Scheduling c-section date and need advice on situation

How soon or how late can you schedule your c-section date if my due date is 6/26.
Here's the situation. My DS, neice and nephew were all born in June. I would prefer for each kid to have their own birthday weekend. I really don't care if my kids had to share a birthday weekend but my SIL will. She planned her daughter's birthday party a week early to avoid the birth of my son. However, DS was born 2 weeks early. My MIL wanted to be there for each of her grandchild. Right after DS was born she caught a bus to go to NJ but was 1 day late for my neices birthday party and caught **** from my SIL. So... the date has to be perfect otherwise I will have to deal with this year after year and I will never hear the end of it from my SIL.
DS was born 6/10, neice 6/16, nephew 6/26, my edd is 6/26. If I have it the first week of June that would make DS a preemie so that is out of the question! If I schedule it for 6/21 can each kid have their own weekend in terms of birthday parties? I cannot do 2 parties in one weekend if it involves driving 6 hours round trip to NJ.

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maybe its just me...but i think its up to your doctor and your babys health at that time. gl with your decision

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i am really apalled at your SIL reaction, and sorry she is putting pressure on you (directly or indirectly) to schedule your c-section for the convenience of birthday parties. IMO, that is a completely absurd.

i would rely on the wisdom and knowledge of my OB when scheduling my c-section and nothing else. too bad for her if she cant see the bigger picture.

good luck with your decision.

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Sorry, you even have to deal with a crazy SIL like that! I would do whatever the doctor says as others have stated.

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I agree with all the other posters-- but to actually answer your question, I believe most c's are scheduled a week before due date, so that would put you at about 6/19.

While I think your SIL is being absolutely ridiculous, I can understand on *some* level-- my EDD is 2/6 and my DD's birthday is 2/3. I never even thought about them having their own birthday weekends, I just would prefer them to have their own birthdays, so they each have their own special day to themselves.

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Most hospitals won't allow a doctor to schedule a c-section until 39 weeks. If you go into labor, develop a complication such as preeclampsia, or your water breaks they can do the csection early. Fyi with my youngest I didn't make it to my schedule csection date DD came at 36 weeks(after going into labor)..

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There are 5 september birthdays in my family. Me and my 2 siblings and my dd and my niece. The kids are the only ones that matter. My dd and niece are a week apart. My sister took the first weekend for my niece's party and we had dd's the next. No big deal. Also when my c/s was "scheduled" I got a call from my ob's offoce with the date. No dicussion whatsoever.

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tell your SIL to shove it. You can't 100% pick the date. The hospitals usually will not schedule a c section before 39 weeks unless there is a medical reason.

I would not even entertain the idea of scheduling it for any other reason than what is best for your health and the babies health

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The hospital I am delivering at only allows you schedule a csection 1 week prior to due date. My water broke 15 days early with dd and my ob said they still only do one week before. If my water breaks before my date again they will just have me come in than and do my c-sec. I really don't think you can do that much planning when the baby is ready he/she will arrive. You probally won't get a huge choice in dates.

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I think it's silly that you are stressing over this. Your SIL needs to chill out. If worse comes to worse, you alternate weekends every year. It's really not a big deal!

DH's cousins (a brother and sister) have 4 kids between the 2 of them with the same exact birthday. They celebrated together for a while. No big deal.

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I would tell my SIL to shove it and grow up. Sorry

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When I mentioned this to my OB she said she'd work with me on the dates. I thought I would have a say in this but I guess not.
I am also doing this for my MIL's sake. I don't want her to have to be in 2 states in one weekend. And if she has to choose 1 grandchild over another it would just kill her. We usually drive her to see our neice but after the birth of my DC it would not happen that often. She can take the bus to Atlantic City and my BIL would pick her up from there but we don't feel comfortable with her taking the bus. Casino bus drivers don't have the best driving reputation if you know what I mean.

I want to thank everyone for their advice. Needless to say, my relationship with my SIL is not so good. I don't want to make it worst because my SIL has the ability to take her daughter away from my MIL and MIL will never see her granddaughter again. DH is also upset that he is not that close with his brother anymore. I guess my DS and DC will share a birthday. Or I can do it with my nephew, my other SIL wouldn't mind.

Edit for grammar.

Message edited 12/14/2011 9:04:57 AM.

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This will be my 3rd C-section...and I didnt have a say on any of the dates! The dr and the hospital (based on availability) picks it for you and that is what it is!

They are getting tougher and tougher too with the laws that they are not really allowed to schedule it more than a week before your due date, unless it is medically necessary!

So there is really not too much wiggle room!

AND - both my kids went before the scheduled date...so you may have your baby decide it's birthday! I wouldn't stress over it..and let the baby or the drs decide the birthday for you!