventually found out from kids in her class at around 7/8 yo. I can't really control what they are being told in school but I will still talk about Santa..heck I still believe lol
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| Posted 12/3/14 8:31 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
We've always told the truth to DC about Santa, but made sure they didn't tell anyone else. Around 7 or 8, it starts becoming known in school. Sometimes sooner, sometimes a little later.
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| Posted 12/3/14 8:48 AM |
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blu6385
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I don't know I figured it out by the time I was about 6yo. I recongnized my moms hand writing and asked why they were the same she told me that santa couldn't do everything so she wrote the tags out  I knew from then on and pretended to think he was real so I can get gifts  I don't think my parents ever officially told me that he wasn't real.
if DH had his way he would tell DD who is 3 now. I will let her believe in it till she really questions me on it and then from there I will probably not come out and say he isn't real but not say he is if that makes sense
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| Posted 12/3/14 8:58 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I figured it out at about 7 & told my 4 year old sister.
Right now, my 3 & 4.5 year old REALLY believe & it's beautiful!
I read the average age kids figure it out us 7 or 8.
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| Posted 12/3/14 9:17 AM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I don't think there is an age to have to tell them.
I found out around 8 when my younger sister and I found the gifts in the back of a closet. We were in denial that they were ours that day, but when we woke up Christmas morning and saw them under the tree the truth came out.
I will let them believe for as long as possible. I deflect any comments that DS hears right now about Santa Claus because he is only 4 and I don't want to ruin any of his excitement.
He truly LOVES Christmas and everything about it. He has been wearing a Santa hat since we got our tree this weekend (he's been wearing it to school as well). He loves even the smallest thing related to Christmas - last night it was the Pepperidge Farm Ginger man cookies. 
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| Posted 12/3/14 9:23 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I think they eventually will find out in school. However if they don't then I would def tell them before they hit middle school age.
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| Posted 12/3/14 9:55 AM |
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alli3131
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Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I am not there yet but I don't think there is an age. I will not go out of my way to keep up the charade of santa. DS is 3 so he believes but we don't do a big hoopla about santa. If someone what to say something in front of DS that santa wasn't real I would not go out of my way to deflect it.
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| Posted 12/3/14 10:22 AM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by GoldenRod
We've always told the truth to DC about Santa, but made sure they didn't tell anyone else. Around 7 or 8, it starts becoming known in school. Sometimes sooner, sometimes a little later.
I told the truth and somehow at 5 she still believed because her friends believed. That annoys me. We are trying again this year but already she's asked "How does Santa get in our house if we have no chimney"
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| Posted 12/3/14 10:40 AM |
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Nic1229
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Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I never believed. My father was very religious and we were told the truth from the beginning and just told not to tell other kids. I remember thinking I was like the coolest kid in kindergarten bc I knew the truth LOL.
DD is still too young, but I think I will do things the same way.
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FergieK
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Never! LOL
IDK i never had the conversation with my parents that he wasnt real, The magic was real maybe not the form in which we saw Santa since he would come to our house on the firetruck and then we would see him somewhere else looking different.
I started to not believe and my father took a polaroid pic of the tree making it look like RUdolph was running in the house by the tree (just a bunch of tree lites smeared with one bright red one) and I swear that my father on his last days still told me that was a real picture. I will always love him for that. but I wish i still had that pic.
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| Posted 12/3/14 11:21 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I'll let my kids believe as long as they want. If they make it to middle school and still don't know then I'd tell them but I doubt that would happen.
I'm just curious why some people don't want their kids believing in Santa? It seems like a harmless and magical part of childhood. Just wondering if there's something I'm missing (aside from religious reasons, which I get).
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| Posted 12/3/14 11:58 AM |
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jendar
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Im not telling them, nope lol.
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melbalalala
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I probably had my doubts when I was about 10 but I believed until I was 12!!
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BriBri2u
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by Sparrow
I'll let my kids believe as long as they want. If they make it to middle school and still don't know then I'd tell them but I doubt that would happen.
I'm just curious why some people don't want their kids believing in Santa? It seems like a harmless and magical part of childhood. Just wondering if there's something I'm missing (aside from religious reasons, which I get).
That's what I was wondering. If you celebrate Christmas isn't that part of the holiday fun? Especially with little ones...you literally see their eyes light up when they understand the entire Santa Claus part. Its by far my favorite part of the holiday, watching my DS believe.
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| Posted 12/3/14 1:25 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
I don't plan on telling them anything unless they start coming to me with doubt. As long as they believe I'm leaving it alone. By 5th grade, at the latest usually, most kids have figured it. Until then, Santa reigns in this house. 
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Hofstra26
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by Sparrow
I'll let my kids believe as long as they want. If they make it to middle school and still don't know then I'd tell them but I doubt that would happen.
I'm just curious why some people don't want their kids believing in Santa? It seems like a harmless and magical part of childhood. Just wondering if there's something I'm missing (aside from religious reasons, which I get).
That's what I was wondering. If you celebrate Christmas isn't that part of the holiday fun? Especially with little ones...you literally see their eyes light up when they understand the entire Santa Claus part. Its by far my favorite part of the holiday, watching my DS believe.
ITA!! I think them believing in Santa is the most magical part of the holiday. I can't explain it but it just makes me so happy to see the wonderment in my kids eyes and the anticipation of his arrival. It's so special, I want that to continue for as long as possible. There is nothing wrong with a little "magic" in childhood, they have the rest of their lives to not believe in anything. But Santa, aaahhh, such a special part of being a kid.
Cute story. My DD (she's 6) knows Santa hears and sees everything. One day I heard her randomly calling out things she wanted, I kept hearing "Frozen doll. Zoomer Puppy. Books." etc. I asked what she was doing and she said she was telling Santa her list and because he's always paying attention he will hear her wishes. She talks to Santa a lot out loud, it's adorable that she thinks he can hear her. The whole thing was really cute, it makes me sad to think one day she won't believe...........I will miss it when it's gone.
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maybebaby
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by Sparrow
I'll let my kids believe as long as they want. If they make it to middle school and still don't know then I'd tell them but I doubt that would happen.
I'm just curious why some people don't want their kids believing in Santa? It seems like a harmless and magical part of childhood. Just wondering if there's something I'm missing (aside from religious reasons, which I get).
That's what I was wondering. If you celebrate Christmas isn't that part of the holiday fun? Especially with little ones...you literally see their eyes light up when they understand the entire Santa Claus part. Its by far my favorite part of the holiday, watching my DS believe.
ITA!! I think them believing in Santa is the most magical part of the holiday. I can't explain it but it just makes me so happy to see the wonderment in my kids eyes and the anticipation of his arrival. It's so special, I want that to continue for as long as possible. There is nothing wrong with a little "magic" in childhood, they have the rest of their lives to not believe in anything. But Santa, aaahhh, such a special part of being a kid.
Cute story. My DD (she's 6) knows Santa hears and sees everything. One day I heard her randomly calling out things she wanted, I kept hearing "Frozen doll. Zoomer Puppy. Books." etc. I asked what she was doing and she said she was telling Santa her list and because he's always paying attention he will hear her wishes. She talks to Santa a lot out loud, it's adorable that she thinks he can hear her. The whole thing was really cute, it makes me sad to think one day she won't believe...........I will miss it when it's gone.
OMG I agree 100%!! I actually feel sad when I think of them no longer believing. It's one of the best parts of childhood!!
I had a friend say that she just never wanted to lie to her kids, so they knew he wasn't real from the start. Not gonna lie..kinda broke my heart, lol.
I was 9 when I no longer believed. And I never felt I was "lied to" by my parents. I actually handled it well, and I helped keep the magic going for my 5 younger siblings.
I will tell the truth when Johnnys asks me but for now, no reason.
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| Posted 12/3/14 2:21 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
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Posted by GoldenRod
We've always told the truth to DC about Santa, but made sure they didn't tell anyone else. Around 7 or 8, it starts becoming known in school. Sometimes sooner, sometimes a little later.
I told the truth and somehow at 5 she still believed because her friends believed. That annoys me. We are trying again this year but already she's asked "How does Santa get in our house if we have no chimney"
i'm so confused..why would this annoy you? I may have missed something..
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DaniJude
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
My parents never lied to me about Santa.
Santa was that guy - we took pics at the mall, he was part of a symbol of Christmas, like the tree and the decorations. But he's not a real person with a social security number. He's a character just like Tigger or Chip and Dale.
My gifts were always "To: Danielle - Merry Christmas! Love, Mom & Dad"
I knew my father was the one who worked to earn the money to buy me that jacket, or toy, or whatever.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by DaniRella
My parents never lied to me about Santa.
Santa was that guy - we took pics at the mall, he was part of a symbol of Christmas, like the tree and the decorations. But he's not a real person with a social security number. He's a character just like Tigger or Chip and Dale.
My gifts were always "To: Danielle - Merry Christmas! Love, Mom & Dad"
I knew my father was the one who worked to earn the money to buy me that jacket, or toy, or whatever.
Not directed at just you and NOT to be snarky AT ALL but I don't understand the sentiment of "my parents didn't lie to me/I don't lie to my kids". I just don't consider having your kids believe in something magical a lie, childhood is all about imagination and wonder. Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc. are all part of that.
As for who buys the gifts, one day when my kids no longer believe they will know full well it was us who bought all those things for them for years, we'll get our credit..............just delayed.
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DaniJude
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Xelindrya
Posted by GoldenRod
We've always told the truth to DC about Santa, but made sure they didn't tell anyone else. Around 7 or 8, it starts becoming known in school. Sometimes sooner, sometimes a little later.
I told the truth and somehow at 5 she still believed because her friends believed. That annoys me. We are trying again this year but already she's asked "How does Santa get in our house if we have no chimney"
i'm so confused..why would this annoy you? I may have missed something..
I'm not answering for her b/c I have no idea ---- but I'm THINKING they are annoyed bc they are going out of their way to be honest and truthful with their child bc they don't want to lie or be dishonest and people elsewhere are sending mixed messages and it's confusing for said child.
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by Sparrow
I'll let my kids believe as long as they want. If they make it to middle school and still don't know then I'd tell them but I doubt that would happen.
I'm just curious why some people don't want their kids believing in Santa? It seems like a harmless and magical part of childhood. Just wondering if there's something I'm missing (aside from religious reasons, which I get).
That's what I was wondering. If you celebrate Christmas isn't that part of the holiday fun? Especially with little ones...you literally see their eyes light up when they understand the entire Santa Claus part. Its by far my favorite part of the holiday, watching my DS believe.
ITA I don't get it either. It makes the holiday so much more fun when there are kids around who are so excited for Santa.
I probably will never tell; he can figure it out on his own. I remember feeling so disappointed when I found out.
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| Posted 12/3/14 3:03 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by DaniRella
My parents never lied to me about Santa.
Santa was that guy - we took pics at the mall, he was part of a symbol of Christmas, like the tree and the decorations. But he's not a real person with a social security number. He's a character just like Tigger or Chip and Dale.
My gifts were always "To: Danielle - Merry Christmas! Love, Mom & Dad"
I knew my father was the one who worked to earn the money to buy me that jacket, or toy, or whatever.
Not directed at just you and NOT to be snarky AT ALL but I don't understand the sentiment of "my parents didn't lie to me/I don't lie to my kids". I just don't consider having your kids believe in something magical a lie, childhood is all about imagination and wonder. Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc. are all part of that.
As for who buys the gifts, one day when my kids no longer believe they will know full well it was us who bought all those things for them for years, we'll get our credit..............just delayed.
No worries!! 
They wanted me to enjoy in all the magic -- and to know that it was in fact, magic. Not reality. Like, they would have had a problem with me being like "how does Santa come down the chimney if we don't have a chimney?" like, they'd have to be like "wellllll, with us he comes in the front door!" - they have a problem with that because that is a lie. And me and Jenn and Kenneth would have been like  cuz you know how you can TELL when someone is lying or making shit up??
Yeah, they just didn't want to have to answer pointed questions by lying. So, they just kind of told us from the beginning that Santa is that magical symbol -- or part of a symbol -- of Christmas. Along with the tree and the reindeer. They did go a lot into detail about the religious and meaningful part of it -- the whole Baby Jesus end of it.
And for them, it wasn't about credit as much as it was about work ethic and knowing the value of money and having to work to earn something -- so, that if I received an expensive jacket I REALLY wanted (for us) that was a big deal because we didn't have a lot of money. So, it was more of the idea of appreciating what it takes to get that and how hard my dad worked to give us the life we had --- because he did, he worked so hard and he and my mom killed themselves to give us so much -- oh sheesh it gets me alllllll farklempt even typing it now!!! 
SO embarrassing!!! WHO CRIES typing?! LOL!!!
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Hofstra26
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Re: Santa- At what age do you tell DC the truth?
Posted by DaniRella
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by DaniRella
My parents never lied to me about Santa.
Santa was that guy - we took pics at the mall, he was part of a symbol of Christmas, like the tree and the decorations. But he's not a real person with a social security number. He's a character just like Tigger or Chip and Dale.
My gifts were always "To: Danielle - Merry Christmas! Love, Mom & Dad"
I knew my father was the one who worked to earn the money to buy me that jacket, or toy, or whatever.
Not directed at just you and NOT to be snarky AT ALL but I don't understand the sentiment of "my parents didn't lie to me/I don't lie to my kids". I just don't consider having your kids believe in something magical a lie, childhood is all about imagination and wonder. Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc. are all part of that.
As for who buys the gifts, one day when my kids no longer believe they will know full well it was us who bought all those things for them for years, we'll get our credit..............just delayed.
No worries!!
They wanted me to enjoy in all the magic -- and to know that it was in fact, magic. Not reality. Like, they would have had a problem with me being like "how does Santa come down the chimney if we don't have a chimney?" like, they'd have to be like "wellllll, with us he comes in the front door!" - they have a problem with that because that is a lie. And me and Jenn and Kenneth would have been like cuz you know how you can TELL when someone is lying or making shit up??
Yeah, they just didn't want to have to answer pointed questions by lying. So, they just kind of told us from the beginning that Santa is that magical symbol -- or part of a symbol -- of Christmas. Along with the tree and the reindeer. They did go a lot into detail about the religious and meaningful part of it -- the whole Baby Jesus end of it.
And for them, it wasn't about credit as much as it was about work ethic and knowing the value of money and having to work to earn something -- so, that if I received an expensive jacket I REALLY wanted (for us) that was a big deal because we didn't have a lot of money. So, it was more of the idea of appreciating what it takes to get that and how hard my dad worked to give us the life we had --- because he did, he worked so hard and he and my mom killed themselves to give us so much -- oh sheesh it gets me alllllll farklempt even typing it now!!!
SO embarrassing!!! WHO CRIES typing?! LOL!!!
I understand. Thanks for explaining. I can see both sides of it. I appreciate you sharing.
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